When you were a teen, did your parents think you were just insane, weird, dumb, lost or just flat out go "ugh" at you?

As I'm dealing with my teen, remember my mother saying how she really, really loved me, would give me hugs and kisses but liking me was a challenge OR that I was the moodiest person on the planet.

OMGOSH....i know what she meant My daughter can drive me with teenagery stuff. The moody thing, the everything is about me thing, oh mom, you're just old stuff .....

Remember when Cosby was talking about the kids being brain damaged.....


I was a teen then and I was like whateva Bill but now....I think my daughter has brain damage.

but she really is a good kid though


If you have a teenager, do they make you go

Well, I don't have any kids, but I know that I was fucking crazy as a teen. I was really moody, argumentative, and a pain in the ass. My parents were very strict and I just did not like that I couldn't do whatever I wanted. I really changed once I was around 18 and I definitely get along better with my parents now.

I have a teenage niece who I'm basically a second mom to (have been her whole life) and she's such a great kid, but she does that teen thing to me. I can't imagine what it would be like on a 24/7 basis.

i don't know. i don't think i was a typical teenager. for one thing, half the time i felt like i was raising my mom. i was very much like saffie on "absolutely fabulous" at times...

though at other times, when i would TRY to rebel against my mom and shock her with my appearance and my tastes in music and whatnot, it would usually go unnoticed. it's really hard to offend a parent who listens to frank zappa and george clinton. she'd either compliment my latest goth get-up or just roll her eyes and say "whatever floats your boat, son."

but i was a good kid. no drinking, no drugging, no major incidents with the law...not until college, anyway.

i think the thing that drove my mom craziest about me was that i'd hole myself up in my bedroom for days on end whenever i had the chance, just sitting on my bed drawing and writing and listening to music. i think i'm still that way, though.

I made a deal with the doctors whereby Lucy would bypass her teenage years completely (I think they gave her extra vitamins or something, I didn't ask questions. ).

You want to know obnoxious, my teen (14, female) wants to wear her ipod while we are having a conversation. She says she hears me just fine with them on, and should not take them off. ugghh!

Rhonda

I have been through and am still in the process of raising 4 Teens

I really can't think of anything of value to say as I am an emotional basket case right now

I just wanted you to know that I think you are a wonderful person and I am sure your daughter will sail through towards adulthood and become just as wonderful as her mom

My son was a breeze compared to my daughter. With my son, I just had to do that Mom voice, and he got back in line. With my daughter, she doesn't back down, she is as hard headed as me! And always has to have the last word.....that she get's from her Dad

I was moody as f**k, and depressed, suicidal Im actualy quite surprised my parents didnt have me locked away.
When I wasnt in my room getting into trouble I was out getting into trouble.
I was a crazy booger, most of the things I did my parents had and still have no idea that I did it. Although I do have to say my mom and I are the best of friends, for like a year I hated her for not letting me date but I soon got over that, I was and forever am getting laughed at for hanging out with my mom.
I do everything with her and lord knows I tell her way more than she wants to know.....My point... I was the perfect kid.. and if my kids are ever like me Ill slap them silly

2the9s said:

They gave you a frontal lobotomy forum fodder!

meggy said:

And how old are you now, girl

thedribbler said:

20 but see thats beside the point, Im not a teen anymore so I do get to talk bad about how I was,

And what about you, I doubt you were an angel
[Edited 6/11/07 23:01pm]

meggy said:

I was petty damn close, in the literal sense of being an angel.
People (mostly myself) did get hurt... but then again that's what love does.

I grew spiritually, the suffering wasn't in vain.
I'll have to check my memory banks for more precise information.

thedribbler said:

Oh come on now.. I dont beleive it. go check the banks cause there has to be something...

I wasn't much trouble as a teen. I've always gotten along with my parents, even though their outlook on life differs from my own.

I think they thought I was gay until I started dating my current girlfriend. I started seeing her when I was 17 so I reckon that they thought I was gay for quite a long time. My dad made a joke about it but I could tell they had actually believed me to be gay

Mach said:

I have a WONDERFUL kid but there are days when I'm like....WTH is she talkin' about?


