I am in a wheelchair and I have been sick for several weeks. I have had a dear friend helping me with things around the house.
I have an injury that prevents me from cooking, cleaning etc.

My friend has been doing alot for me since my injury. Once my injury has healed and Iam able to resume my day to day activities, I would like to thank him.

What should I do to thank him?

slm4m said:

Maybe you can prepare him something nice like a gift or really special thank you dinner with friends and family.

Friends help each other without expecting a reward. It's part of a real friendsip.
Your appreaciation is enough. anything beyond that would be extra.

When he's in a situation that he needs help, be sure to do the same.

Paradisekiss03 said:

Thank you for the great idea

ItsOnlyMe said:

Thats what he tells me every day, but is it enough? He is afterall going out of his way to help me.
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slm4m said:

I had a friend spending all of his very little money he had, and spending all of his time caring for my brother when he needed help. He'd give his life. and he never expected anything in return.

if the situation were reversed, what would you wish in return?
i think it always helps to try to put the shoe on the other foot so to speak



you will be up on your feet again then?
glad to hear it.

ItsOnlyMe said:

Exactly.



Also, just pass it on. That's how these things work. When I didn't have a car, so many people went out of their way to help me and my kids with rides. Now that I have a car, I can't really pay those people back, but I make sure to return the favor by helping others in the same situation I was. I always make it a point to stop on a cold or rainy day if I see someone I know walking.

I'd still want to do something as a token of my appreciation.

I'd probably give him a gift certificate for something he loves to do, like a sporting event or a concert...whatever I knew he loved to do.

If it was a female friend of mine I would give them a spa day gift or something along that line. Something relaxing.

JustErin said:

Sometimes Erin's smarter than me.

Sometimes.

The problem with giving a gift, is that no gift could compare to the efforts that were given, and might be consufed as a pay to be even.

FunkMistress said:

ItsOnlyMe said:

See, I really don't see it like that at all.

This is probably a really close friend and friends that close are not likely to look at it as some kind of payment.

JustErin said:

Exactly! And just cos you gave them a gift, doesnt mean the friendship or the giving will ever cease.. its an on going thing..

JustErin said:

I'm with you Erin. It's just a token of appreciation, not pay back. It would be a pay back if you didn't want to do it and felt like you had to.

JustErin said:

We very close friends. He would never expect anything in returm. Perhaps just a note of thanks?

slm4m said:

Sure, it's whatever you feel comfortable doing.

JustErin said:

I have have been trying to write a note of thanks. I cannot find the right words. Any sugguestions?

slm4m said:

No. I think you'll work it out. Only you know how you feel. Take your time, the words will come.

JustErin said:

Yup. I definitely don't help my friends with any kind of "pay back" expected. But if they do something nice for me in return to show their gratitude, I graciously accept. And certainly don't confuse their intentions.

slm4m said:

No need for a note. face to face is more complimenting and rewarding.

You guys don't have any clue on what would be nice for this guy.

jerseykrs said:

You always think about sex, don't you?

jerseykrs said:

Huh?

slm4m said:

Just be yourself.. say it as if you were speking to them now..

I like the ideas of tix to a concert or a gift certificate for a favorite event or what have you...but I really believe that a heartfelt, handwritten note of appreciation would be just as good if not better...there's just something about seeing the words "THANK YOU" written by someone (as opposed to a run of the mill Hallmark card)....

ItsOnlyMe said:

I agree and something like a small gathering or dinner would be a very nice way to show your appreciation.

ItsOnlyMe said:

yeah, exactly!
my grandmother expressed and donated her breastmilk for her neighbours newborn, for MONTHS. She did it because she could and was so happy she could make a difference. The neighbour gave her a store-bought cake as a thnak you, my grandma was like WTF! She didn't expect anything, and it was almost like an insult in her opinion.

ZombieKitten said:

omg thats so random..


But I am gonna come back to this post, so as not to seem a shit..

ZombieKitten said:

Why exactly did she consider it an insult?