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and find some new friends [Edited 3/25/07 10:47am] if sexy was a colour it would be red  | |
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gemini13 said: SureThing said: I don't know. I think he's been brain washed. I think he has her same feelings now. We didn't really talk about it, I can just tell. Well, not saying that you should handle it the way I would, but I would beembarrassingly blunt in front of the two of them, and just ask them both at the same time. I'd ask "So...whateverhernameis....why do you have such a problem with me being pussywhipped's friend?", and turn to him and say "And why would you let someone who is new to our friendship treat me this way? What kind of friend would do that?" Light the fireworks and watch them squirm. But, at least they KNOW you feel this way, and she might back off. She'll probably talk shit behind your back, but who cares? Be aggressive if you feel that you are in the right. "why do you have such a problem with me being pussywhipped's friend?" 
It's so strange.....to see someone who I THOUGHT I knew so well, act like THIS. Like, I'm kinda at the point where I'm just like, your not who I thought you were, so I'm not even sure I CARE anymore. It's a sad situation. It's just not something I would do. Bros before Ho's. Or whatever. Yanno? | |
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i've been the dumpee... and it doesn't feel very nice
i am assuming (because the punk never had the balls to tell me) that his girlfriend made him choose. but whatever. i moved on. i understand it would be harder if i still had to see the fucker. i don't... neither of us still live in that place. all in all there is not much you can do except be fabulous to show him what an idiot he is.   She couldn't stop crying 'cause she knew he was gone to stay | |
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emm said: i've been the dumpee... and it doesn't feel very nice
i am assuming (because the punk never had the balls to tell me) that his girlfriend made him choose. but whatever. i moved on. i understand it would be harder if i still had to see the fucker. i don't... neither of us still live in that place. all in all there is not much you can do except be fabulous to show him what an idiot he is. Thats sad. See it's hard for me, cuz like, this has happened a lot of times in the past too. I'm always friends with the guys more than the girls, and, I guess sometimes, the new girlfriend, doesn't get that or whatever. It's so lame. Cuz it's not like, I WANT the dude. I'm MARRIED. Even when we go out with a group, I normally have more to say to the guys than the girls. But everyone knows this. I swear I would never try to talk shit on his new girl or whatever. I don't get it. | |
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My girlfriend has problems with all and each of my friends. They r not to blame so I try 2 keeps them (the 2 parties) at a distance from each other.
Girlfriend is generally much more studious than me and has aquired a stressful job. She says she doesn't expect me 2 drop them, but they shouldn't come 'round and I should spend less time with them. I hardly see them anyway. She's really not a social person. I am social, though not very much so, but the friends that I do have r like family 2 me. This situation boils up from time 2 time and leads to rows which seriously threaten the future of our relationship. She can become very abusive and doesn't have the sense, or the courage to apologize in any way, though she might b sorry for the things she's said. One of these rows can put me in a depressed state for a week or two, it seriously effects my work and of course my social life. I've considered dropping the friends she has problems with, finding new ones etc., but replacing loved ones is actually impossible, and I despise being bullied into anything. I'm sure I'd had dropped her a long time ago if it wasn't 4 my beautiful daughter. My daughter also suffers from this impossible situation, and when things are at there lowest I consider moving on without her, partly 4 her own benefit. But the thought of it makes me sick. Sometimes I think, better no father than a weak, or bad one I worry about the next time a friend rings the doorbell and innocently and inevitably throws a bomb into my household. I'm stuck in this situation and it saps the life out of me. | |
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Your friend is free to do what he wishes. It sucks if he won't see you because of her, but if he's happy, let him be. That's what a real friend should do, IMO. | |
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SureThing said: gemini13 said: Well, not saying that you should handle it the way I would, but I would beembarrassingly blunt in front of the two of them, and just ask them both at the same time. I'd ask "So...whateverhernameis....why do you have such a problem with me being pussywhipped's friend?", and turn to him and say "And why would you let someone who is new to our friendship treat me this way? What kind of friend would do that?" Light the fireworks and watch them squirm. But, at least they KNOW you feel this way, and she might back off. She'll probably talk shit behind your back, but who cares? Be aggressive if you feel that you are in the right. "why do you have such a problem with me being pussywhipped's friend?"
It's so strange.....to see someone who I THOUGHT I knew so well, act like THIS. Like, I'm kinda at the point where I'm just like, your not who I thought you were, so I'm not even sure I CARE anymore. It's a sad situation. It's just not something I would do. Bros before Ho's. Or whatever. Yanno? Well, I would still try to make her feel stupid in some way, because SHE is the one who is new to this, and she should not be so jealous of you. I would fight for my friendship. You will feel bad if you let her "win". | |
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gemini13 said: SureThing said: I don't know. I think he's been brain washed. I think he has her same feelings now. We didn't really talk about it, I can just tell. Well, not saying that you should handle it the way I would, but I would beembarrassingly blunt in front of the two of them, and just ask them both at the same time. I'd ask "So...whateverhernameis....why do you have such a problem with me being pussywhipped's friend?", and turn to him and say "And why would you let someone who is new to our friendship treat me this way? What kind of friend would do that?" Light the fireworks and watch them squirm. But, at least they KNOW you feel this way, and she might back off. She'll probably talk shit behind your back, but who cares? Be aggressive if you feel that you are in the right. If I was u in your situation, sure thing I'd follow this advice. Angry has a place and can be put to good use. They're treatin' you badly, let them know about it. Be strong and make a clear statement. PS nice to have u back. | |
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Friends before Partners.
In the end you never know. If that person leaves you, your friend is the one thats going to be there.. NOT that person | |
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thedribbler said: gemini13 said: Well, not saying that you should handle it the way I would, but I would beembarrassingly blunt in front of the two of them, and just ask them both at the same time. I'd ask "So...whateverhernameis....why do you have such a problem with me being pussywhipped's friend?", and turn to him and say "And why would you let someone who is new to our friendship treat me this way? What kind of friend would do that?" Light the fireworks and watch them squirm. But, at least they KNOW you feel this way, and she might back off. She'll probably talk shit behind your back, but who cares? Be aggressive if you feel that you are in the right. If I was u in your situation, sure thing I'd follow this advice. Angry has a place and can be put to good use. They're treatin' you badly, let them know about it. Be strong and make a clear statement. PS nice to have u back. Hey Thanks! I hear ya Karla, and I do feel kinda possesive.....and I am hurt that he's doing this. And I wonder is he is defending me to her, or talking shit about me with her? It has to be either one or the other, cuz I know her and her friends talk shit about me. | |
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