Anxiety said:

living vicariously through them, trying to recapture the wildness of singularity.....

.....NAH!!! I've never quite given up the "imp" characteristic....I suffer from Peter Pan syndrome sometimes....

Monogamy is a choice

reneGade20 said:

well, i mean, there's a difference between peter pan impishness (which is fun but at the same time playful and fairly nonthreatening) and, like, sharon stone in basic instinct or glenn close in fatal attraction. that's more what i mean. i think some people are attracted to psycho types because they wish they could be more psycho themselves, or because they want to be involved in that energy...like the businessmen who go to dominatrixes and asked to be tortured...it's kind of a more safe/sane/mentally-refined version of dating a psycho, really, isn't it?

Anxiety said:

True...very true....at least the Mistress doesn't follow you home and boil your pet rabbit.....

I would definitely say that outside of onesies and twosies here and there, safe and non-threatening would describe my nutsos.....

Janfriend said:

I agree.

Sexual behaviour is whatever the individual wants it to be. If someone wants to fuck a different person every night, or wants to fuck around while in a relationship, they will. I've heard so many men justify sex with multiple partners by saying, "It's in our nature to spread our seed." And if someone wants to have sex with one person for the rest of their life, they can manage that just as easily.

Anxiety said:

Valid Asssessment.

Anxiety said:

Precisely, what you project in the universe in what you get back.

JustErin said:

You don't know the right people.

I just do not understand the thread....are yous asking if its POSSIBLE to be monogomaus??? Or asking if were SUPPOSED to be, or WHAT?

I'm lost.

But anyways.....I've always found it hard to be monogamous.

DaniDaniBoBani said:

Are u blonde?

Christaro said:

Thats funny.

I'm actually blonde, black, purple, and red, rite now.

VoicesCarry said:

I don't want 2 make matters more complicated than what they appear 2 b but some men do have a higher sex drive than other men. Now loud, thoughtless types tend to judge everyone by the same standards, but 1 really can't judge anyone unless 1 knows them and the surrounding details, past & present.

Not all people are the same.

Rightly said:

A person can have a high sex drive and still be monogamous. It's about communicating with their partner. Also, some people are just sex addicts which has nothing to do with their sex drive

Janfriend said:

people change, the buzz dims, or appears in someone else and the contract is still "holy"

Janfriend said:[quote\]. Also, some people are just sex addicts [/quote]
True. Individuals such as these tend to be alcohol/substance abusers or mental instable that are overly ruled by their loins and have no care for the health/welfare of others who they may hurt in the process to meet their needs. For individuals in this condition there is treatment centers available before its to late(divorce/STD's/etc's).
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MsLegs said:

True. Individuals such as these tend to be alcohol/substance abusers or mental instable that are overly ruled by their loins and have no care for the health/welfare of others who they may hurt in the process to meet their needs. For individuals in this condition there is treatment centers available before its to late(divorce/STD's/etc's).
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False. Some people are romantic and are only true to love.
Love is an independant entity that doesn't always have loyalty as a top priority.
I feel a deep respect for these courageous and noble hearts who sacrifice so much for love.

There will always b people who, in their ignorance can't help projecting there own fears on anyone posessing the gall to walk tall while all others seem to cower from their own shadows.

People shouldn't be so quick to make judgements.

Rightly said:

Sex isn't love. In a perfect world, people would only have sex with people they are in love with. However, many people, especially men, do not equate sex with love and completely separate the two. Sex is merely a physical thing. They're fulfilling a phyiscal desire, not an emotional one. The beautiful thing about being a human being is that you have the mental capability to choose not to bastardize it by being a filthy whore

Janfriend said:

it isn't always love, but i think it can be love.

evenstar3 said:

It is supposed to be a non-verbal expression of your love for someone, which in return, gives you physical pleasure. It wasn't meant to be purely physical with no emotional love included

Janfriend said:

i think it can be either.

Janfriend said:

Precisely. What's love got to do with it? People forget sex starts in the mind before anywhere else. And, it can be purely based on lust without any physical attachment/attraction especially in the context of a one night stand (the all purpose hit it and quit it unlike a conventional monogamous relationship)

evenstar3 said:

Well it can't be love if there is no emotional attachment. I believe it's a privilege with the person you are emotionally in love with beforehand, not a right
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Janfriend said:

yeah, that's what i mean. there's sex without love, and sex with love.

Janfriend said:

Well stated. The feelings associated with love evoke emotions. And, they're not to be taken lightly or played with.

MsLegs said:

Janfriend said:

Janfriend said:

Personally, I can't have sex without love. I find it too detached and inhuman. That's just me. Most other people can, and I say well done them. Sometimes I feel inadequate for not being able to do that.



Yes.
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