I spent the night with my recently-ex-girlfriend last night.

And of COURSE it was wonderful, and so I completely handed over my dignity and self-respect in a heart-shaped box and said, "here, take it, whatever you want, I just want YOU!"



And I do want her. And I think maybe there were a lot of misunderstandings behind breaking up, and that we cleared a lot of them up last night (before the torrid lovemaking, of course). But. . . shit. . .I still feel like a damned idiot.


Tell me, people. Has anybody, EVER, in the HISTORY OF HUMANITY, broken up with somebody, gotten back together, and had it turn out to be a long-term happy relationship? Ever? Because I've never heard of such a thing.


I'm starting to feel too old to be a fool for love.

naa i feel like being nice, if you want something so bad, then fight for it..

I have an unrequited crush

awww ive been with my old man for well over 22 years now at the start of our relationship we broke up a few times it can work just take 1 day at a time..

eraclito said:

That's how I'm feeling.

katt said:

So there's at least one time in history that it happened.

I love you!

Melissa, if you're an idiot, that makes me George W. Bush.

OF COURSE it's possible. I absolutely hate to think you migh be raking yourself over broken glass a second time with her, but if it's true, yes--it's not impossible. I know many happy people with lifelong situations who have had rough beginnings. Fuck, it's not easy, right?

I just hope she realizes who loves her. She's one incredibly lucky woman.

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

That's all well and good, but kind of a "fence-sitting" position in this case. Please either tell me I'm a fucking idiot, or tell me an uplifting story about some people you know who broke up, got back together, and lived happily ever after. Thanks.

(I love you too, MamaK. )

INSATIABLE said:

true..

ohh and jana

sure. you may look back at this time as one that solidified your relationship
or as one more try at something that wasn't working. how it goes depends on the two of you


things blew up too quickly for it to be over. work through your shit.

HereToRockYourWorld said:

life is never a straight forward road, i am sure you know this
and when ever we fall off that horse, we gotta jump back on and ride that pony
like a mf'ing cowboy.

i say follow your heart always.

INSATIABLE said:

If my being an idiot could make you the leader of the free world, I think I'd seek out head trauma just to seal the deal. That would be a cool world.

Thank you. I hope she realizes it too, dammit.

eraclito said:

Am I the only bimbo who doesn't know who you are?

INSATIABLE said:

u dont know who i am

HereToRockYourWorld said:

No.

you know what? just go with it.

it's win/win either way.

either this is a much needed storm in the relationship, or hopefully you learn a lesson from this incident and you'll be that much more experienced and strong and ready the next time you're this nuts for someone.

beating yourself up about it is just a time and energy waster. don't regret it.

INSATIABLE said:

Besides eraclito? Nyet.

INSATIABLE said:

ohh and bimbo

there's nothing wrong with staying to fight for what u want, if u believe in it. i think there are degrees of breaking up -- u know when it's done. making an effort to get to the point where it is either somethnig wonderful or something that is definitely over is advisable.



i love u, and u are not an idiot!

YES!

I was with my "ex" for 2 years, and then, being young and confused, and fighting a lot, we broke up. But we never really broke up, we were so close that we just couldnt stay away from each other. And Im not talking like getting drunk and ending up going home together, it was never like that. It was more just spending a lot of time together, and doing things the same way we always had.

Fast forward 2 years of being officially off, but unofficially on, and we are still the same. But closer, and stronger than ever. Just recently we've accepted that this is it, and we're officially on again. And very happy. So it can be done.

Its just when people play games with each other it messes it up. When we broke up and spent the night together, my friends were all like "what the hell are you doing, sleeping with your ex blah blah blah" but I just didnt get that, cause there was never, EVER, any drunkenness, or regrets, or using each other. We still loved each other, we just didnt think it would work out. My friends, were copying what everyone else says, and actually didnt have a f***ing clue.

I know a couple who dated in highschool, but broke up when they went to college. After several years apart, they realized that what they had was true love, and they got back together. They got married 3 years ago, and have a beautiful little girl. They're still madly in love.

If you believe in the relationship, don't let it go. But, make sure that you are being treated fairly during all of this. If you are the only one giving, then that's a problem. I wish you the best of luck!

Anx said:

You either waste more time in a relationship that's already proven it's a dead-end or let yourself get emotionally invested in something that was just a roll in the hay for her.

HereToRockYourWorld said:

Not here.

I did this once and it was the biggest mistake of my life. I lost all of my dignity and self-respect. I feel your pain.

I'm all about the tough love.

Ace said:

so jaded acey poo

INSATIABLE said:

No.

Fighting for what you truly want in your heart does not make you an idiot.
I feel if you turn your back and do not try to work it out then you will always wonder what if.




No relationship is easy all of the time. Do what you feel in your heart is right and have no regrets.


[Edited 4/2/07 15:04pm]

Ace said:

Well. I hear ya, but it wasn't just a roll in the hay for her. But, yeah, I guess my fear comes from seeing lots of friends get back together with their exes and crash and burn again and again. . . bah.

I really don't wanna be back tomorrow, or two weeks, or two months from now going "".

But. . . I guess time will tell.