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heartbeatocean said: I have a transexual friend who went from she to he during my time of knowing her--->him. I knew of her before she was a he, but then I became friends with him after she became a he. It was the hardest thing for me to think of her as a him. I felt like the essence was a she and the covering was a he. But then as I got to know him better, he definitely seemed like a he because his voice got low and gruff and he had facial hair, wore a leather jacket and had a masculine aura. So now I mostly think of him as a him, but with a soft her inside also and mostly as a really smart friend who has a lot in common with me.
I'm curious to see if I'll ever really think of this person as a man. His voice (I am trying, out of respect, to say "his") is deepening, but like you say, that feels a little like a covering. I feel like all the hormones and surgery still don't change that chromosome. I guess I also don't understand that kind of radical medical procedure. I'd never undergo surgery like that except to save my life. But maybe over time I'll adjust My Legacy
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Anx said: You know, those people who you don't know if they're male or female and they don't want to disclose that information and you're all like, "I just want to know what pronouns to use" and then they're all like "screw you, that's none of your business, leave me alone" and then you're like "then how can I love you?" and they're all "cut a hole in the sheet and figure it out" and then you've had enough so you go out walking and find an IHOP and you spend all night eating caramel crepes because it's really hard to have just one plate, especially when you're confronted with gender ambiguity late at night, so you stay up all night eating damn IHOP and reading an old copy of IN STYLE you found stuffed in your booth, then you go home the next morning and they're waiting at the door in their non-gender-revealing nightclothes, shaking their head at you and they're all like, "NOW YOU'RE FAT!" and you're like WHAT.EVER, because at least you know that much about yourself, you know?
So what's that ABOUT?!?!? I don't know. I don't get it. I really like spicy food. I mostly put Jalapenos on a lot of my food.
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that was a really really long sentence. puctuation is not over rated you know!
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Anx said: oh PS: this is all hypothetical.
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heartbeatocean said: I have a transexual friend who went from she to he during my time of knowing her--->him. I knew of her before she was a he, but then I became friends with him after she became a he. It was the hardest thing for me to think of her as a him. I felt like the essence was a she and the covering was a he. But then as I got to know him better, he definitely seemed like a he because his voice got low and gruff and he had facial hair, wore a leather jacket and had a masculine aura. So now I mostly think of him as a him, but with a soft her inside also and mostly as a really smart friend who has a lot in common with me.
That sounds very natural to me, it takes time to ajust but a person is a person, sex only matters so much. But to make such a fuss about as not to want to go to male or female toilet When either one is full I just go to the other, if you gotta go you gotta go right? | |
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NDRU said: heartbeatocean said: I have a transexual friend who went from she to he during my time of knowing her--->him. I knew of her before she was a he, but then I became friends with him after she became a he. It was the hardest thing for me to think of her as a him. I felt like the essence was a she and the covering was a he. But then as I got to know him better, he definitely seemed like a he because his voice got low and gruff and he had facial hair, wore a leather jacket and had a masculine aura. So now I mostly think of him as a him, but with a soft her inside also and mostly as a really smart friend who has a lot in common with me.
I'm curious to see if I'll ever really think of this person as a man. His voice (I am trying, out of respect, to say "his") is deepening, but like you say, that feels a little like a covering. I feel like all the hormones and surgery still don't change that chromosome. I guess I also don't understand that kind of radical medical procedure. I'd never undergo surgery like that except to save my life. But maybe over time I'll adjust For a long time, I felt that I simply couldn't think of them as a different gender. It made me realize how deeply we are wired to perceive people according to their gender. But I really got to know this person after the sex change and the more I got to know him, I feel like he's a him. There are just so many masculine signals now, that that's what I see. But like with so many of my friends, now the gender is secondary as I mostly think of them as my friend, as the person who they are. Because it really doesn't matter. | |
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Whateva said: ...but a person is a person, sex only matters so much. yeah, that's it right there. | |
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heartbeatocean said: Whateva said: ...but a person is a person, sex only matters so much. yeah, that's it right there. Especially if you're not having it with them. My Legacy
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OMG.
I've never met one of these. | |
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NDRU said: heartbeatocean said: yeah, that's it right there. Especially if you're not having it with them. Nope, in that case it's best to be bisexual I guess | |
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NDRU said: heartbeatocean said: yeah, that's it right there. Especially if you're not having it with them. Actually, I'm more attracted to him now that he's a guy. It's funny because he's a guy guy too, not one of those effeminate types. | |
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NDRU said: Someone at my job just went through gender reassignment. My bosses were calling her "him" the day after she announced that she was doing it--before it actually happened, and their only comments were "that's so cool!"
