I remote corners of Arkansas, Utah, South and North Dakota, yes.

Probably not. She's going to need a job. Maybe they should consider couples counseling, too, if they're going to stay together for the kid?

Not realistically, no.

Or (And this is *NOT* what I would do), adoption, or an abortion depending on their convictions and/or how far along she is in the pregnancy.




Yeah, I didn't want to post it, but it *is* an option.

Imago said:

ZombieKitten said:

No kidding.

Good luck to them both. As long as theyre happy, Im sure they will work something out.

Princology05 said:

i dunno, when i hear people complaining about young peoples relationships like this, i always thinbk of my parents and my aunts and uncles. they didnt get thier shit together until they were in thier late 20's /30's

JustErin said:

they are only babies themselves, where is all the fun they are supposed to be having at this time in their lives now?

Princology05 said:

ugh ohhhhh that relationship is a mess. It won't work out

ZombieKitten said:

All I am thinking is, poor baby.

No they will not make it.

Princology05 said:

Umm, not in a million years.

Imago said:

I was going to mention abortion, it seems these kids will raise a dysfunctional person.

JustErin said:

all 3 of them, their lives are pretty much destroyed, baby might still end up OK, say if raised by a relative or something, ah hell, but the odds are heaped up against this child.

This reminds me of 5 days ago. I'm downtown, sitting at a 30 min parking meter, waiting for my son. A woman parks, has a baby in a stroller, is 6 months pregnant. Approaches me for a quarter for the meter, which I didn't have, asked two other passerbys who said "no". I dug out a couple of dimes and a nickle from the floor of my car and gave it to her. They always manage.

JustErin said:

Exactly.

People people, use dem freakin' condoms. Gettin' pregnant at such a young age...

Oh and, I don't think it will work out. No way in hell can he support a family of three when he's the only one bringin' in the money.

It's not looking good for them. In fact, it's looking terrible. Let's hope they don't damage the kid too much - they're sure to be miserable & fuck him/her up along the way w/ their bad choices...

they seem happy yet they fight all the time? This sounds terrible.

NO they cannot afford to live out on their own in their current state.

Someone is going to have to get a college degree and a good job at some point and also look into pre and post-natal support for young, low income mothers. Planned Parenthood may have some resources (not just for abortions but for pre and post-natal care)
www.plannedparenthood.org

Six months is too late to get an abortion but adoption is still an option. They could have an open adoption where both parents are allowed to have a relationship with the child as it grows up without having to deal with the emotional and financial stress of raising the child at such a young age.

Good luck to them.

gemini13 said:

I think abortion is a vulgar and cruel option. But I think it should still be an option depending on the couple's circumstances.

plain and simple, if you are adult and make decisions, you find a way to make it. Or you just fuck it up, definitely one of the two though.

JustErin said:

I couldn't take care of myself on $12-14 an hour.




OK, I suppose I could, but very unhappily.

CarrieMpls said:

right?

i've been there before...NEVER AGAIN!!

JasmineFire said:

No they don't, here's what will happen: she wants the baby partly b/c she thinks it'll get him to stay around home (once they move in together) more often. He may live up to that OR (feeling pressured) he may be "gone" even more b/c of the added responsibility (especially @ such a young age) & her nagging/complaining. They'll have unsatisfying jobs just to stay afloat, be miserable, fight a lot & fuck up the kid. Then they'll eventually break up, do the shared custody thing, bring new boyfriends/girlfriends into the mix & complicate things even further - all to the detriment of the kid. And life goes on & everybody's unhappy.

Fuck, I hope I'm wrong but it happens so often...

CalhounSq said:

it doesn't have to be that way, though.

even though they're kinda in a tight spot, they cuold still make some changes so that it's not all bad.

we'll see.