Having just moved, I've realized (yet again) that the friends I make suck at keeping in touch. If I ever wanna talk to them, I have to call because they never do it. Currently, I only have two friends who don't live nearby that I ever talk to. Eventually, I lose interest in the one-sided shit from the others. Anyone else have this problem?

Please treat this thread as seriously as Imago does his phone jokes.

I'm guilty of sucking at keeping in touch.

Yeah alot of my friends are like that and its ALWAYS me calling.. and its not like they are doning much either, they are just crap at keeping intouch..

I gave up phoning them, and have spring cleaned my friends..

Don't get me started on this shit. I had a friend like that who broke my heart!

Yeah, I've encountered that and I look at this way, if somebody wants to talk or keep in touch with you then they will because friendships aren't one-sided.

just because a friend doesnt call you regularly doesnt mean they dont care. people have lives. i know i suck at it but i'm a busy person with a family and other things going on in my life. if they don't understand then they are not being good friends either.

My family thinks that I hate them because I suck so bad at contacting them, and I really can't blame them.....same with my friends....it was so bad that when I was stationed in Germany the first time, my fam and my friends teamed up and called the Red Cross because they thought something happened to me.....

I hear you, because this happened to me to some extent.

But we have to remember that we moved away from our friends, so it's kind of on us to maintain the friendship. This doesn't mean they shouldn't call you back, but I think we bear most of the burdan, and that includes visiting.

brownsugar said:

I still love you, even though it's been a while.

brownsugar said:

I get that and I have friends who are made crazed busy with their hands full from everyday life...but when you're the one that's doing all the calling and trying to keep in touch, after awhile some people stop and I think at some point we all say, they're not calling me.

and admittedly, I've been guilty of not keeping in touch with many recently.
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live4lust said:

Yep

IAmNotSpats said:

i love you to

I just really miss my friends. I feel really depressed today.

JDInteractive said:

I'm begging you to snap out of it. You'll see them soon, fuzzface. Go get a drink in you.

INSATIABLE said:

I did last night. I updated my blog by the way...

JDInteractive said:

Blocked at work. I get my JD fixes at night in class.

No, I don't have this problem at all. My friends and I ignore each other equally....meaning, it's no big deal if we don't keep in touch often.

We talk when we talk and that's cool.

JustErin said:

and thats the way me and my friends are.

brownsugar said:

It would be easier if I was like that, but when you live across the country and they don't return calls, it's hopeless. I don't really consider them friends anymore. It's been months with no contact.

I try to limit my contacts to just females.
And as friends,
I don't like 'em one-sided.
I much prefer 'em one-dimensional.
It's much easier to get into their pants that way.

live4lust said:

yeah, that's not right

live4lust said:

well living across the country makes it even harder. people have things going on you can't take it personal or let it bother you 'cause they can't give you what you expect all the time. some things in their life just have more precedence -thats just the way it is. besides your in a different place, different people. you'll be okay

I've had that lots. I've come to the conclusion that I am an add on to everyone elses pre-formed groups of friends, and very rarely a part of my own reliable group of friends. Therefore, the other friends contact those in their own group before me. It's all very scientific

I have ended up with so many friends/acquaintances from so many different groups, though, that its not really a problem any more unlike high school.

brownsugar said:

For real. That's exactly the way I see it as well.

brownsugar said:

Thanks, I will. But it makes me appreciate the people who have me as a priority even more.

yeah i HAD friends like this until I stopped taking the initiative all the time by calling them because they wouldn't call me. The way i see it is, if they want to hear from you, then they would THINK enough of you to call you. Calling them all the time is wasting your time. Maybe thats why i don't have many friends now. but i don't give a fuck really.

Friends are for pussies.

brownsugar said:

My friend wasn't busy. He was just self-centered

None of my friends are married, just to clear that up as an excuse. And they don't have kids. They just don't care, that's all. It's fine, I can find new people who don't care just as easily. Maybe even some real friends, too.

I'm the same. Fuck em. I fucked em early cause I realised early. I have 4 good friends now who never let me down.