I was thinking about Sartre´s ´L´Entranger´ the other day (like you do). I think to some extent I´ve become like the character in it. I´m finding it very hard to get emotional and enthusiastic about things. Particularly when it comes to relationships. I feel bad about it. Does anyone else feel like this from time to time? Perhaps Im not articulatin myself well, but I hope you get what I mean...

Goodness knows why I clicked on the smiley face for this thread!

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No.

But a lot of people think I am.

When I get really upset over something, after the initial reaction I act like nothing ever happened. I guess that's numb. Sort of.

After much hard work, I think I'm pretty much there.

I think it'd be easier if I was.

I prefer to think of myself as emotionally COLD.

JDINTERACTIVE said:

are you in a relationship? or do you mean potential romantic relationships? or do you also mean friendships?
could be jadedness because you know how it goes, or lack or enthusiasm all round could be depression.

I was physically numb back in January, after i got out of the hospital I had neuropathy. not fun.

ZombieKitten said:

Funny you should ask. It´s a potential romantic relationship. I met a girl last week who is really into me. We got on very well and we were sorry to see each other go. She wants me to go to another part of Brazil to spend some time with her which I can afford to do. The thing is Im wearing my sensible head. She says she´s going to come to England in the summer. I know nothing will come of it because she will have to go back to Brazil in no time.

I also ended my last relationship with a girl who I was seeing for a while. She egan to annoy me and turned up at my house drunk when I was cosy in bed.

I dont know whats going on with me lately.

JDINTERACTIVE said:

nah, it's just you using your head, the one with a brain in it.

ZombieKitten said:

Hmm, I dont want to think Im unadventurous. I just want to save myself a lot of heartache and pain I guess.

JDINTERACTIVE said:

you know yourself best, and it is in your own best interests. Now if you were as crazy about her, you would probably MAKE it happen, but you probably aren't.

JDINTERACTIVE said:

I find myself getting more passionate as I get older and more creative.

Aye, laddie. It's welcome right now, however.

If it lasts too long I'll become worried, of course.

JDINTERACTIVE said:

follow your heart, dumbass!

You don't know how lucky u r!

JDINTERACTIVE said:

I'm the same way - I love with my head more than my heart, more practical than romantic. Some say I'm cold and aloof, but whatever. To me, love is being a rock for your partner, not silly , mushy displays of affection.

Don't feel bad about it. It's the way you are, so just accept it.

No, ut it'll take a lot to break the walls I have built around me.

No I'm not emotionally numb. There are times I wish I was but only fleetingly.

You can be a sweet romantic person and still be a steady support for your partner.

No, I've become the opposite as I've got older.

I'm very emotional and over-sensitive at times. I can't hear certain things (eg. stories of animal or child cruelty) because I can become very depressed by them.

I'm becoming emotionally detached from people (as in the world as a whole) because I find this world too cruel and horrific but on a personal level I'm definitely the opposite when it comes to personal relationships.

thedribbler said:

My you have a way with words, havent you?
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JDINTERACTIVE said:

that's emotions speakin'

What?

JDINTERACTIVE said:

i wasn't at first. now i'm starting to thaw out . i guess its an automatic barrier put up to protect myself from being hurt (like what you already said). its weird. when something is going good, i don't know how to quite accept it or act upon it so i just do nothing even though i'm secretly elated
i think logically speaking that its understandeable to feel this way in your situation. seems long distance stuff can be hard. i can only hope that you have a fairy tale ending

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