I don't believe him/this! I suspected him of it several moths ago, but now I know he is. My mother would be so hurt if she found out. I haven't told anyone and don't know what to do or if I should say something. I'll try to keep how I know of this short. A few months ago, my boyfriend and I were looking fro a parking space (I live near them) and he pointed out my father leaving the house, using his cell phone and looking behind him and it looked suspicious, but I shrugged it off.

Next, I saw him outside the house on his cell phone and he didn't know I was behind him. He was laughing in a low tone and I could tell that it was a woman he was laughing with. I walked in front of him, frowned at him and shook my head and startled him. A few minutes later, he knocked on my door looking all nervous and made p some bullshit story that it looked like i dropped somehting which I did not.

Finally, this weekend he was outside my house and his cell phone rang - I could hear him through the window. He got all hype and was like "You called me 10 times last night, you know you can't do that, blah, blah, blah. then he starting explaining to this bitch where he was last night and this skank had the nerve to be fucking questioning a married man she fucking!

When he was talking to her he walked near where my backyard was and I eavesdropped to confirm my suspicions. Before he got off the phone with her, he said, "I better go, I'm near my daughter's house right now." A few minutes later, I asked him if I coudl use his cell phone and made up a story about wanting to test a ring tone on mine. I scrolled through his call history and pulled up the last number that called him and gave it back. I called the number from my phone, and blocked it and a woman answered just like I thought would.

I am soo goddmaned pissed and and and want to hurt this bitch and him! I'm torn on what to do.
Has anyone ever had this ahppen to them?
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do nothing regards to your father or the "other woman". Don't tell your mom either, that is not your place.

but be ready to be there for your mother when she finds out. As for your feelings in this, you are an adult and it sucks when we finally learn that our parents are fallible, and sometimes cheaters. You need to realize that you are disappointed in your dad and deal with your relationship with him. But he is not married to you so don't confuse your loyalty to your mom with your feelings as a disappointed daughter.

Take care hun

1sexymf said:

Yep
Your mom will find out,she may already be sure of it.

It will hurt,Im sorry u have to go through this.

Let me get this straight? This is happening to a relationship in which your mothers perceive that everything is normal?

This is really sad. Men are assholes.

for 1sexymf. That's terrible thing for anybody to have to go through.
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you should warn your mother. talk to your dad first and ask him to tell her himself. if he refuses warn her,.

she should not have to be exposed to an STD carried by another woman

butterfli25 said:

It's hard not to say anything to the other woman, but I know I can;t without him finding out so that is stopping me. I never thought of them as infallable, but I never thought he would cheat.

ThreadCula said:

I'm not sure if she knows, but I know I couldn't bring myself to tell her. It would crush me to see her hurt, I love her more than life itself.

Imago said:

I think that's the case. he's a fucking dickead and he's using the lame ass excuse of "working late" to spend time with his whore.
I heard him tell her that.

Can you talk to him about it?

psychodelicide said:

Thanks, honey. I never imagined this happening. They've been married for over 30 years.

XxAxX said:

OH god, I never even thought about that yet! I will go ballistic and hunt this bitch down like the dog she is if this were to occur, which I pray to God does not.

LleeLlee said:

I wouldn't know where to start.

1sexymf said:

i ratted my mom's significant other out to her, it wasn't fun but i felt my loyalty to her required it. i was visiting them both and while she slept, he got extremely wasted on vodka, puked on her handbraided rug which he hid outside on the balcony, broke dishes in the kitchen sink and generally made a stinky mess.

i wouldn't have said anything, but the next day when she woke up and discovered this mess and asked him about it, he lied right to her face and denied it right in front of me. fuckwad. so i ratted his ass out. i love my mom and she deserves to know what is going on in her home, and she deserves to be with someone she can TRUST.

alas, although she did move out and get her own place nearby she is still 'with' him today.
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XxAxX said:

I agree. There's a safety thing.

But OH MY GAWD THAT SUCKS. I can't even imagine how horrible that would be. I'm sorry.

You don't know this woman - she owes you nothing.
Your father on the other hand, took vows, and should be held accountable to both you and your mom.

I know that it's easier to put those feelings on someone you don't care about, but it's your father's actions that have caused you hurt.

I'm not defending what this woman has done, I just think that people who cheat tend to get off easy alot of time by placing blame on the other person and not taking responsibility for their own actions. Yes it takes two to tango but you don't always have to dance.

PS: I really think you need to talk to you dad and tell him if he doesn't tell your mom, you are going to (and give him a time frame). She needs to know - whatever his excuses are. The only ones you are protecting by keeping silent are him and his lover.
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XxAxX said:

Yeah, he lies to her face about where he's going, where he's been and like I said lying about work. He does keep irregular hours, and that works in his favor in this situtation. I'm tempted to follow him to see where this cunt (excuse my strong language - I don't normally talk about other women like that) lives. I have brothers and sisters, and don't know if they know or if I should say something to them.

Omg..wow. I don't know what to say girl. That truly sucks. My sister and I always suspected my father was cheating on my mother when we were in high school but couldn't confirm it. Which made it even worse was because my mother was very sick.

I hope you and your father will be able to talk about this soon.

1sexymf said:

naaa. she's a cunt. women who do this sort of thing (i.e. screw someone else's husband) are lower than low. do not waste your time on sympathy for her. she is a skanky cunt and you should boot her the heck out your collective lives ASAP.

ahhhh.... to put my strong reactions in perspective i should maybe share that i am the child of a marriage broken by the "other woman". it changed my life and affected my thinking forever

Krystal666 said:

Hi sweetie. This is killing me. I truly don't know what to do. If I told my brothers, they probably wouldn't say anything, I don't know if my sisters would.
I would be mad as hell if she was sick and he was taking advantage of that. I guest you never said anything to your father?

right now this is only between you and your father.

you don't know what's going on yet (other than those few concrete sentences you've heard)
but in talking close to your home perhaps he wanted you to hear?

you heard enough to ask your father what is up.
i know i would be right there wanting to go follow some other woman
but sitting here away from the situation i don't think you need to get mixed up in anything like that.

talk to him when you are ready.
when you know what he has to say you can go from there.



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emm said:

I don't think he meant for me to hear. He was outside shoveling snow from the night before and I happened to have the window open.

1sexymf said:

Maybe confide in a brother or sister, somebody who can talk to your dad with you. This is a terrible situation and facing it alone isn't easy. How your mother chooses to deal with it is up to her, but she needs to know (imo)

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1sexymf said:

I can't really remember but he was always a huge flirt with women and he knew that used to make me angry. It annoyed me when some bitch was stealing his attention away from me and he thought it was "cute" when I would get jealous. I used to get so pissed. He would do it right in front of my mother too and I was always really confused that she never seemed to care. I guess their relationship kinda dissilusioned my daydreams and fantasies about romantic love and men. As you can imagine as my life is now it has gotten even worse!

But I'm here if you want to talk.

I would absolutely tell my mom.

butterfli25 said:

I agree with this 100% I'm sorry this is happening honey. Your parent's need to deal with their relationship. You aren't either's partner so be ready to support your mother and think about how you want to continue your relationship with your father. Yes, they are real people too.....

MuaPetahl said:

Yes, they are both to blame and I'm not totally blaming it on her, but I can't help from despising her.
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XxAxX said:

Well that's truly understandable.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

It's going to take me a LONG time before I even begin to think about not be angry.