You said I was an idiot once to which I laughed and I agreed with you. You are too not because of the situation in hand per se you are just a loon. Plus I think you are fab.

JDInteractive said:

I think how it went was you said you were an idiot and I agreed.

And I am a loon, for sure.

Thanks.

HereToRockYourWorld said:

soooo.... ?? any news? any decision made? what's happening??

SexOnWheels said:

I told her I'm willing to give it my very best shot. She's happy and relieved, but I don't think she's gotten past her fear and decided she's willing to take the leap again. I'm giving her time. Which is, of course, a new and different brand of agony. Waiting.

SexOnWheels said:

I told her I'm willing to give it my very best shot. She's happy and relieved, but I don't think she's gotten past her fear and decided she's willing to take the leap again. I'm giving her time. Which is, of course, a new and different brand of agony. Waiting.

SexOnWheels said:

I told her I'm willing to give it my very best shot. She's happy and relieved, but I don't think she's gotten past her fear and decided she's willing to take the leap again. I'm giving her time. Which is, of course, a new and different brand of agony. Waiting.

I'm starting to feel too old to be a fool for love.

I spent the night with my recently-ex-girlfriend last night.

And of COURSE it was wonderful, and so I completely handed over my dignity and self-respect in a heart-shaped box and said, "here, take it, whatever you want, I just want YOU!"



And I do want her. And I think maybe there were a lot of misunderstandings behind breaking up, and that we cleared a lot of them up last night (before the torrid lovemaking, of course). But. . . shit. . .I still feel like a damned idiot.


Tell me, people. Has anybody, EVER, in the HISTORY OF HUMANITY, broken up with somebody, gotten back together, and had it turn out to be a long-term happy relationship? Ever? Because I've never heard of such a thing.


I'm starting to feel too old to be a fool for love.

HereToRockYourWorld said:

You're never too old to be a fool for love.

Too old to accept abuse and unhealthy patterns, sure, yeah.

But I'll be a fool for love till the day I die.

youre not an idiot.

and even if it doesnt work out, you feel better for having tried, right?

nothing wrong with that.

JDInteractive said:

I think how it went was you said you were an idiot and I agreed.

And I am a loon, for sure.

Thanks.

HereToRockYourWorld said:

You didnt have to agree! Can you imagine the complications of us sleeping together!!?

Well. She's in. Wish me luck. . . strength. . . clarity. . .wisdom. . . and whateverthefuck else a person needs to help a long-term relationship thrive.

Well. She's in. Wish me luck. . . strength. . . clarity. . .wisdom. . . and whateverthefuck else a person needs to help a long-term relationship thrive.

JDInteractive said:

I've never tried.

Are you SURE you're not currently drunk?

HereToRockYourWorld said:

I am so happy for you both. You do not need luck- just honesty, commitment and communication.

Oh and take a tip from me- don't listen to all of the ppl that think they know what is best for you. No one knows what is on your hearts but the two of you. No one else matter when it comes to love.


You have all of the tools you need- you are smart and caring with a great heart.

Be well- Be happy

I wish you all the luck in the world. Shanti's right up there - you just have to be honest with yourselves and each other, and do what feels right for you, not everyone else. If I had done what everyone else told me to, I might have thrown away my soulmate.

susannah said:

See there... I know that some ppl think they have your best interest in mind when they give their advice or opinion but it is up to the two ppl in the relationship to do what is best and follow their hearts- wherever that might lead them.

Shanti1 said:

I mentioned in my first post, it was my best friend who was most forthcoming with the "youre doing the wrong thing" advice, but when I thought about it I realised she was just saying that out of some sort of behaviour pattern - she had very little experience of men, let alone relationships, and certainly let alone love. She actually
didnt know what she was talking about.

So dont listen to us!

susannah said:

I had that happen to me last night. Someone with little experience with men trying to give me advice and warning..well it is ok- everyone is entitled to an opinion- does not mean I have to listen or care about it.

Well. She's in. Wish me luck. . . strength. . . clarity. . .wisdom. . . and whateverthefuck else a person needs to help a long-term relationship thrive.

Shanti1 said:

It was quite hard for me at the time, because she really was my best friend, and I wanted to lean on her, but at the same time I had to stop myself from saying "you dont know what youre talking about!" I think I was just looking at her thinking "where is this coming from? How do you know that? Films?!"

As long as we know not to listen...

susannah said:

Exactly..
I always try to give ppl the benefit of the doubt that they mean well with their advice but at the end of the day we know what is right for US and no one call tell us what is best.