I know the title sounds like some porn film,but anyway...


I just came out of a relationship and the main reason was because the girl got so clingy. She is 20 years old and frankly, Iam hoping the older women get, the more independant they are and not insist on being with me all the time.


This is not the first time a girl has annoyed me by calling all the time, asking me to see her all the time, telling me where I should go etc.....

Ugh, Iam a guy who really likes to be on his own sometimes. She claimed i was "emotionally crippled" and so I was like "yeah, by you!". Ok, so it was a dumb thing to say, but is this a thing girls grow out of in general?

Maybe I need older women? The few I have slept with were for sex only LOL, so that ain't the answer.

I've never been clingy. I enjoy my solitude at times too.

AnckSuNamun said:

Do you find some men like that? I guess clingy in a male world would be abusive perhaps? U know, I cant count the amount of times I have gotten strangers jealous (look at me, Iam hardly going to steal any girl away LOL). U know, in a nightclub, Iam talking to someone and some jerk says "hey, fuck off, thats my girl" or whatever. Tossers. That must be the most common reason why I use to get into fights. Fuck it, if they throw the first punch or whatever, I ain't backing off (though I try to avoid such situations now though)

thesexofit said:

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she is young and she doesnt understand yet about there being a balance in a relationship .. there's alot of girls like this.. they want a guy to make them feel special .. nothing wrong with that, but.. they start expecting too much from the guy and become so dependent on him.. that her only world of joy is her boyfriend.. they dont have any other hobbies .. or friends to hang with.. they just want the boyfriend... and if he has another life with friends, or hobbies.. she wont like it.. and she'll even get jealous of that.. cause to her.. she feels like her boyfriend is leaving her .. lol i didnt mean to write a book..

thesexofit said:

Clingy: desperate & lonely and Clingy :jealous are different, but both are pretty annoying.

Flowerz said:

Yeah, u got some really good points there. I have had a few relationships where there has been a balance in terms of what we are talking about, but not often. Sometimes I think I dont try hard enough, and that may stem from some insecurities of my own? Its funny as this is not the first reason I have broken up with someone.

I've found that both guys and girls need to adjust & learn.

Guys think it's okay to not call for a week or two, and girls think it's okay to not let you go (physically) for a week or two.

The older I get, the easier relationships have gotten because we each know better what the other needs/wants.

But my first relationships were pretty shocking.
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I hope these sorta things get easier as I get older LOL
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AnckSuNamun said:

Well, do men get clingy then?

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NDRU said:

Iam not too fussed if a girl dont want sex for awhile. If she is punishing me because she thinks "hes a man, he wants it 24/7, this'll show him", then she can go right ahead. Certainly when I was a teen, I wanted it 24/7, but meh, i can go without it for a week or 2.
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thesexofit said:

Anyone can be clingy. They won't won't get clingy with me though End that shit quickly.

thesexofit said:

Sounds like there is something about clingy girls that you are attracted to. On a subconcious level. just a thought

KatSkrizzle said:

Maybe. I have been out with a complete hellraiser before though. U know, party all the time, raves etc... I was into that sorta thing aswell at the time. Maybe i do attract vunarable girls? Maybe, as they see me as quite geeky, they think I'll do what they say. I use to have more of a bad boy side in me, but my image was anything but. As soon as I had glasses and acne, i could never look like a bad boy ever again LOL

thesexofit said:

AnckSuNamun said:

Yep. I was like that aswell. And am surprised at how long that relationship lasted. Man, i hate that song though. It got a remix that was in the plebby clubs quite recently.

I used to chase after guys who didn't care about me (not that I was ever clingy or anything...I mean these were guys I couldn't have a relationship with if I tried). Then I got fed up with that stupid scenario and THEN began to attract very clingy men. But honestly, I'd rather them be clingy than uninterested. So as long as they can respect my boundaries and not resent and belittle me when I tell them I'm busy, which I will, then all is good. They can kiss the ground I walk on.
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I think some clinginess is ok in a relationship, but how much clingy is too much?

Paradisekiss03 said:

Texting me telling me "are u ok today", everyday is too much. Also, if say we are meeting in an hour, her texting saying "see u in half an hour", is a bit too much.

I guess Iam maybe a bit too distant and cold and some girls are a bit too clingy and obsessive.

thesexofit said:

Maybe the level of clinginess is different to everyone.

thesexofit said:

That would irritate the hell out of me. A relationship needs a decent amount of space to thrive and grow.

heartbeatocean said:

Yeah, iam not trying to be macho, but that sorta then irritates me too

Maybe i dont like people getting too close? But, then, i do let people get close, but it does take me time to "let people in" i guess?

Paradisekiss03 said:

? Iam just wondering if younger girls are more prone to this.

How is this thread clinging to the top of the forum?

Fauxie said:

Did i ask u if u liked gary glitter?

thesexofit said:

I don't know. I've heard he's a bit clingy. No wait, gropey.

heartbeatocean said:

Interesting how you went from one extreme to the other, in terms on what guys you were attracting?

Maybe, as I look kinda strange, i attract kinda strange people?

Fauxie said:

I read imago's not here. Once he is back, his cronies will be around aswell, and thus a thread like this will maybe get one sympathy reply and thats it.

Oh, and yes, u did answer my gary question. What a fool, taking his PC in with not just porn on, but disgusting, illegal child porn. U reckon he had a my documents folder called "child porn"

thesexofit said:

Actually, to a hopeless thread Imago can often be a good thing. I should know.

And yes, I imagine he probably did. In fact, it was probably labelled 'My, that's Gary Glitter's, Child Porn'

Back to the topic, since that other thread got derailed similarly so ( ), I wouldn't really know about clingy women. I've only had one in my life, my wife, and I'd say we're mutually clingy. We spend probably far too much time in each other's company but it works ok for us.