Another one of my friends died last night. That's two now. He was in his early 30s and got fibrosis of the lungs. Then yesterday one of my favorite orgers deleted his account with no forwarding address. Death is doing a dance with me these days.

One of my high school friends was found in the trunk of his car, with his new wife, shot up.

It was his ex-wife and her new boy friend who did it. I didn't find out until months after his death, as I did a very bad job of keeping in contact with my high school friends.

It's a very wierd experience at the very least. I haven't experienced actual death of friends that I've cried over yet. I assume it's a horrible feeling as I tend to love my friends very much.

Imago said:

What a horrible story! I have had so little experience with death until now. I am still reeling utterly disoriented by the suicide last month, but this recent death feels very very different. It has something to do with the kinds of people they were and at least this time people got to say goodbye and there was a lot of love and care around it.

for you both.

heartbeatocean - wow, that sounds like a lot for one person to deal with and experience, especially in such a short span of time.

thanks so much guys. I love the support of the community here. It is a lot to deal with, but their families have it much much worse. The intensity of the circumstances has changed me as a person permanently, I think, that's what I feel. But it makes me love life and everyone I know all the more.

I'm sorry to hear it HEARTBEATOCEAN and IMAGO.

As you all know. My favorite cousin, we were like brothers, died in 2004 and then in 2005 my best friend died.

It is hard, unfortunately we all have to go through it. Losing a parent is the worst. I lost my mom in 1994. I can't say it was easier, because we knew she was going to pass away and we were by her side until the end, but it was different. My cousin and best friend was a total shock. They found my cousin in his room dead, they never knew exactly what happened. He had problems though and used drugs. My best friend had rare tumors and passed away 1 1/2 months after diagnosis.

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RIP friend of heartbeatocean

for you and all involved


A friend / co-worker of my husbands died yesterday as well ... in the past month in our lives we have lost 5 ( friends and family members ) and have learned that 3 people we love have cancer

life is strange sometimes

My family has experienced some tragedy in the past few days as well. There has been a lot of suffering here too...I hope there peace to be found for us all.

I'm so sorry...none of us will escape tragedy, unfortunately.

Eventually finding peace with it is the only consolation.

My love to all of you.

for everyone's losses!!! Be with the grief and let it change you and let it rest with the love and memory and that way find peace.

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

I'm sorry! Yes, shock is really tough. My biggest problem with all this is small children losing their father to suicide. That's just something I cannot reconcile and never will be able to.

Mach said:

applekisses said:

I'm sorry! It will take time. My condolences.

sorry this is happening to people you love

hang in there

heartbeatocean said:

great sentiment for dealing with loss.

For your loss.

heartbeatocean said:

You know, this is really how I fel about it too.

Sorry to hear about this loss. Let your friends help you through the others that are bound to come

Sorry to hear it.




Heres to hoping you recover quickly from your grief.


If the orger is JD, I'm sure he'll be back.

cystic fibrosis is a bitch. a guy i knew in university had it bad but i am not in touch with him any longer. i was so surprised to see him on tv last year... i thought well at least i know he's still alive.


hope you can mourn your friend, but also celebrate who he was

heartbeatocean said:

Sorry to hear about your friend passing away.

for your losses.

emm said:

My friend was HIV+

I spoke to him on the phone about a year ago when he was in the hospital with pneumonia and almost lost his life then. He's part of the second generation affected by AIDS and yes, they're still dying.

I'm so sorry to hear that.

Last year, a work friend of mine died of cancer. She was in her early 30s and had just married another work buddy of mine.

That followed losses of other young friends within a year or two.

Hang in there.