cooing and gurgling over a ring is just really sick to me.

Fuck that, I want a ring








Seriously though, if I were proposed to I think I would probably be thinking, "Umm, where's the ring baby?" partly b/c I'm so trained/conditioned that that's how a proposal goes down I'd have to take deep breaths before announcing my engagement to people b/c the first question (from women, at least) seems to be, "Lemme see the ring!" followed by some look of pity/concern/questioning when they find out I don't have one. A ring would make that stuff easier (WHY that stuff matters to me I'm still figuring out)...

That said not getting the ring off the bat obviously doesn't mean he'd love me any less or would be any less serious about wanting to be married, it all depends on the bond between 2 people - fuck a symbol & others expectations when it really comes down to it. BUT I'm honest enough to admit that I'm shallow enough to want that fucker, I just would...

See, that's what I mean. I have seen an elevator full of chicks turn into the fucking Lion King and I want to just punch any chick in the face that looks down on someone or feels they are better than someone because they have a bigger rock.

Can anyone say S-H-A-L-L-O-W!

I mean, I love you!

cooing and gurgling over a ring is just really sick to me.

Seriously though, if I were proposed to I think I would probably be thinking, "Umm, where's the ring baby?" partly b/c I'm so trained/conditioned that that's how a proposal goes down I'd have to take deep breaths before announcing my engagement to people b/c the first question (from women, at least) seems to be, "Lemme see the ring!" followed by some look of pity/concern/questioning when they find out I don't have one. A ring would make that stuff easier (WHY that stuff matters to me I'm still figuring out)...

So, because it's not your thing, it's sick?

So, because it's not your thing, it's sick?

There are all sorts of reasons why the diamond industry is corrupt, I suppose, but I still find nothing wrong with finding a piece of jewelry beautiful.

And none of you are gonna convince me otherwise.

I love pearls.

did i say so?

Not to mention the blood shed over this shit in Africa

Wait a minute though - you're talking about haggling over the size of the rock, I'm talking about having a ring at all. Honestly (to me) the big rock marriages seem to be the most loveless & empty but that's a whole other set of issues. I honestly don't see myself tripping off the size of the rock, though I would like it to be bigger than a spec of dust but I do want a ring of some sort...

So, because it's not your thing, it's sick?

did i say so?

I guess I'm so turned off to this because I have seen so many women just turn this into a whole form of validation and shame and all kinds of wierd shit. I want to chop the hands off chicks like that so they could never brag about something so meaningless

WHY do women do that?! my friend recently got engaged and my first reaction was to congratulate and be excited for her, but i noticed a lot of people stopping by our dorm just to see her ring & squeal over it. IMO, i think that response is a little tacky & comes off as though the ring's the main focus of it all, rather than how great it is that they're getting married. it's all from societal conditioning, i guess. i don't disagree with it because as a tradition it's nice, but fixating on the size/quality/etc of the ring and having to have it immediately to accept a proposal isn't something i'd do.

I love pearls.

That's exactly what you said.

no, it isn't. please don't put words in my mouth, man.

I want the men to weigh in on this

On the neck?

OK, then why is cooing and gurgling over a ring sick to you?

I dont think that its not so much a bribe as it is them wanting to show you how much you mean to them, how much they love you.

it's a ring. a band of metal that may or may not have some sorta sparkly thing on it that you wear on any of your fingers or thumbs.

Aren't they already doing that by asking for you to marry them?