I'm pretty open minded, and I support people's decisions as long as they don't hurt anyone else. But I realized that it was okay for me to not just treat it as "oh whatever, she's a he now." I knew her as a her for years and now she was getting a new name and new identity. Why should that not be something I would need to adjust to over some time? Now I've been cool to him to his face and I use his new name out of respect. But I just thought my bosses were weird for acting like it was no big deal--something that everyone goes through. I mean, what if Anx renounced Xanadu and started calling himself Xna? Would it be no big deal? | |
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I never understood why a man would go through all of that stress and work to be a women...it is a pain in the ass to be a women..I don't get it.
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SexOnWheels said: XxAxX said: i don't think so? SNL seriously needs to revive Pat. i LOVED that sketch. i remember the one where John Goodman gave her/him a haircut and tried offering her/him either a Better Homes and Gardens magazine or something like Cars and Trucks, and s/he asked for People. by the end of the sketch he was trying to feel her/him up just to figure it out!! good times. good times. [Edited 3/31/07 22:48pm] omg tooo dang funny...pat used to kind of feel her/himself up while talking making those lil moany type noises and remember his/her partner...wasnt her/his name chris?? lol-another gender neutral mess... due to the content i suggest you like this... | |
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heartbeatocean said: NDRU said: Especially if you're not having it with them. Actually, I'm more attracted to him now that he's a guy. It's funny because he's a guy guy too, not one of those effeminate types. Maybe that's part (only part, I know) of the reason for doing it--that a woman who becomes a man is not intested in a lesbian lifestyle, but a heterosexual lifestyle as a man? My Legacy
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I love gender-neutral people. Why do ya think I'm on a Prince site?! | |
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LleeLlee said: REDFEATHERS said: Did you see what I wrote? It was soo off topic.. yeah, something about chip buttys. with mushy peas | |
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NDRU said: heartbeatocean said: I have a transexual friend who went from she to he during my time of knowing her--->him. I knew of her before she was a he, but then I became friends with him after she became a he. It was the hardest thing for me to think of her as a him. I felt like the essence was a she and the covering was a he. But then as I got to know him better, he definitely seemed like a he because his voice got low and gruff and he had facial hair, wore a leather jacket and had a masculine aura. So now I mostly think of him as a him, but with a soft her inside also and mostly as a really smart friend who has a lot in common with me.
I'm curious to see if I'll ever really think of this person as a man. His voice (I am trying, out of respect, to say "his") is deepening, but like you say, that feels a little like a covering. I feel like all the hormones and surgery still don't change that chromosome. I guess I also don't understand that kind of radical medical procedure. I'd never undergo surgery like that except to save my life. But maybe over time I'll adjust Maybe the difficulty you're having with this is that you are confusing sex with gender. A person's sex -what their chromosomes say they are is static and obviously can't be changed, but a person's gender -their mental and emotional state of ebing man or woman -can be. Sometimes the gender just doesn't match the sex, and it's really just more cost-effective, practical, and simple to rearrange the body to match the mind rather than the mind to match the body. "A Watcher scoffs at gravity!" | |
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Shanti1 said: I never understood why a man would go through all of that stress and work to be a women...it is a pain in the ass to be a women..I don't get it.
