So I found this guy on the evil entity that is MySpace who I briefly dated and I was thinking of dropping him a line to see how he's been.

We left off on good terms and we always got along really well and I would be lying if I wasn't kinda, maybe, sorta, a little bit hoping to spark something up again.

He's really cute.

And well mannered.

And well dressed.

And sexy.

And his uncle knows Sheila E.

I know I should get my hopes way up there...

Anyways...has anyone else done this? Yay or nay?

this has always been a bad idea in my experience. unless you're just doing it for some nostalgic nookie, if you dropped it at the curb you should leave it at the curb.

omg, the salsa guy?

With the cat?

Anxiety said:

even though his uncle knows sheila E?

I know what you mean, though...it didn't quite work the first time so why would it work the second.

2the9s said:

no, not the salsa guy. He was,like 16 years older than me.

This was someone I met at vet school.

Not the harlot bedding drunkard...another guy who actually has class. He was in his last two semesters when I was in my first two.

JasmineFire said:

at worst, the old problems will resurface. at best, it would be like watching a re-run of a soap opera or something. you know how it's gonna turn out and you were just sitting through it to get to the good parts the first time around. don't bore yourself!

Anxiety said:

yeah..and memories are always much better than reality.

I have never done this but it is because usually when I am no longer with the person that means I am done with them- totally done.
I have never wanted to go back and be with someone I was already with.
But in saying that I learn to never say never- I have seen ppl do it and they are happy again.

Oh damn..I take that back..I did go back once. Let's just say it did not work out.
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shanti0608 said:

i'm really really REALLY happy with where i am and the person i'm with now. looking back doesn't cross my mind, other than to learn from old mistakes.

Anxiety said:

Anxiety said:

that's so awesome to read.

As we speak.....

Anxiety said:

Me too !!!!
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pardonme4livin said:

how's it going?

Imago said:

some of those old mistakes were real doozies, lemme tellya.

JasmineFire said:

Not well..... she's a little bit hostile at the moment.... I think it's because she's a tart



I'll let ya know...

pardonme4livin said:

hostile? so i guess you guys didn't end on the best of terms...

good luck.

I do it all the time.

It's fun.

JustErin said:

Anxiety said:

Oh I am with you on that one- the important part is that we recognize ans learn from them.

When I am done- I am done...I move on to bigger and better things. No need to rehash the past.

shanti0608 said:

i used to try to stay friends with my exes and for a while i did kinda okay with that...but these days, i feel the same way you do. except for a couple of people i've dated who have since morphed into friends, i really have no desire to look up old flames. and the friends who are ex-exes probably should have stayed friends in the first place, but oh well. stupid cupid.

shanti0608 said:

but what if that person from your past wasn't so bad to begin with? what if they weren't a mistake?

Things end for any number of reasons, not all of them are bad.

I'm not saying this really applies to my situation but sometimes it seems like relationships end for whatever reason and then people get back together and it's better than the first time around.

Anxiety said:

I know that one all too well....
I won't do that again

JasmineFire said:

Ok I can see it happening and it working out for some ppl. I just haven't been that into someone after it is over to rehash anything- except one time I did go back but for the wrong reasons.

JasmineFire said:

well, i think some relationships are fluid and go through peaks and valleys, but i also think we have the ability to know when OVER is OVER. and that doesn't mean that all contact with an ex should cease, but it also doesn't mean that there's any obligation to maintain a friendship with them unless it just feels comfortable at some point.

Anxiety said:

True.. I thought that my ex-husband and I were going to remain friends since we were just living as roommates the last few years anyways but it turns out we are not going to be able to do that now that everything is said and done.
Which is fine- I still wish him all of the happiness in the world- we had our time- it did not work out and now that I really look back and analyze the relationship- he never was a very good friend to me. Part of the reason it fell apart. So we are better off parting ways and moving on without contact. Being around only takes me back to how I used to feel and that is not a good feeling. I am sure seeing me does the same.
So- after one more visit together to sort one last thing- he will never have to see me again. I will be FAR away.

shanti0608 said:

Like an ocean away? That's a pretty good physical distance...

pardonme4livin said:

Heck yeah...won't have to worry about bumping into one another..though we have been living 6 miles apart for 10 months now and never bump into each other.
Thank goodness

shanti0608 said:

pardonme4livin said: