when was the last time a friend let you down? This week
DO you give em another chance? Often times, yes ... after all who of us is pertfect ?
Did it hurt? Yes
Was it a big thing or a small thing? It was a couple people and I guess small things
Do you then after it happens allow that to change your habits with other friends? Not with other friends though I do try to make small shifts towards the friends that let me down

mdiver said:

Friends
Jody Watley featuring Eric B. & Rakim
(Andre Cymon?Jody Watley)

Have you ever been stabbed in the back
By someone you thought was really cool
Did they steal your heart or was it money
Or was it lies they told
Strangers just disguised as your friends
Never again cause now you know

That friends will let you down
Friends wont be around
When you need them most
Where are your friend

Friends are hard to find
Friends, yours and mine
Im talkin?bout your friends

Smiles they hide behind
Never know whats on their mind
Could be true deception
Jealousy and envy reign
They never want to see you get ahead
They just hold you back

Friends will let you down
Friends wont be around
When you need them most
Where are your friend, oh, oh

Friends are hard to find
Friends, yours and mine
Im talkin?bout your friends

Friends are hard to find, so be careful
You could find an inch or mile if I pay you
But some aint that bad, but one might back stab
To get the fake tips of what one might have
Bite the hand that feeds you, leave the people who need you
For those who hold you back and mislead you
To be a needle, dont get lead on unleaded
The wrong direction, a dead ends next then
Heed the detour, lifes like a seesaw
The ups and downs, and Ill bet therell be more
Potholes and obstacles in our path, thats righteous
At times you need a hand to fight this
Way of life, straighten up, take the door to the placid
And dont you act two-faced
Cause jealousy and envy, and you still act friendly
You could find the end and pretend to be

Friends will let you down
Friends wont be around
When you need them most
Where are your friends, yeah

Friends are hard to find
Friends, yours and mine
Im talkin?bout your friends

Used to me kiss me, tell me you missed me
But now you try to glaze me, play me and diss me
Uh, wide awake, ready to break, so we argue
What happened to the kisses, and, Why, how are you?s, yours and mine
Im talkin?bout your friends

Friends will let you down
Friends wont be around
When you need them most
Where are your friends, yeah

Friends are hard to find
Friends, yours and mine

there's this one also by Whodini...

Friends
How many of us have them?
Friends
Ones we can depend on
Friends
How many of us have them?
Friends
Before we go any further, lets be
Friends*

Is a word we use everyday
Most the time we use it in the wrong way
Now you can look the word up, again and again
But the dictionary doesnt know the meaning of friends

And if you ask me, you know, I couldnt be much help
Because A friend is somebody you judge for yourself
Some are ok, and they treat you real cool
But some mistake kindness for bein a fool

We like to be with some, because they're funny
Others come around when they need some money
Some you grew up with, around the way
And you're still real close too this very day

Homeboys through the Summer, Winter, Spring and Fall
And then there's some we wish we never knew at all
And this list goes on, again and again
But these are the people that we call friends

When we first went out together, we barely knew each other
We had no intentions, on becoming lovers
But in no time at all, you became my girl
Me and you, one on one, against the world
Talkin on the telephone for hours at a time
Or else I was at your house, or you was at mine
Then came the arguements and all kinds of problems
Besides making love, we had nothing in common
It couldnt last long because it started out strong
But I guess we went about the whole thing wrong
Cause out of nowhere it just came to an end
Because we became lovers before we were friends

*Friends
How many of us have them?
Friends
Ones we can depend on
Friends
How many of us have them?
Friends
Before we go any further, let's be
Friends*

You say you and your girlfriend were so tight
You took her out with you and your guy one night
She even had a set of keys to your home
And you shared mostly everything you owned

But as she shook your hand, she stole your man
And it was done so swift, it had to be a plan
Couldn't trust her with cheese, let alone your keys
With friends like that you dont need enemies

You wonder how long it was all going on
And your still not sure if your man is gone
You say, well if she took him he was never mine
But deep inside you know thats just another lie

And now you're kinda cold to the people you meet
Cause of something that was done to you by some creep
But nevertheless, I'll say it again
That these are the people that we call friends

*Friends
How many of us have them?
Friends
Before we go any further, lets be
Friends*

*Friends
How many of us have them?
Friends
One's we can depend on
Friends
How many of us have them?
Friends
Before we go any further, lets be
Friends*

*Friends
How many of us have them?
Friends
One's we can depend on
Friends
How many of us have them?
Friends
Before we go any further, lets be
Friends

Well, If I have learned anything it is that once offended I checked out and perhaps I lost out on a lot in the process. If we checked out on family in the slightest offense where would we be? The people that are closest to me ...or where the water runs deepest... are those that I met a certain amount of adversity with. Its healthy to overcome differences.

That said: There is one i removed from my life and it was very healthy.... In the friendship I opened myself and my home up completly to them and was dealt with unkindly. There was something about me the person reacted to competively and unkindly as a result. Just a bad blend I reckon,... no need to allow it further.. I pray they are at peace with there life and there driving force these days however.

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

When was the last time a friend let you down? I asked a friend to not do something that they knew could potentially put me in a compromising position, but they did it anyway....can't hate on someone doing what they want to do, but sometimes...you just gotta wonder what some people really define as friendship...but unless something is REALLY that important to me, I don't look to my friends for anything other than friendship...


DO you give em another chance? no one is perfect....

Did it hurt? nah...pissed me off something terrible though....

Was it a big thing or a small thing? looking back, it was only as big as I made it....once I looked at it for what it was and what it truly represented, it was nothing to lose sleep over....

Do you then after it happens allow that to change your habits with other friends? if anything, it reaffirms my belief that self-reliance is the truest element in a friendship....cuz when you start depending on your friends too often, you start relying less on your own best instincts...and when we take that moment to evaluate what we thought we were let down about, 9 times out of 10 its something that we could've handled ourselves....or as I stated, nothing to lose sleep over in the first place.....

IMHO....
[Edited 6/17/07 1:02am]