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Printableminneapolisgenius said: Fauxie said: Indeed. With the background Phil gave us it's really rather sweet. Death isn't easy. It's heartbreaking when it's those around us, and frightening for many of us when we consider our own passing, but put in this kind of context it gives a better perspective that I think brings reassurance and an optimism that I for one found very touching. It's a reminder to think about individuals and how they lived, as I'm sure most of us would like to be considered upon passing away. We may die, but oh how we lived! If people, somebody, anybody was touched by our being alive, it's ok. It has to happen and it's great to be missed and then remembered for how we were. It is very sweet actually. I often wonder if this is how it will be for me and my husband whenever the time comes. People always say things like, "I can't live without you" and it sounds so cliche, but for some people it's true: they really can't live without their life-long love. Maybe not "can't", but just don't want to. It's frightening. Is it love? Dependence? Fear? You, like I, have surely at one time or another for at least a brief passing moment considered what it would be like, not thinking about when you're old and grey but instead happening way too soon, for your partner to die. It makes me sick to my stomach, I feel scared and I push the thought away feeling consumed with sadness and eager to think of anything else. I truly believe it's a measure of spirituality in a person that can confront this, learn to accept it, feel at ease with it and cherish every moment with a person knowing they're so glad to be with this somebody for however long. I put those scared feelings of mine down to absolute love, but I'd still like to be able to look upon death (my own and hers) without as much fear and with a greater sense of gladness for the here and now I'm privileged to have. Still I understand how when one passes away the other can lose so much of themselves that they feel their time here is done too. It's all bittersweet, for sure. . [Edited 7/24/07 7:50am] | |
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mdiver said: It is done.
We laid him to rest this morning 
I went to the pub near his house on the way home.....had a Woods navy rum and left him a double behind the bar....just in case he pops in on his way home. Sweet dreams brother   With a very special thank you to Tina: Is hammer already absolute, how much some people verändern...ICH hope is never so I will be! And if, then I hope that I would then have wen in my environment who joins me in the A.... | |
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