A few years ago I had a girlfriend who was bisexual, which was fun since we could check out girls together. Eventually I realized that not only did she go for a certain type of looks, it was actually her own looks! The features, the body type, everything about these girls kind of looked like my girlfriend herself. It made me laugh and made her a bit embarrassed but also fascinated since she saw that I was right.

Since then I started to notice that a lot of people seem to go for someone who looks like themselves, kind of like dog owners often pick dogs that look a bit like themselves. So if you're completely honest, do you sometimes or even often go for the female or male version of yourself (depending on your gender and orientation)?

I find the phenomenon quite fascinating.

i think most people find people who look like themsleves attractive

yeah cause I am so tall and hairy

the girls I go for so far don't look that much like me except maybe in height and have straight hair.

NastyPig said:

Do you?

ZombieKitten said:

Not strictly true. What about Miss C? She could be your sister.

retina said:

yes

retina said:

she is more masculine than me, muscular and that

ZombieKitten said:

I don't think she looks masculine at all. Did you make her muscles disappear in Photoshop?

nah, i generally find all different types of men & women attractive. i guess the only similarity would be that most of them have dark hair.

retina said:

you know she teaches aerobics times a week she is real fit, in her old photos she is a bit rounder I had to trim off some of her gut

ZombieKitten said:

Oh no.

What if she notices what you've done, won't she take that as an insult? Or will she just see it as a welcomed "improvement"?

.

retina said:

she is eternally grateful and she worked really hard to match herself!

As for me, I think I am quite often attracted to women that kind of look like female versions of myself. Their hair is usually darker than mine though.

Isn't it weird if this really is a common phenomenon? I mean, wouldn't it make more sense if we - especially us heterosexuals - went for the exact opposite instead, since mixing of different genes makes for a stronger offspring and opposites attract and all that?

ZombieKitten said:

Maybe you've invented a new get-fit-quick scheme. You might get rich!

retina said:

send me photos of your guts folks, and I can show you what you COULD look like!

retina said:

I go for someone of a tall, strong and slim sort of build usually, which is probably similar to me, although I am not really tall myself, just average.

Hell yeah. I would totally do me. I mean, I'm freaking JT. I would brag about it too. I would go around showing people my picture and I would be like, "Yeah, I nailed that." Then, of course, I would eventually grow bored with myself and have to like break up with myself and that would be all over the tabloids, you know like "JT breaks JT's Heart" and I would have to write some songs about it and stuff.

Say what you want but sexy is a curse...

I'm attracted to various types of men physically but their personalities and dispositions are usually the same as mine.

I'm attracted to similar personality types more than similar physical characteristics.

But I'm slim, and have long hair, but I'm not hairy, and I like women that are that way too that's not very specific, though

Also, if I had to be with a man I'd be most comfortable with me.
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retina said:

Ok I am tanned complected (like Salma Hayek, Eva Mendez, JLo) because I am Latin with dark brown almost black hair, and I have not gone for a male version of my self. The guys Ive' gone out with recently are either tall, blond, blue/green eyed or Asian. So am I an exception?

I am not attracted to people who look like me. What catches my eye are usually men who are tall, dark and have light colored eyes, something like Alex Rodriguez from the Yankees

veronikka said:

Not really - all the guys I like look nothing like me. As far as I'm aware. Well - some do, some don't.

There was this one guy I, er, spent an evening with, though, and he dropped me off at my house the next day. My nosey housemates were peeking through the windows and when I came through the door they were all 'He looks exactly like you!' which I found a little weird. But, in general, not particularly.

same personalities, looks sometimes but rarely

brownsugar said:

Definately same personalities. I've never been attracted to someone who looks like me. If I were attractive, I guess it would be a different story.

No not entirely. Although a best friend of mine use to call me Prince... I find him beautifully attractive. But a guy the same physical size to me is not really what I wish for. I do like dark hair, have dated several different ethnics. I was raised in a Hispanic household... but I would almost say, I am done with the Hispanic ways. My husband was Hispanic (a fantastic person), but his mother... well, that is another story. I am eliminating the Hispanic culture concerning my next potential relationship. There are some other findings I have realized... but I will stop here.

I think I am looking for a hippy next, long hair would be nice (washed daily) ... and exceptionally clean... one who lives to be outdoors.

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Freespirit said:

An exceptionally clean hippie, eh? Isn't that an oxymoron?

May you explain what Oxymoron means? I have heard that terms many times... the word is not in my pocket Dictionary.

You are so nice Retina. ~Smile.

Freespirit said:

An oxymoron is a figure of speech that combines two normally contradictory terms.

I actually just realized that there is such a thing as a clean long-haired hippie on the org though. His name is NDRU.



And you must be so sarcastic Julie. ~Smile.

Oh, thank you.
I believe I fall more into the hippie image... although squeeky clean. I am not afriad to get stinky, but right after I better be darn I will find a way to bathe. A gallon of water and some soap is all I need.