Yes.

Empress said:

Sorry, but that's a load of bull.



Romantic relationships are the icing on the cake, no doubt. But not so important that we are "nothing" without them.

nope.

CarrieMpls said:

You are entitled to your opinion and so am I. For me personally, I know that being loved and being in love with the man in my life has made me everything I am today.

I don't think so.
I think that I would rather never ever felt love or love in return rather than to have felt it and lost it and also felt the pain that comes with it.

Agree.

The pain of a lost love is an exquisitely terrible pain like no other, it's true, but pain is part of the human experience, part of the balance of a complete life. Pain can be a great and valuable teacher.

I disagree that without love, one is 'nothing'.

Natisse said:

SaraWright10 said:

I have that very same point of view on the subject.

CarrieMpls said:

No kidding.

Statements like that crack me up.

Empress said:

a more tactful way to say it might've been "without true love, i'm nothing".

Empress said:

And I find that beautiful. I truly do. But that's a fundamentally different statement than the one you made above.
Finding the wonderful relationship you have may have made you who you are. But you wouldn't be any 'less' had your life taken a different path. Different, oh yes, but far from 'nothing'.

JustErin said:

For real. In that case I should have taken a flying leap YEARS ago

CalhounSq said:

CarrieMpls said:

I totally agree with you...but, you have to remember that some don't take the time to cultivate a life outside of their romantic relationships...so maybe they truly feel like "nothing" without them...which is, imo, very sad.
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I definitely agree with this sentiment completely....

I think where some folks get it twisted is in WHAT they want from love...love is a feeling....something to be enjoyed, revelled in...if it's meant to be long lasting or very fleeting then its best to just roll with it and spend the time you have in the moment....but there are some who see love as an absolute that HAS to be defined...who overanalyze each and every detail....who see every misstep as a crisis or a disaster.....who eventually kill the feeling because they just can't live in the moment....thus driving away the very object of their love...

highs and lows are a part of our emotional development as much as breathing is to our survival....can you survive without love? Absolutely! But for me, I wouldn't want to spend rest of my time on earth lamenting how life passed me by because I was too bitter to try again until I found that love again with someone else....

applekisses said:

yeah, even though you lose a sense of yourself while you are in a relationship because you are compromising with someone else's needs/wants, you should also sustain a sense of individuality as well. you have to have a life outside of your relationship so that you aren't putting a lot of pressure on the other person to make you happy. you have to rely on yourself to make you happy. because if you don't, if there is a breakup that occurs, then the pain will be unbearable...then you WOULD feel like you are nothing without that person in your life. And breakups in itself are hard enough.

go read a book, take a photography class, go back to school, visit friends, just do something other than sitting up under your boo 24/7...

missfee said:

no.

SammiJ said:

I'm happy then...there was a time U wouldn't have said that...