Ex-Moderator | retina said: CarrieMpls said: PS - Other than chemical imbalance, diagnosed depression, etc. for the most part I think you can "choose" happiness. At least, you can certainly choose how to look at things.
Sure you can choose how to look at things, but doing that is part of one's pursuit of happiness which may or may not succeed. Some people seem to think that an unhappy person can just tell themselves one day that "From now on I'm going to be happy" and then it will magically turn out that way, but that's bullshit. At best, you'd be sweeping your problems under the rug which means that they would become temporarily invisible but they'd still be there. At worst, your self-deceit might make you completely delusional. Not if what caused it is still actively and repeatedly influencing your life, which is the case for a lot of people on Earth. Certainly, a life like mine I have many advantages and it is immeasurably easier for me than many in the world. And that doesn't mean we shouldn't seek to correct the injustices of the world, that we shouldn't seek to stop pain, abuse, neglect, what have you. Nor am I making light of the plight of those less fortunate than myself. But even in the most dire of circumstances you can find those who are able to rise above and be happy in their day to day lives.
You can find those who can, yes, but there are also plenty of people whose circumstances or personality types don't allow them to do that. I think it would have been great if it had all ultimately been a matter of perspective and attitude, but that's not how it is in this world. Instead of focusing on the rare examples that defy all odds and succeed in finding happiness and fool ourselves into thinking of that as living proof that it can be done for everybody no matter the circumstances, we should instead accept life in al its gory glory and focus our efforts on removing the main and most common causes for unhappiness and downright suffering. In other words, when it comes learning from reality I'd choose a common example of a life situation over an unusual success story any day since the former is the rule and the latter is the exception. What it boils down to, is you're saying happiness simply may not be achievable for some people. And I think it is. I think it can be. We'll have to agree to disagree. I don't say it to be dismissive of other's plights, nor do I think we should stop trying to solve social ills. I fully admit it is more difficult for some than others. But it IS an achievable goal for all. |
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CarrieMpls said: I fully admit it is more difficult for some than others. But it IS an achievable goal for all.
In theory, yes. In practice, often the answer is no. Unfortunately. | |
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Ex-Moderator | retina said: CarrieMpls said: I fully admit it is more difficult for some than others. But it IS an achievable goal for all.
In theory, yes. In practice, often the answer is no. Unfortunately. but if it is in theory, than it can be in practice. I can be a bit of an idealist. |
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CarrieMpls said: retina said: In theory, yes. In practice, often the answer is no. Unfortunately. but if it is in theory, than it can be in practice. I knew you'd say that, so let me clarify: I mean that under ideal circumstances everybody could find happiness, sure, so in that sense it is possible in theory. But since those circumstances never ever actually occur for an enormous number of people, the theoretic possibility is only of academic interest. | |
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Ex-Moderator | retina said: CarrieMpls said: but if it is in theory, than it can be in practice. I knew you'd say that, so let me clarify: I mean that under ideal circumstances everybody could find happiness, sure, so in that sense it is possible in theory. But since those circumstances never ever actually occur for an enormous number of people, the theoretic possibility is only of academic interest. Now we're back to disagreeing. lol. |
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retina said: CarrieMpls said: but if it is in theory, than it can be in practice. I knew you'd say that, so let me clarify: I mean that under ideal circumstances everybody could find happiness, sure, so in that sense it is possible in theory. But since those circumstances never ever actually occur for an enormous number of people, the theoretic possibility is only of academic interest. Under ideal circumstances others could be just as miserable as you are. As a Buddhist I find the world to be tipped towards suffering and dissatisfaction--this doesn't mean one needs to succumb to a fatal view of his own life. Under many circumstances we can affect positive changes in our own lives. But your not interested in that sort of non retina-conforming drivel. | |
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Ex-Moderator | Imago said: retina said: I knew you'd say that, so let me clarify: I mean that under ideal circumstances everybody could find happiness, sure, so in that sense it is possible in theory. But since those circumstances never ever actually occur for an enormous number of people, the theoretic possibility is only of academic interest. Under ideal circumstances others could be just as miserable as you are. As a Buddhist I find the world to be tipped towards suffering and dissatisfaction--this doesn't mean one needs to succumb to a fatal view of his own life. Under many circumstances we can affect positive changes in our own lives. But your not interested in that sort of non retina-conforming drivel. I don't think that's fair. I totaly get what retina's saying, I just don't agree. Why do you have to take it a step further and call someone miserable? |