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sweet said: SexOnWheels said: SNL seriously needs to revive Pat. i LOVED that sketch. i remember the one where John Goodman gave her/him a haircut and tried offering her/him either a Better Homes and Gardens magazine or something like Cars and Trucks, and s/he asked for People. by the end of the sketch he was trying to feel her/him up just to figure it out!! good times. good times. [Edited 3/31/07 22:48pm] omg tooo dang funny...pat used to kind of feel her/himself up while talking making those lil moany type noises and remember his/her partner...wasnt her/his name chris?? lol-another gender neutral mess... i don't remember pat's partner! is there a "best of" dvd i can rent somewhere! | |
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SexOnWheels said: sweet said: omg tooo dang funny...pat used to kind of feel her/himself up while talking making those lil moany type noises and remember his/her partner...wasnt her/his name chris?? lol-another gender neutral mess... i don't remember pat's partner! is there a "best of" dvd i can rent somewhere! i cant find one that specifies pat but i found this on imdb: i guess there was a movie...who knew? http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0110169/ Pat Riley, an obnoxious busybody of undeterminable sex, meets and falls in love with Chris, a sensitive, caring person also of undeterminable sex. Their relationship suffers because Pat's a lout, and cannot decide on a direction for its life. Meanwhile, Pat's neighbor Kyle falls further and further into obsession with Pat, fascinated by its indeterminate sexuality. due to the content i suggest you like this... | |
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sweet said: SexOnWheels said: i don't remember pat's partner! is there a "best of" dvd i can rent somewhere! i cant find one that specifies pat but i found this on imdb: i guess there was a movie...who knew? http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0110169/ Pat Riley, an obnoxious busybody of undeterminable sex, meets and falls in love with Chris, a sensitive, caring person also of undeterminable sex. Their relationship suffers because Pat's a lout, and cannot decide on a direction for its life. Meanwhile, Pat's neighbor Kyle falls further and further into obsession with Pat, fascinated by its indeterminate sexuality. adding to netflix queue..... | |
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meow85 said: NDRU said: I'm curious to see if I'll ever really think of this person as a man. His voice (I am trying, out of respect, to say "his") is deepening, but like you say, that feels a little like a covering. I feel like all the hormones and surgery still don't change that chromosome. I guess I also don't understand that kind of radical medical procedure. I'd never undergo surgery like that except to save my life. But maybe over time I'll adjust Maybe the difficulty you're having with this is that you are confusing sex with gender. A person's sex -what their chromosomes say they are is static and obviously can't be changed, but a person's gender -their mental and emotional state of ebing man or woman -can be. Sometimes the gender just doesn't match the sex, and it's really just more cost-effective, practical, and simple to rearrange the body to match the mind rather than the mind to match the body. It's true I don't quite get it, but that's okay. I don't have to get it, I just have to respect his choice. The issue I have is just that it's a huge change, and I think it's okay for it to take a while to become real in my mind. It's hard to adjust to peoples' changes. People still call me Andy, even though I started going by Andrew in 1991. Then they apologise and make a big deal out of it! My Legacy
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NDRU said: meow85 said: Maybe the difficulty you're having with this is that you are confusing sex with gender. A person's sex -what their chromosomes say they are is static and obviously can't be changed, but a person's gender -their mental and emotional state of ebing man or woman -can be. Sometimes the gender just doesn't match the sex, and it's really just more cost-effective, practical, and simple to rearrange the body to match the mind rather than the mind to match the body. It's true I don't quite get it, but that's okay. I don't have to get it, I just have to respect his choice. The issue I have is just that it's a huge change, and I think it's okay for it to take a while to become real in my mind. It's hard to adjust to peoples' changes. People still call me Andy, even though I started going by Andrew in 1991. Then they apologise and make a big deal out of it! off topic...u sooo dont look like an andy to me...u r totally NDRU u have a nice calming quality about u that i dig do u actually correct 'em when they call u andy tho? due to the content i suggest you like this... | |
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sweet said: NDRU said: It's true I don't quite get it, but that's okay. I don't have to get it, I just have to respect his choice. The issue I have is just that it's a huge change, and I think it's okay for it to take a while to become real in my mind. It's hard to adjust to peoples' changes. People still call me Andy, even though I started going by Andrew in 1991. Then they apologise and make a big deal out of it! off topic...u sooo dont look like an andy to me...u r totally NDRU u have a nice calming quality about u that i dig do u actually correct 'em when they call u andy tho? nah, I don't care if they call me andy, especially if they've know me a long time. But they tend to make a big deal saying "sorry, I forgot, you go by Andrew now!" I just say "I call myself Andrew, but it's okay if you know me as Andy." That's just three letters of change. I can only imagine if I chopped my penis off! I guess they probably wouldn't forget! My Legacy
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Anx said: You know, those people who you don't know if they're male or female and they don't want to disclose that information and you're all like, "I just want to know what pronouns to use" and then they're all like "screw you, that's none of your business, leave me alone" and then you're like "then how can I love you?" and they're all "cut a hole in the sheet and figure it out" and then you've had enough so you go out walking and find an IHOP and you spend all night eating caramel crepes because it's really hard to have just one plate, especially when you're confronted with gender ambiguity late at night, so you stay up all night eating damn IHOP and reading an old copy of IN STYLE you found stuffed in your booth, then you go home the next morning and they're waiting at the door in their non-gender-revealing nightclothes, shaking their head at you and they're all like, "NOW YOU'RE FAT!" and you're like WHAT.EVER, because at least you know that much about yourself, you know?
So what's that ABOUT?!?!? you really need to get off those teenage girl "we boyz" boards... they are ruining your linguistic ability. Power tends to corrupt; absolute power corrupts absolutely. - Lord Acton | |
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