People here who have known me over the last ten years seriously must think I'm nuts.

So, a year after my "I'm In Love With A Coworker" thread, and a few months after lots of drama and a short breakup (don't have that link, sorry ), the woman asked me to marry her. We're looking for a place together.

Some things just kinda clicked for her. . .would be hard to explain here, but basically, she's a person who believes in personal growth, and is willing to do something about it, and so we've both grown into people who really want to be together and stay together.

It was precious. . .she handed me a rose, sang me a song ("One And Only", by Teitur), gave me an beautifully written card, and a gold band with pretty little diamonds and emeralds. We were at the beach (Seaside, OR) for the weekend, so we had lots of lovely walks and talks, and we're very excited. This weekend she's buying me a wood kayak to match hers (an incredible gesture, as she doesn't make much money), and we're looking at houses.

It's feeling kinda fairy-tale right now. I'm sure we'll have hard times again, but I think we can approach them with renewed faith and energy.


Thank you to all of you who have given advice and been so supportive of me. I marvel at my friendships here. A bunch of you will be getting wedding invitations, for sure (though you might have to travel to Canada, since the redneck agenda still rules in these parts . . .please don't vote Republican, thanks!).

WOW!

congrats, luv!

i'm very happy for you. soooo...around when-ish will this wedding happening, or is that on a need-to-know basis?

HereToRockYourWorld said:

Very awesome

I wish you all of the happiness in the world together.

No worries about voting Republican- even if I still lived in the states for the next election- that would NOT happen.

Much love

I am so, so happy for you, lady.


I am SO wishing you all the best.

Anxiety said:

I was gonna ask the same, cause I'm gonna have to carve it into my travels schedule.

Of course, that's awfully presumptuos (or however that's spelled) of me I know.

Congratulations to both of you, lady M! These are wonderful times

Maybe it's from previous emotion-wrenching events in my week, but your words made me cry. This is so wonderful, Melissa. I am so incredibly happy for you both, and I am sending all sorts of positive energy your way right now. It's so great to hear that this is happening for you. Suck the feelings in and never let them go. This is a sensation to remember forever, and the feelings don't ever have to fade!

Anxiety said:

We don't know.

First of all, I have to get divorced.

See, this is where the people who know me laugh, and the ones who don't go .

Martin and I are both lazy fuckers who don't care that we're married (never really have) and haven't felt like dealing with the paperwork and expense. Now I for real have to deal with it, even just for a Washington domestic partnership. We suck. I hate being a grownup.

The other thing is, we're going to have to decide whether we are going to wait around and attempt some kind of legal status in Massachusetts, or Canada, or whatever. I don't expect WA to take forever and ever to legalize gay marriage, but. . .probably a few years.

So, yeah. I'm guessing next spring or summer sometime in WA or OR, w/o legal recognition, but we'll see. I will certainly let you know.

CarrieMpls said:

Oh my gawd, it's not presumptuous at all. I'll let you know as soon as I do.

shanti0608 said:

Thank you, sweetie.

Mail in an absentee ballot.

Sounds beautiful. Congratulations.

applekisses said:

THANK you.

INSATIABLE said:

Thanks, hon.

A year later, I still have a crush on her, so if they fade, it'll be a while.

JasmineFire said:

Thanks, lady!

You know what sucks about the queer thing? There are a bunch of people I don't really feel like telling, because as INCREDIBLY supportive as they are, I don't think they'll see it as "real".

My family. . .my two best friends. . . they don't know about it yet.

Most of my friends here are fags or hags, so I know you get it, but. . . I know the rest of 'em won't react to this like they would if I were marrying a man, and that sucks, so I don't feel like telling them.


I'm still happy, though.


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HereToRockYourWorld said:

wait..are you the dude or a chick?

HereToRockYourWorld said:

Baby, it's shit but it just IS.

I guess we should just be thankful we're not as 'misguided'. Ugh.






Oh, and uh...where's yer registry gon' be at?

oh wow. congrats!

(and i've never in my brief voting history voted republican! )

2ndRevolution said:

There is no dude involved.

INSATIABLE said:

Registry! Wow, we could register. My first "wedding" was kind of a joke, so I've never done that. Cool.

I don't know!

Congratulations

Wish you all the best and all the sex and all the love in the world.

evenstar3 said:

Thank you.

ArielB said:

Thank you!

That woman is fine as hell. She got some sexy new Lucky jeans recently that are gettin' her bonus booty.

HereToRockYourWorld said:

OH!!!! I had to read that a few times...I was like "Wait, it's a dude getting gifts from a chick, but he has to divorce a man first, but in order for him to divorce a man, he would have to be a chick..." or something...Congratulations!

HereToRockYourWorld said:

Well, give it some thought. Lotsa fags and hags will be lining up to fight over who buys what. !

2ndRevolution said:

I know, it's confusing.

Trust me, it was more confusing when I was with men. Ask anyone.

INSATIABLE said:

Hee! I love presents! So does she! We're very compatible in that way.

Thanks, chickadee.

HereToRockYourWorld said:

I'm starting to believe that men = drama.



well, drama and UTIs



Anyway, enough of my cynicism...are you going to post your registry on the org? oh yeah...and will you post pics of the wedding? This is so exciting and wonderful..best of luck to you.

JasmineFire said:

UTIs are just drama for the bladder. To round it all out.

I thought if I were ever with a woman I would probably miss men. I'm gonna have to say: not really.


Oh, and yeah, I'll post the registry () and pics.

Thanks again.
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I am so happy for you, Melissa.