I was with my ex for 5 years. I was so devoted to him. I broke up with my ex last June because of how much pain the relationship was causing me. I spent those 5 years gouging my eyes out and cutting off my limbs to prove my love. Even though I still loved him when I left him last June, I was to the point that I couldn't do it anymore. I was tired of being hurt and tired of not being loved like I really deserved. Tired of not being acknowledged the way I needed.

I February he left California and moved to the East Coast to Rhode Island. OK, roadblock removed But he's been leaving me messages on my work phone. He left one this morning that was everything I EVER wanted to hear from him when we were together He was saying how he can't believe how much he misses me, how he never imagined it would be this hard to be away from me how much he really loves me and he said he never should have left California.

Um, YOU'RE A LITTLE LATE THERE BUDDY! I am so trying not to give into the feelings I still have for him. It really sucks that it took the destruction of our relationship and breaking up and him moving for him to finally come to grips in a real way with how he feels about me. I'm happy with moving on here in Cali.

WTF?! Damn

Aww I feel you Supa.. it happens often when you arent appreciated as much as whne you are with them until they realise how good you were and what they have lost

I am sorry, and I need to take the .. you are a little too late and you wont hurt me again advice also.. its your loss advice too..






Life sucks..

There is a reason you broke up dude.....I know he says it....but the application is where he messed up....you are strong and doing well...

it's because you're fantastic and he's slow to have just now realized that. be strong, delete the messages without listening if you have to.

they always come back to roost when they realize their sure thing isn't sure anymore! don't give in!

You should just tell him that he should have said that when you were together. He is too late now! You need to get yourself a new man and so does he. It's time to move on.

There is seriously no point in trying to figure out why. You'll probably never know what's fully going on with him.

I'm sorry to say that he's probably just saying all this to you because he's got nothing else going on at the moment.

Or maybe not, but is that a risk you are willing to take?

Just always remember that these are his issues, not yours. It's not a refection on you. Remember that and you will be strong enough to not get caught up in him again....if that's what you want, of course.

Be strong, honey.



You're right...it's too little and too late. He will not change...and it's safe for him to say those things when he's thousands of miles away and can't be held to his word.

to you baby and RED

please stay strong and realize that that's all nice and great that now he knows but it's late for that really. Its water over the bridge for real and it just makes you stronger and better for the next special person in your life. It also serves as a validation for all that you went through. You know that you gave your best your all and the person who really "sees" you and appreciates the depth of love you will give is coming. Promise

Sorry ass, too bad so sad for him he didn't recognize the greatness he had before him all those years. He needs to leave you alone

love you much babe

If he couldn't catch on to what your needs were for 5 years, forget about him. He's probably in RI bored and lonely. Tough shit.

If you've had this communication problem before, it may take some self evaluation. I used to pick the same type of woman for years and wondered why the persistant/similar problems. I took a break for a couple of years, found a new kind of woman and have a whole new set of problems

Keep your head up and away from this guy.

Hindsight

what a bitch of a blessing

Anxiety said:

Be strong!!

delete delete delete delete delete.

Ok you know what is even more fucked up. My ex was seriously emotionally unavailable for many reasons and I knew this but still that did not stop me from loving the holy hell out of him. But on the message it sounded like he might have been brought to tears. He never cried once when we were together. I was always crying.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

He wants some booty, that's why he's crying! Forget about him

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Fuck him. Don't even allow yourself to weaken and give him any leeway or control. How can you forget being treated like trash for years?! Just because he may have been crying only means he's a pathetic waste of oxygen. FUCK HIM. It's done. It's been done. Let the guy feel how you used to feel for once.

He's not upset because he wishes to repent: he's upset because he's without a whipping boy. Asshole.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Don't buy a ticket for his trip.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Sounds like he needs to borrow some money.

Seriously, though, Richard, follow the advice here. Forgive him and love him... but from a safe distance. Love yourself at least as much and move on knowing you've grown from being taken through the ringer.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

like I said,

Hindsight ...

It's a shame they don't make dildos with Mr Potato Head type accessories (comedy eyes, nose, mouth, etc) so you could make the perfect boyfriend who never leaves you, gives you great sex and can change his look in the blink of an eye (or the falling out of an eye if you insert it too deep).

Block his calls.

xplnyrslf said:

You've clocked his balls, now block his calls!

Haystack, I LOVE you. Will you be my potato head?

For everyone

thank you I'm not destroyed by this nor am I considering going back to him or anything like that. Matter of fact, I will be SKIPPING IN THE SUN today I am quite happy to be moving on with my life and really more than anything this brings up nostalgic memories for the brief time when I was really happy with him.

And I can't block his calls on my work phone! That's why I can't prevent him from calling

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

He does not deserve you! the hell with him. It's too late for that shit now and I've been a situation like you described above. If you feel yourself getting weak, remember that! He's crying crocodile tears.

Classic case of you don't know how good you have it until it's gone.
[Edited 5/23/07 12:25pm]

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Hmmm I wonder if he was at gay karaoke last night

You need to send me a picture of this man. I work 3 buildings away from the Mira Bar and all the gays around here go there. I'll beat him for you like a red headed step child.

PS: I hung out with Brandon and Wensday last night. They stole the karaoke show!

CarrieLee said:

OMG Carrie, kick his ass for me!

CarrieLee said:

Damn, why do the red heads always get the worst beatings?