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PrintableMach said: JustErin said: Yes, I think that's pretty much it. They want them to be more like them.  FREAKS
 The last thing I want is for my man to be more like me
 
I agree...I need the ying to my yang...  | |
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Shanti1 said: Mach said: FREAKS
The last thing I want is for my man to be more like me
I agree...I need the ying to my yang... I don't. Opposites may attract but they drive each other nuts in the long run, imo. I'm just looking for someone that's similar to me...no changes need. | |
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JustErin said: Shanti1 said:
I agree...I need the ying to my yang... I don't. Opposites may attract but they drive each other nuts in the long run, imo. I'm just looking for someone that's similar to me...no changes need. I really don't look for my opposite but I found with my ex that if you are too much alike is can keep you in a comfort zone and it does not encourage growth. We were both laid back and quiet - neither one of us liked confrontation. So I guess for me- I need someone that can encourage me to stand up and be strong and who can encourage me to communicate when I get quiet. I guess we all need and want different types of partners. I like to be someone that compliments my mate and I want a mate that compliments me  [Edited 3/18/07 19:29pm] | |
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Shanti1 said: JustErin said: I don't. Opposites may attract but they drive each other nuts in the long run, imo. I'm just looking for someone that's similar to me...no changes need. I really don't look for my opposite but I found with my ex that if you are too much alike is can keep you in a comfort zone and it does not encourage growth. We were both laid back and quiet - neither one of us liked confrontation. So I guess for me- I need someone that can encourage me to stand up and be strong and who can encourage me to communicate when I get quiet. I guess we all need and want different types of partners. I like to be someone that compliments my mate and I want a mate that compliments me
[Edited 3/18/07 19:29pm] Yup, that's the best thing to look for in a relationship. | |
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self edit... [Edited 3/18/07 21:20pm] | |
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JustErin said: Mach said: what would you say most women want to change their men to then ? You're asking what most women want their men to be? Well, I suppose it's different for each person, but I find that many, many women fall into the old trap of wishing their men were what they want them to be, instead of accepting who they actually are (which usually ends up being not all they want). I guess the best example I can give is women who date bad boys thinking, 'I'll be the one to change his behaviour and make him settle down'. Very true words. Are u speaking from experience? Was your man a musician? I had this problem with a woman, I really cared and I thought she was smart enough not to try and change me, so I gave it some time thinking she'd snap out of it. She didn't but she did have a baby. | |
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thedribbler said: JustErin said: You're asking what most women want their men to be? Well, I suppose it's different for each person, but I find that many, many women fall into the old trap of wishing their men were what they want them to be, instead of accepting who they actually are (which usually ends up being not all they want). I guess the best example I can give is women who date bad boys thinking, 'I'll be the one to change his behaviour and make him settle down'. Very true words. Are u speaking from experience? Was your man a musician? I had this problem with a woman, I really cared and I thought she was smart enough not to try and change me, so I gave it some time thinking she'd snap out of it. She didn't but she did have a baby. I wasn't the kind that would actively try and change them, I would just wait around and hope they would just change into the kind of person I wanted to be with, instead of ending it and finding someone better suited for me. 
But I have seen many of my friends try to get their man to change and I've heard it many times from my male friends. | |
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One does not have to fully understand the other sex...merely fine tune your ability to interpret motivation accordingly. People cant hide. | |
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JustErin said: Shanti1 said:
I agree...I need the ying to my yang... I don't. Opposites may attract but they drive each other nuts in the long run, imo. I'm just looking for someone that's similar to me...no changes need. We'll call him... JustEric! | |
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Fauxie said: JustErin said: I don't. Opposites may attract but they drive each other nuts in the long run, imo. I'm just looking for someone that's similar to me...no changes need. We'll call him... JustEric! Har har. | |
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JustErin said: Fauxie said: We'll call him... JustEric! Har har. | |
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