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CarrieMpls said: Imago said: Under ideal circumstances others could be just as miserable as you are. As a Buddhist I find the world to be tipped towards suffering and dissatisfaction--this doesn't mean one needs to succumb to a fatal view of his own life. Under many circumstances we can affect positive changes in our own lives. But your not interested in that sort of non retina-conforming drivel. I don't think that's fair. I totaly get what retina's saying, I just don't agree. Why do you have to take it a step further and call someone miserable? I'm not fair | |
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retina said: CarrieMpls said: but if it is in theory, than it can be in practice. I knew you'd say that, so let me clarify: I mean that under ideal circumstances everybody could find happiness, sure, so in that sense it is possible in theory. But since those circumstances never ever actually occur for an enormous number of people, the theoretic possibility is only of academic interest. And what are these elusive circumstances of which you speak? There are people with looks, fame and fortune who are miserable and there are poor people with deformities who are happy. If you're talking about psychological issues, there are treatments for those. Unless you're in severe pain that can't be medicated or you're being held against your will, the only "circumstances" you need for happiness are within you. | |
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CarrieMpls said: Imago said: Under ideal circumstances others could be just as miserable as you are. As a Buddhist I find the world to be tipped towards suffering and dissatisfaction--this doesn't mean one needs to succumb to a fatal view of his own life. Under many circumstances we can affect positive changes in our own lives. But your not interested in that sort of non retina-conforming drivel. I don't think that's fair. I totaly get what retina's saying, I just don't agree. Why do you have to take it a step further and call someone miserable? I think, here, it's actually constructive. r's trying to tell everyone that, if they're unhappy, they just might be resigned to that fate. That's a misguided and potentially dangerous notion. | |
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LleeLlee said: 2the9s said: [Edited 6/14/07 6:05am] | |
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Ace said: CarrieMpls said: I don't think that's fair. I totaly get what retina's saying, I just don't agree. Why do you have to take it a step further and call someone miserable? I think, here, it's actually constructive. r's trying to tell everyone that, if they're unhappy, they just might be resigned to that fate. That's a misguided and potentially dangerous notion. Equally misguided and dangerous is the notion that unhappiness is the result of a poor attitude or laziness. | |
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Ace said: Christaro said: Why are we here?
Because we're here. Roll the bones. To say that we're here for a reason is to imply that there is a "god" or some kind of design to existence, which I don't believe. Based on most people's behavior, we seem to be here to perfect the concept of denial. Then we die and cease to exist in any way, shape or form. The good news? "Eternal nothingness is fine if you happen to be dressed for it." - Woody Allen I think that you & God think alot alike, Ace. See, God, being the the Ulimate Spiritual "Buck-Stops-Here", does not Himself believe in God. He has no one to spiritually look up to above Him therefore He has no one to whom He can pray to for spiritual guidance or strength. So God Himself is an atheist ( which in itself is a paradox because it means that He has no one to deny as a "god" {and that in itself is a conundrum that tends to really piss Him off because since He's the Guy who created the concept of irony in the first place, He realizes that He only has Himself to blame}). I think that God did create Life, ergo Us, for a purpose. And that purpose is to realize that He doesn't exist. That way, we can experience the same frustration that He does. aww shit.... He cracks me the fuck up.... | |
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coolcat said: Equally misguided and dangerous is the notion that unhappiness is the result of a poor attitude or laziness.
Who said that? | |
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Illustrator said: God, being the the Ulimate Spiritual "Buck-Stops-Here", does not Himself believe in God. He has no one to spiritually look up to above Him
therefore He has no one to whom He can pray to for spiritual guidance or strength. So God Himself is an atheist ( which in itself is a paradox because it means that He has no one to deny as a "god" {and that in itself is a conundrum that tends to really piss Him off because since He's the Guy who created the concept of irony in the first place, He realizes that He only has Himself to blame}). I think that God did create Life, ergo Us, for a purpose. And that purpose is to realize that He doesn't exist. That way, we can experience the same frustration that He does. Exactly. | |
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I've just been plugging along all these years, not thinking about it.
I assumed the Greeks covered it years ago. Idle minds that they were.....(didn't anyone have JOBS?) they just hung out together asking each other questions, with long dissertations thrown in,avoiding the wives at home, and chilling with the boy-toys err, "students".... Took the concept "an unexamined life is not worth living" to the extreme.. I bet that's the excuse they gave to the wife! Socrates, ya gotta love him. | |
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Ace said: coolcat said: Equally misguided and dangerous is the notion that unhappiness is the result of a poor attitude or laziness.
