'em, Calhoun.

onenitealone said:

just make sure when you em, there's nobody around who will mistakenly think you're flipping them off instead. believe me, a case of mistaken bird-flipping is no fun.

Anx said:

Hey you.

Yes, I saw your thread. How did you rectify the situation?? Did you have to go through an entire embarrassing explanation??

This kinda happened to me also. It wasnt fair at all.

I was working for a company, and saw the profits grow as my designs were selling so well. I approached my boss and asked him for a raise. He offered said amount, and I was like no way, I was expecting 5 times what he offered. So he said he couldnt possibly go to that amount. I asked him to think about it over the weekend, cos I know my worth, and I wouldnt accept less. (Well yes it was an incredible amount, esp what he was used to handing out.. )

He knew he couldnt lose me so reluctantly agreed on the figure.

I was so happy with myself.

Anyway, it was kept secret, but obviously accounts, knew about it when they were processing my pay, and the woman who worked there kicked up a stink that I was getting paid more than her, she had worked there longer, she was twice my age etc etc

I thought, well fuckkk.. you work in money, why couldnt you negotiate with the boss.. I am just a designer..

so she demanded the same amount of money as me or she would leave.

She got the same amount as me,. but fuck, it was me who had to do the hard work in the first place.. I got paid what I was worth and she who worked in money all her life couldnt approach her own boss who she had known years and said look here, where is my pay rise?

so basically, you ballin' huh?


orgnote me so I can send you a pic of the shoes I want you do buy for me!


awwww....it'll be aight.

'em, Calhoun.

onenitealone said:

just make sure when you em, there's nobody around who will mistakenly think you're flipping them off instead. believe me, a case of mistaken bird-flipping is no fun.

Anx said:

And here I am thinking you had some great Anx wisdom for me

no, i just felt like an ass. i was just all like, "oh...NO. NO, NOT YOU. HIM. HIM!" it didn't matter though. the ass gauntlet had been thrown.

'em, Calhoun.

onenitealone said:

I feel better about it now but man, I hate being involved in office drama. Or having someone scrutinize me/my work. Yes, it's all competitive but people get viscious when it comes to $ & I just don't want no paaaaarts of the drama

CalhounSq said:

no wisdom, sorry to say. i don't really like the people i work with enough to engage with them that much. i wouldn't be honest or dishonest. i'd just shrug and ask to be left alone.

onenitealone said:

Yeah.. Tell people, "WTF? You think I am really on that salary? Hell no.. double that, and its closer to what I am on.. "

Anx said:

You know it's not going to go down well when you swan in the next day dripping in designer gear, don't you??

onenitealone said:

oh well - i'd be all "eat a jacklyn smith collection pantsuit, bitches!"

I think what makes it so weird is that the person asking for confirmation of my rate is also the person who took me under their wing, trained me, gave me so much valuable info, has been so supportive & could frankly run circles around me in her sleep! So I feel shitty that they haven't recognized her monitarily in the same way they have me BUT it's really not my problem or responsibility & I don't appreciate being put in the middle of her contract negotiation

REDFEATHERS said:

See? I think that woman who worked in your accounts office had absolutely no right to do that. For a start, as you say, she worked in that field so you'd think she would look into it in more detail. But I think she abused her position in doing that - okay, she has to go through erveryone's wages by the sounds of it but the way she went about it... she might as well have opened up your pay slip.

I think what makes it so weird is that the person asking for confirmation of my rate is also the person who took me under their wing, trained me, gave me so much valuable info, has been so supportive & could frankly run circles around me in her sleep! So I feel shitty that they haven't recognized her monitarily in the same way they have me BUT it's really not my problem or responsibility & I don't appreciate being put in the middle of her contract negotiation

Rhondab said:

NO! And don't Threaddy & Lammi split your shoe allowance every month anyway??

I want some shoes too!

I think what makes it so weird is that the person asking for confirmation of my rate is also the person who took me under their wing, trained me, gave me so much valuable info, has been so supportive & could frankly run circles around me in her sleep! So I feel shitty that they haven't recognized her monitarily in the same way they have me BUT it's really not my problem or responsibility & I don't appreciate being put in the middle of her contract negotiation

I'm a grown ass woman. I know better than to EVER discuss my WAGES with ANYONE But I had a moment of stupidity & honesty & answered a question that was presented to me & now mf's are trying to launch a mutiny up & through Okay, not a mutiny but it's officially a "rumor" that's going around. & now someone else is asking me to confirm said rumor before they renew their contract

I have no idea why I wasn't thinking on my feet. I wanna just blame my momma for raising me too honest But it ain't her fault, & it ain't mine for mf's paying me what they want to pay me... but letting it slip out IS indeed my fault. I am a serious jackass for that.

I don't wanna be the catalyst for a wave of frustrated "workers", I don't want to be their bargaining tool, & I don't want to be seen as the source of a "problem" for my employers b/c they've been really cool with me. In my business there is no "fair" playing field - people pay you what you're worth to them @ the time, it's always been like that. Some of us get the door cracked open wide, others get fucking hosed. Sometimes it's about skill, sometimes it's about dedication - you just have to go for YOURS & see what happens.

I just don't need the drama, I have enough trying to figure out what to eat everyday & keeping my laundry under control But I've contributed to the drama with my highly overrated honesty bullshit... Or maybe I should just claim "stupidity" on this one...

FUCK, I hate this...




& please don't ask me what I make 'cause I might be stupid enough to tell you



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