JustErin said:

If someone needs you to feel like shit about yourself in order to get off that really is abusive.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Being submissive in a sexual context doesn't mean you feel like shit about yourself, though.

CarrieMpls said:

It's more about giving up control and allowing the dominant party to call the shots.

CarrieMpls said:

I know that. I know someone that had a guy as a playmate and that guy stopped seeing him because he was being to nice to him. He needed to be abused emotionally and physically There are guys out there that need their sub to feel like a piece of shit. I told someone once that I am the wrong guy for them if that is what they needed because I know I am a fucking king

I just can't make love to a woman without a previous oral sex fest. It's very difficult (and odd) for me to go directly to the penetration: it feels boring and hasty. Usually I find the oral part funnier than the penetration.

applekisses said:

true, usually it those who are normally in controlling positions in their daily lives who take on being the submissive in sexual situations.

JustErin said:

Then we should fuck.. i mean that sensitively haha

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

It's supposed to be just in the bedroom.

JustErin said:

I know

I dont think I have ever had that before..

Talk.....talk about sex....that's all I ever do...talk about it I mean. I never get to do it let alone talk about it!!!!!

lets talk about sex baby! let's talk about you and me! lets talk about all the good things and the bad things that can be! lets talk about sex!

SexOnWheels said:

ok.

DexMSR said:

I think I have that happening with the girl I'm with now. She wants it all the time and I'm just not that into it. I don't know why, it's never really happened to me before. I'm usually a freak, but with her its different for some reason.

SexOnWheels said:

Funny I just had that in my head while on myspace.. I guess I saw this thread and that song just jumped into my head

Stymie said:

seems pretty straight-forward to me.

IrresistibleB1tch said:

I was told that I need to spank a bit more, and be a bit more rough. No hints or anything. Was told straight forward. And now she enjoys it even more.

IAmNotSpats said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Im suprised you would say this.

NastyPig said:

Why? I told someone straight up that the bedroom is one thing and outside life is another and if he needed me to feel worthless in my life, hell no I am not the playmate for him. some people really need that from their subs, that they feel like mealworms outside the bedroom and I'm not havin it.

Its easier to say just get rid of em but it not that easy because you have feelings for eachother that are not sexually based. If expressing what you need and what thy need then ill tell you what....It would be hard being restricted from reaching your peaks.

IAmNotSpats said:

You bring up a good point Ariel: there has to be room for compromise as well as being vocal about your wants and needs. Too many times people don't speak up and it leads to a bad sex life.

Its a give and take. You may need to be less freaky and she needs to go buy some handcuffs.


Personally, I need to be sexually compatible with my partner. I'd rather negotiate how hard to spank me vs having to tell you to spank me in the first place and then reassuring you that I'll be aight. If I'm doing all of that, I've taken you out of your comfort level and its no longer fun. Too much instruction is boring.

That's too much damn work.

Rhondab said:

I agree with all of this and this why I say it should come up early in conversation. The sexiest thing about the person I'm intimate with, is I have never had to tell him what to do. Ever.

Stymie said:

When that happens, that is hot!

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

ah
I thought you were saying it was bad for people in general

NastyPig said:

Hell no

This is why I only have sex with hookers.
Well....
there were a few times that I decided to give the sexual-peasant-folk-ladies a roll,
but only if they have some kind airstrip on the front or a tattoo the size of a standard computer-screen over the crack of their arse. Those are usually signs of people who though, their freak-level probably won't be ever meet the standards for qualiication as a nomination at any adult-film awards,
it show's an open-mindenes for experimentation, or at the very least, a willingness to try. Usually the worst outcome from these people tends to be a "uhmn...please...slow down. My body's not used to bending like that".





























okay, okay....


I can't lie to you people.

When it comes to engaging in sexual practices, especially as an art-form or at any kind of level of creative expertise,
fundamentally speaking,
I don't know what the fuck I'm talking about.




I'm usually just so freakin' grateful that she's taken her clothes off.

DexMSR said:

i have found that, u can't alwaws get what what u want, but if u try sometimes, u can get what u need. not that that satisfies u like u want. just life