Who said that? Nobody. Sorry. Just thinking out loud. | |
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coolcat said: Ace said: Who said that? Nobody. Sorry. Just thinking out loud. 'Ey, life is just all us of thinking out loud. | |
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Afronomical said: MsLegs said: Yum. Shall We Proceed With Hors D'Ouvers, Main Course or shall we improvise like in a smooth Jazz tune. Whatever your heart, soul, and body desires, M'lady..... Hmmmm. Sounds Divine the thought of our bodies entwined to a beat of a smooth throbbing rhythm over rose pedals under candlelight. | |
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RodeoSchro said: JustErin said: What is your purpose then? To make other people happy. Are you driven to make others happy because you can't face feeling empty? | |
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Ace said: CarrieMpls said: I don't think that's fair. I totaly get what retina's saying, I just don't agree. Why do you have to take it a step further and call someone miserable? I think, here, it's actually constructive. r's trying to tell everyone that, if they're unhappy, they just might be resigned to that fate. That's a misguided and potentially dangerous notion. To underestimate exterior causes for unhappiness is the biggest mistake you can ever make. I'd love to see you go to Zimbabwe, get up on a podium and tell the suffering masses who are enduring the threat of rape, torture and murder every day that "the happiness is there within you". Now there's misguided and dangerous for you. | |
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coolcat said: Ace said: I think, here, it's actually constructive. r's trying to tell everyone that, if they're unhappy, they just might be resigned to that fate. That's a misguided and potentially dangerous notion. misguided and dangerous is the notion that unhappiness is the result of a poor attitude or laziness. Exactly. | |
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Ex-Moderator | retina said: coolcat said: misguided and dangerous is the notion that unhappiness is the result of a poor attitude or laziness. Exactly. Keep in mind, the notions aren't mutually exclusive. I'd agree that unhappiness isn't the result of poor attitude or laziness. At least, the majority of the time. And yet I think it is acheiveable for everyone. |
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CarrieMpls said: retina said: Exactly. Keep in mind, the notions aren't mutually exclusive. I'd agree that unhappiness isn't the result of poor attitude or laziness. At least, the majority of the time. And yet I think it is acheiveable for everyone. The notions me and Ace stand for actually are mutually exclusive. | |
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retina said: Ace said: I think, here, it's actually constructive. r's trying to tell everyone that, if they're unhappy, they just might be resigned to that fate. That's a misguided and potentially dangerous notion. To underestimate exterior causes for unhappiness is the biggest mistake you can ever make. I'd love to see you go to Zimbabwe, get up on a podium and tell the suffering masses who are enduring the threat of rape, torture and murder every day that "the happiness is there within you". Now there's misguided and dangerous for you. You said: under ideal circumstances everybody could find happiness, sure, so in that sense it is possible in theory. But since those circumstances never ever actually occur for an enormous number of people, the theoretic possibility is only of academic interest.
Now you're using an extreme example to try and support your argument that "an enormous number of people" face circumstances that prevent them from finding happiness. So which is it? I said: Unless you're being held somewhere against your will, there are no circumstances I can think of that you can't transcend. | |
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I think we all have different purposes for being here and reasons for being who and where we are. I also think everyone has the right to their own opinion regarding it as well.
It appears that many are very quick to pass judgment. [Edited 6/15/07 4:15am] | |
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ConsciousContact said: RodeoSchro said: To make other people happy. Are you driven to make others happy because you can't face feeling empty? No, I've felt empty plenty of times. That's normal. No one is happy all the time. But I am happiest when I am making someone else happy. How about you? When are you happiest? | |
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RodeoSchro said: ConsciousContact said: Are you driven to make others happy because you can't face feeling empty? No, I've felt empty plenty of times. That's normal. No one is happy all the time. But I am happiest when I am making someone else happy. How about you? When are you happiest? i love this post | |
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LittleSmedley said: RodeoSchro said: No, I've felt empty plenty of times. That's normal. No one is happy all the time. But I am happiest when I am making someone else happy. How about you? When are you happiest? i love this post Thanks! | |
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Ace said: Now you're using an extreme example to try and support your argument that "an enormous number of people" face circumstances that prevent them from finding happiness. So which is it? There's no contradiction among my statements. | |
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