Why is it when I go to a movie and it's not very crowded, INVARIABLY some schmoes always have to come sit two seats away, or right behind us - even though there's a WHOLE ROOM of seats from which to choose?

Or when I'm waiting for a train and I'm the only person on the platform and then someone comes down and has to stand RIGHT NEXT TO ME, as if I had the secret for the perfect waiting spot or something.

Today at lunch, I was sitting in an EMPTY CAFETERIA eating my lunch and a group of people come in and one of them says "this looks like a good table!" and they of course sit RIGHT NEXT TO ME in a big ass empty cafeteria.

What is this about?!? I mean, I'm not the world's most eager people-person, but come on. Isn't it courteous to give people a polite amount of space when you're SWIMMING in space to begin with? Are these people trying to be my friend? Or do they think I'm going to protect them? I don't understand the motives. It's like some form of advanced stupidity that I can't wrap my head around.

INSIGHTS PLEASE.

You're just too irresistible and people wanna be near your amazing ass, always.

I dunno, I got nothing. I only read the first line of your post anyway.

OMG, I know.

My FAVORITE is when I go to "kids" movies with my friend Thom (we have a thing for talking animal movies), and we go at an odd hour in a neighborhood where there aren't a lot of kids (), and we sit in the back and think we've got the whole theater to ourselves, and at the LAST MINUTE a woman and her three kids and their wheelbarrow full of snacks walks in, and they look around at the nearly empty theater, and plant their noisy mess RIGHT IN FRONT OF US. This has happened multiple times. I think theater seating should be chosen like airplane seats, in advance.

I hate ppl invading my personal space.. there have been times, like you say, and I am standing waiting for a tube, train, bus whatever and someone stands REAL close to me, so I move along abit, cos I dont want their germs jumping on me, lol, and then they move the few steps closer to me.. that really freaks me out.

I HATE people walking behind me.. hate hate hate and try to avoid it as much as possible

and why do women when they go swimming take up the whole lane cos they wanna swim real slowly and chat, but they swim next to each other, and you gotta swim twice as far to get round them and overtake them

and on the train the carriage can be close to empty but some freak comes and sists right next to me..



grrr..!!!!

JustErin said:

you don't belong to a very exclusive club, i'm sure.

REDFEATHERS said:

The walking behind thing also freaks me, it's more of a security/robbery thing...you're wondering who the hell is walking behind you and why.

Another pet peev...waiting in line at the bank

liberation said:

it bugs me when people walk right behind me, but it REALLY makes me insane when someone with really loud cloppety heels is walking right behind me. that sound goes directly to the rawest part of my nervous system and hacks at it with little dentist drills. it's bad.

ooh, i fucking HATE that!

liberation said:

yeah.. i just dont wanna be jumped.

I hate when men walk infront of me too, but they have their hands behind their back..

~shudder~

you would think people would want to avoid that sort of thing. i make a point to avoid areas where people are already at. cant they feel the leave me alone vibe?

HereToRockYourWorld said:

the only logic i can think of for this is that some people come from such huge families that they have no concept of personal space or social boundaries, or why such things would be desirable, so when they see other people their instinct is "oh! let's go sit with them! it's other people! neat!"

Anx said:

You may be right. I mean, there must be SOME explanation for it.

I AM NOT NEAT!

HereToRockYourWorld said:

i have no desire to be 'neat' for anyone unless i know them.

Anx said:

Even then, man, schedule that shit in advance.

Being neat for strangers is right out.

It's obvious that you are world famous for knowing all the cool things and the right places to be and shit. So when they see you, they think where you are MUST be the place to be. I mean if I was in an empty cafeteria and I saw you, I'd naturally choose to be near where you are as something great might happen.

Just think of yourself as the Average Joe with Madonna like appeal. I mean who wouldn't sit next to Madonna?

HereToRockYourWorld said:

nope, you're not neat.























you're NEAT-O!

superspaceboy said:

i wouldn't want to sit next to madonna. i hear she carries like five cell phones. i don't want to sit next to that mess.

cborgman said:

Anx said:

People that want to be near people definitely confuse & bother me, too

I should add that this week I had to wait at the top of the stairs while my co-workers finished their conversation on the stairs.

NDRU said:

oh, that's a whole 'nother thread but that BURNS MY ASS TO A CRISP!!!!

Anx said:

there is a million of 'em

Anx said:

yeah I remembered that was on your list as it happened to me

Over here, I run into this while waiting in line at the dining facility....the local/third country nationals will come RIGHT UP BEHIND you.. ..I mean close enough for them to check your wallet from inside YOUR pants....one got up on me so close that it felt like he was rubbing his junk on my leg.. ...which was just a bit too up in my space for me....the look on my face alone was enough to make him back off a full two feet away from me....

...but what chafes my hide even more is when someone gets all up on you and decide to try to engage you in a conversation.....when all you want is some friggin' space.....

NDRU said:

my whole thing is just, you know, GIVE OTHER PEOPLE SPACE. pretend like they do things with their lives that occasionally have nothing to do with you or your needs. that's all! get the hell out of people's way! leave strangers out of your craziness! don't assume people want to be drawn into your world! BACK OFF!


ughghgh

NDRU said:

maybe its rude but i've just said excuse me and pushed myself right through. especially when i'm rushing. i ain't got time for that shit!

brownsugar said:

i've learned to do that. it's part of growing a good urban armor.

but so is watching where you're standing around piddlefarting! grrrr

piddlefarting

wow. you'd think we don't like people much

reneGade20 said:

Americans seem to need more space than people in other countries. It's weird how someone can just be close but it feels like they're touching you almost.