Has it happened to you?

Yes. But I've deserved for it to be a one-way street each time.

INSATIABLE said:

Why?

several times, but more often when I was younger & desperate

Yes.

As recent as last year. Took me some time to get over it. I fall in love on daily basis, but to have it last and have it answered is special.

Love can be unrequited in many forms. My crush mirrored my love, but was already in a relationship.

I had it bad when I was 15 but never really since then, I nearly died of heartache

Yes, but it's because I messed it all up.

ItsOnlyMe said:

Oh yes happened to me quit a bit in my younger years.

Nah, I've had unrequited "like" but not love

uh... unrequited "love" just once but unrequited "crush" story of my life

Natisse said:

so what would be the difference do you think?

ZombieKitten said:

I fell in love with literally the boy next door when we were both 11... haven't stopped being in love with him since. (and yes despite not being in a relationship when you know, you know right?) and I've had 4 other guys over the years I've had a major crush on, and only a crush. I wasn't in love with them. it's hard to describe the difference hon but when you know, you know

Natisse said:

I don't think I do I have had three "the ones"

ZombieKitten said:

Charlotte, i told you it cant happen

mdiver said:

I am being serious!

ZombieKitten said:

um let me try and explain then... with Aaron (boy next door) from the minute I met him my heart jumped out and I felt like I was instantly connected with him forever. my Mum used to tell me he was my soulmate too... she saw it he passed away when we were both 19 but even his memory still makes me dizzy. I hopefully will find love one day but truthfully he'll never measure up to Aaron. I know that in my heart and in my mind if he hadn't done what he did we'd be together now in this life and in the same way I know one day we still will just NOT in this one.

The other crushes I've had over the years were merely that... there was still the racing heart etc but I haven't fell in love with any of them or even close to it really. there was no connection except platonic and that was always at the surface

hope that helps a little...

Natisse said:

only my first crush ever gave me that racing heart thing
but I found instead of never living up to, subsequent men exceeded him in every way.

ZombieKitten said:

sorry hon it's hard to describe

Natisse said:

yeah I don't think I ever experienced it

ZombieKitten said:

love or unrequited love?

Natisse said:

unrequited

Natisse said:

i am sorry to hear about Aaron, i know how hard it is to lose a soulmate

the danger is in these situations, is that one can get stuck living in the past.
life has a weird way of panning out, and we must embrace and move forward with it, otherwise we ourselves die, at least on a soul level.

we cannot meausure new friendships based on the past and more often than not on nostalgic romantic memories. maybe thats why you only have crushes, and do not pursue a full on relationship. crushes are usually on people that are unnattainable, or unavailable

one can very easily end up being alone, and that is not what life's all about.

Natisse said:

How could she not have experienced love - isn't she married w/ kids?? Even if she's not married (I could swear she is), you gotta feel love on some level to drop a few kids w/ somebody...



Oh hell...



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CalhounSq said:

you would hope so

ZombieKitten said:

Sorry, I was just trying to make sense of Nat's question

CalhounSq said:

I know, but really, people are popping out kids in loveless relationships all over the place, stranger things happen!

Charlotte I wasn't trying to be hurtful or disrespectful in any way I'm sorry if it seemed like that

ZombieKitten said:

That's true too, although I feel like a lot of people think they love someone when they make the decision & it just turns out to be... something else...

Or that people's idea of love is different & interpreted in different ways. Hell people who abuse/neglect their children claim to love them too...

But you ARE married, right?

*strangest conversation EVER*

yes, in a sense.