I remember one day, she was about 13 and I was on my soapbox talking about something. I was in the kitchen and she was standing in the bathroom. She was mocking me in the mirror but didn't know I could see her.

I stopped and laughed sooooo hard because I remember doing the same thing.

I was like....huh Syd, I can see you. We both just laughed.

I was an emotional wreck about 3/4 of the time but my parents didn't know that. I was quite distant from them. But all in all, they thought I was a great kid.

Rhondab said:

both of my teens make me go and then some....I thought I'd have a better handle on it, but nah....I'm an idiot....lost in the sauce....just winging it....but my wife suffers more than I do since I'm always deployed...she's getting it with both barrels.....

my dad always looked at me and shook his head....said I was too smart to be doing the dumbshit I was doing....like skipping class, smoking weed.....smoking weed.....smoking weed.....

I was a small town Holden Caulfield; your typical angst-ridden, Morrissey listening, bad poetry writing, self obsessed basketcase. My parents were hardcore Christians and were total isolationists, believing that "the world" was an evil place full of corrupting influence (which of course, it IS...but I loved that!). I was really, really sheltered and didn't really have an adolesence. I didn't drive. I didn't have any friends that I could just hang out with on weekends (I was always doing chores). I didn't have a girlfriend until 18.
I was really well-behaved but bursting at the seams on the inside. Today, I tell my Dad that my biggest regret is that I didn't give him a run for his money as a teen. I wouldn't ever had needed therapy if I had been the bad kid that I wanted to be.

I have no idea what my parents thought of me... Shelly would know though, shes always talking to my mom.

They prolly wanted to hang me

They’re gonna clean up your looks
With all the lies and the books
To make a citizen out of you
Because they sleep with a gun
And keep an eye on you son
So they can watch all the things you do

Because the drugs never work
They’re gonna give you a smirk
‘Cause they got methods of keepin' you clean
They’re gonna rip up your heads
Your aspirations to shreds
Another cog in the murder machine

They said all teenagers scare
The living shit out of me
They could care less
As long as someone'll bleed
So darken your clothes
Or strike a violent pose
Maybe they’ll leave you alone, but not me

The boys and girls in a clique
The awful names that they stick
You’re never gonna fit in much, kid
But if you’re troubled and hurt
What you got under your shirt
Will make them pay for the things that they did

They said all teenagers scare
The living shit out of me
They could care less


As long as someone'll bleed
So darken your clothes
Or strike a violent pose
Maybe they’ll leave you alone, but not me

Ohhh yeah!

They said all teenagers scare
The living shit out of me
They could care less
As long as someone'll bleed
so darken your clothes
Or strike a violent pose
Maybe they’ll leave you alone, but not me

All together now!

Teenagers scare
The living shit out of me
They could care less
As long as someone'll bleed
So darken your clothes
Or strike a violent pose
Maybe they’ll leave you alone, but not me

Teenagers scare
The living shit out of me
They could care less
As long as someone'll bleed
So darken your clothes
Or strike a violent pose
Maybe they’ll leave you alone, but not me
[Edited 6/12/07 12:09pm]

We have 3 teenage boys in the house right now and shit is very out of control There is nothing more dangerous than the introduction of testosterone into an innocent boy body For the most part, I can deal with their dramas and try my best to talk to them. I remember what an emotional mess I was at that age and always try and keep that in mind when dealing with them. My 15 year old nephew is dying his hair and dressing in ways that makes his father crazy and the other day he was coming down on him asking why he had to dress wierd and I told him to relax and remember that he was 15 once to, that my nephew is trying to find himself. I hate that he tears them down like that. I try and build them up as much as possible. Although, sometimes I do want to beat some serious ass

Rhondab said:

I'm sure your a great mom.

I remember NOT getting along with my Mom at all from about age 12 to 20. And now too, but its better than it was. We had a really difficult relationship and I ALSO remember my mom saying she loves me but she does NOT like me.

I think probably all mother daughter relationships get strained in the teen yrs.

I live with my mom still and I don't get along with her...she's crazy....I don't think I was a bad teen...I think I was very good even though my mom wouldn't agree.

teenagery

If you can make it until she's 18 the law says you're not legally responsible for them anymore: YEA