oh the agony of unrequited love is too much for me! So I'll try to find a BETTER guy for me.

the first time, i just told him i didn't think of him that way, he accepted it & we stayed friends. cool.

the second time, the guy didn't handle it as well. he freaked out and created a huge dramatic mess in our group of friends; didn't speak to me for two years.

i hope you find a great guy, paradise

male or female?

I react differently to each.

At first I'd feel shocked, then this would lessen to curiosity, followed by smugness, then awkwardness, then warmth and kindess, and finally I'd explain how I feel and do my best to destroy their spirit so as to leave them an empty shell of a person.

I laughed.

I thought it was a joke.

It was not.

Fauxie said:

I can vouch for this shit.

Well, lucky for Erin, I love her back.

Imago said:

You'll find someone better for you to fill your void.

evenstar3 said:

Thanks. I am treating this unrequited love with acceptance and patience. I told one of my friends that I felt like a failed because maybe the guy I liked must like women that are incredibly thin and blond. The guy is White and I am Mexican-American a bit on the plus size. But my friend told me that I did not fail, it just happens that I am not that guy's type of person.

Very awkwardly.

I'm not good at thwarting advances.

One of my coworkers just went throught this and her response was "I'm flattered but I'm taken" now why can't I think of these responses when I am caught in this situation, I get so nervous and yes if becomes so akward.

Well, that happened to me once. I just used the guy for sex and then finally told him that though I loved him, the sex was awful and we couldn't be together.

Of course the sex was GREAT, but I didn't love him. So it worked out.

This hurts so much

I told my friend that I love him and nothing ever happened

I slept with them after they told me, and then the next morning just said, "I didn't feel the same, but we could be friends."

lazycrockett said:

theodore said:

Hey at least he got the crockett for a night, better than just being all prime and proper.

lazycrockett said:

If my friend would've done that 2 me I would've myself

theodore said:

No you wouldn't, you would have got over it, moved on, found someone else and when you thought of the person again at least you would have known what he/she was like in the sack, instead of always wondering what if? This way the dream is put to rest.

lazycrockett said:

I just tell them straight up (not in a mean way) that I'm not interested. All that "I'm taken" shit makes the person think they may have a shot should you ever break up (or get tired of telling lies about a pretend "other"). I'm not comfortable lying, unless I'm out somewhere & it's a drunk asshole who doesn't have the sense to accept a gentle turn-down...

CalhounSq said:

You saw Van Hunt live? That and the nature of your post above means I love you.

Maybe I should go and add you on that other thread. Nah, this'll do.

Sorry Stymie It just wouldn't work

I've had to tell a guy I was not interested that way, but it was pretty early on, no talk of love. He seemed cool with it especially when I introduced him to my friend.

Nobody else every confessed anything to me

ZombieKitten said:

Imago said:

come here, let me grope you a bit.

Paradisekiss03 said:

i hand them a breath mint

I very delicately tell them I don't see them in that way or feel the same way about them.

after picking myself up off the floor to which i fell laughing...i would wipe the tears of laughter from my eyes and reply..."ure having a laugh fella!!"

just tell 'em i'm not interested and nothing else. basically what calhoun sq said

i usually pretend to gag and ask them to leave, then when they start to go i say "just kidding!" and then i tell them i'm not interested. i find they appreciate the humor aspect of my rejection.