SHANNA said:

Then we shall find a good balance

onenitealone said:

Always copy everything you say before you post it.

We all have good days and bad days. I don't think any individual can be up all the time. I don't know if it is confidence though. Maybe it is comfort or happiness

Shanti1 said:

Spookymuffin said:

I know.

That's the frustrating thing... I had to keep coming back to my response as I was in work (I get a bit distracted in here) and I'd already copied half of it. But when it crashed, I just couldn't be bothered to write out the rest. It never sounds the same, to me, as it did first time round. Lesson learned!


Thanks again, guys, for your comments; I do appreciate them. Sorry if I was sounding a bit mopey or wussy - it was just 'one of those days'. There are a few things going on right now which I could do without but it all's relative... Things could always be a lot worse.


Since it was me who started this thread, however, I should add something... The issue I raised is something that puzzles me, sometimes; I can't really go into too much detail here - that would be one long-assed thread I won't subject any of you to that - but I've been having what might be termed 'panic attacks' recently. I'm not exactly sure what's causing them or what actually constitutes a panic attack but I have felt my heart racing and, at some points, I've literally had to concentrate on putting one foot in front of the other. It's weird. This only happens in public, though - never anywhere else.

The confusing aspect is that - as I mentioned - sometimes I can feel full of confidence, and it shows. I notice how people react to it. But, other times - if I'm not feeling so confident in myself - I can feel very self-conscious and that's when these feelings emerge. It's usually when I'm on my own, though - hardly ever when I'm with other people. When I posted this thread it was just after getting back from lunch and I was feeling a little wobbly, to be honest. Maybe that explains things a little.

Sorry, I'm not even sure why I'm posting this...


Today is a much better day. I went out for a drink with a good friend last night, we had a few glasses of wine, talked about stuff, put the world to rights... I just think I needed to vent a little. But Thank you everyone - I really do appreciate your comments. Call me schmaltzy but I love you guys.

Alun...

We love you too!

susannah said:

Thanks, sus. You know I love you, especially.

I feel a bit silly discussing these things here but my mates look at me as if I'm crazy when I raise this issue. It's something I have to sort out, really; it's a big subject. And I think once what we discussed in Orgnotes yesterday is resolved, things'll be a lot more easier.

Thanks, love - I really do appreciate it.

onenitealone said:

I know what you mean, mine do the same to me

You're right, it will all clear up

Keep smiling

It's all a facade Alun, pretend to be confident and people think you are. I would imagine we are all the same. Ups and downs. I teeter between overconfident and a bit down, I never let it get me too depressed before i do something about it, life is too short.

onenitealone said:

Damn I'd love some wine right now.

Spookymuffin said:

Anx said:

it all depends. overall, i think i'm a pretty confident person. but there are times when my confidence drops in situations...just like some days i feel more prettier than other days when i feel like a bum. it's all apart of life i think.

It is all about balance- I am learning that lesson right now.

Most of the time I have alot, in some situations tho it can drop. A big part of my confidence comes from practicing martial arts and weight lifting.
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PREDOMINANT said:

Steve, thank you very much for what you posted - I keep saying this but it's very much appreciated. I will definitely bear it in mind.

Reading your comments - and I don't usually do this - the following Prince lyric jumped into my mind: 'Life is just a game, we're all just the same... don't you want to play?" Maybe life is all about facades, playing the game almost. Some play the game expertly, some have no clue what the rules are, and some make them up as they go along. I'm not sure which camp I fall into but cheers, though - again, I really appreciate what you posted.




And the same goes to everyone who has posted here. Thanks very much.

onenitealone said:

Absolutely!!

Move between the camps I say, make up more rules so those who think they know how to play suddenly find out that actually they don’t.

Just don’t get stuck in a rut.

PREDOMINANT said:

I'll try.

That rut has got my name written all over it. Even though I say this every year, I have to grab that bull by the horns at some point. Cheers, Steve.

PREDOMINANT said:

VERY wise words Professor Predom

onenitealone said:

Without wanting to go all Paul McKenna on things, visualisation can help, ONA. Little technique - spend 5 mins each morning, remembering and visualising a time when u felt like the absolute nuts. Maybe that pic of you and ur org buddies in London the other day?...really get inside that feeling, like are there again, imagine all the colours, smells, etc. While u do this, squeeze the thumb and forefinger of ur RIGHT hand together. Not the left - the right.
Then, when ur out and about and u feel that shitty feeling a' coming atcha, squeeze those fingers together.
Give it a go...
Failing that, drink more wine
If I need cheering up, all I do is imagine ur ex doing the samba in the kitchen...does it for me....

LittleSmedley said:

Yeah, that is one of those memories that always raises a chuckle.

Hey Smedley. Thank you for your comments - I may try that. Is it something you've done? I've been feeling a lot better the last day or two, thanks - and I am drinking wine right now, so that's helping out.

Cheers, though, I really do appreciate it.

I don't have any of that, not one bit.

Sweeny79 said:

Hey Kim, I hope everything's okay with you.

You should do - there are enough people here who respect you.

Hang in there and take care.

onenitealone said:

Thanks hon!