About once a month I come home from work and wish my fiance was either gay, or a more feminine man so it would occur to him that certain things needs to be done in order to make this house continue to look nice. Granted, he does fine when I leave him an itemized list of what I want done, but I hate doing that because it makes me feel like, er, "the boss."

This causes stress, and an eventual "get away from me awhile I don't like you right now" moment. Alex knew my dispapointment thoroughly before he went to work last night.

So, here's something that amuses me. He knows exactly what buttons to push to make his life easier when he comes home:

1.) He gave me fantastic sex.
2.) When I came downstairs this morning, there was a huge thing of lilies on the bar counter.

He wins again!

ok, are you complaining or?

CarrieMpls said:

Definitely complaining.

But in an amused sort of way.

CortestheKiller said:

eh, just keep making the lists. If he doesn't get it without them and doesn't mind doing them I see no issue.

CarrieMpls said:

You know, I have myself mostly convinced of that, too. I still get annoyed when I think about the fact it should just naturally occur to him. Maybe eventually....

is this a "take the garbage out" kind of list?

you could make it a shared list.
like something on the fridge with tasks for both.
both survey what needs to be done and
stroke the items off as they are finished

emm said:

Yeah, that's what's going to have to happen. I guess I just always figured these things would occur to him to actually do without my needing to give him a list.

Whip that boy into shape!

we rule!!

CortestheKiller said:

I lose it when someone puts dishes in the sink right after I've done them. He's not doing anything like that is he?

CortestheKiller said:

Most men just aren't like that.
Try to change that, or get frustrated with it takes away from the good things you have, like great sex and uhhh...

flowers!

AnckSuNamun said:

Don't we all?

PANDURITO said:

yay, you're here!

gemini13 said:

Am I?

Not anymore. Mistress says dinner's ready

PANDURITO said:

So she's already handled the control issues in your relationship, eh?

Excellent!

your a girl?

Oh Lawd!! I'm a pig when it comes to chores....


M

sosgemini said:

All of my life!

Funny I live with a too... Constantly walking behind him and picking up messes.


*OINK* *OINK*
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CortestheKiller said:

Umm, call me simple but I think YOU won on that one

we always win!

and once you marry it will only get worse, trust me

CalhounSq said:

You know, I see your point. I was referring more to the fact he was easily forgiven without actually picking up after his damn self.

abierman said:

HAHAHAHA

No you don't.

gemini13 said:

Yeah. I can't believe he's so innocent!

PANDURITO said:

Not when there's an empty dishwasher right there. It's so annoying. I like to see a clean & perfect sink for at least a couple of hours.

although its a highly unscientific observation, most of the guys I know (including myself) who had a sister or many sisters don't have an issue with cleaning the house or what have you.....My wife sometimes actually hates that I will just jump up and start cleaning the house because she says it makes her feel like she's not up to the task....I just remind her that we both live there so to me its no big deal.....I try not to keep score...

...and we still have great "sack-time"....

I do, however, draw the line at having to wear the french maid outfit.....

jesus.... a list? is that what i have to look forward to?

Milty said:

The only thing worse than the list is the look of disapproval when you don't complete it.....


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