eraclito said:

Is your cleaner your ex?

and ass marks are better on the dining table than on the kitchen unit..

Stax said:

I was really touched that she asked me first and told her so. I know if I'd have said I didn't like the idea, she wouldn't have pursued it. That's just the kinda girl she is.
Damn, I have good friends.

REDFEATHERS said:

no she is my cleaner?

i probably cant see the ass marks on the kitchen counters, slate doesn't have that shine to smear.

liberation said:

Oh, that's just plain tacky. No, he's not that kinda guy. I wouldn't date that kinda guy.

eraclito said:

reminds me of my naughty days.. when ppl paid good money to eat there.. lol

why have a cleaner when you are a clean freak anyway

REDFEATHERS said:

i actually do have a cleaner, and yes my best friend did fuck her, but
my post was actually a joke, u do realise that right... lol

and the cleaner keeps my bathroom clean, the windows, wipes down the kitchen units, shit like that, once a week.

my dining table is varnished not french polished....

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[Edited 3/17/07 7:22am]

Who cares...the relationship ended so they can do whatever they want!

eraclito said:

lmao @ my dining table is varnished not french polished....
huh I just have a cleaner who cleans outside my property lol.. actually my place is really clean. maybe cos i am never there lol..



but I wouldnt stand for someone else fucking in my house

Well Carrie, IMO, I don't think a friend should go there, so to speak, or I know at least I wouldn't. That said though, I have had it done, my friends dating, or even marrying my ex ( hubby's). My very best friend in high school tried busting up me and my b/f then ( hubby now), just cause they had been friends before he and I got together and she was jealous., eventually we did split up and of course she was right there waiting like a vulture! .. Then while I was divorcing my 2nd husband ( please don't judge me by this, I have just made some mistakes in my time, that's all) one of my friends saw the unimaginable hell he was putting me through during our divorce proceedings, when I had moved back home to be with my hubby now ( who is the b/f from high school), and I wasn't quite divorced , this chick ( not the chick from HS..different chick) and my ex hubby hooked up, but I didn't care, HE made my life a living hell and overall I just felt/feel sorry for her more than anything.

Ultimately I suppose it depends on the person or persons involved, it is a personal decision. I hope it all works out well for you Carrie, as you seem like a very nice person, and don't deserve any BS
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REDFEATHERS said:

so u pay for someone to polish your bricks

Fauxie said:

wow-is this true fauxie?

well becuz of the no humoring thing...i must assume that it is

dang

furygirl said:

Most definitely!! The ex can jump off of a bridge for all I care....but the best friend should respect the friendship enough to at least make the intention known....and the level of your investment in the relationship (semi-serious to matrimony and beyond) should determine your level of comfort with them hooking up....because of the potential rift that may come between you and your friend as a result.....

CarrieMpls said:

i was not as restrained in stopping myself

It would totally depend on how I felt about seeing the ex socially.

It's a real drag to have a friend date somebody who you're not comfortable hanging out with, for whatever reason. Because then it becomes hard to be friends. "Please come over but don't bring your boyfriend" is a hard thing to say to somebody.

I have one ex who I wouldn't mind seeing at a party or whatever, but wouldn't want to spend a whole lot of time around, just 'cause I think he's toxic as hell, so if a CLOSE friend wanted to date him, I'd have to let her know that it would limit our relationship. Plus, she's crazy to want to date him.

depends on the type of ex (long-term love of your life...or "just a guy i went on a few dates with"...latter is ok...former, no way!)

in your case i can understand the moment of "hmm" but then it should pass.

an ex of mine dated 2 friends and married a third. i wasn't very into him and we only dated 2 months. i was ok with it especially since (the same as in your case) the friends had enough respect for me to see if i had a problem with it prior to proceeding.

Ex is someone you shared feelings with, and from my experience, feelings never go away completely. There's always something left. And that's probably one of the reasons it would be awkward.
But maybe it won't boter me as much if I was in a relatioship and very much in love.

ItsOnlyMe said:

Exactly. Feelings never totally go away with me. I may not be madly in love with them but I will always really care about them. So seeing them with someone that is very close to me would definitely make me feel awkward and sad even.

And I also agree that it probably wouldn't sting as much if I was really crazy about and happy with someone else.

JustErin said:

You just want to agree with me on everything so I'd have sex with you, don't you?

Well, it's working

ItsOnlyMe said:

Yes.

Take me now.

JustErin said:

Ordering the train ticket as we speak

eraclito said:

yeah something like that lol

I think that even though I'd be okay with it I would still get that little sick feeling.

There's a definate "ick" factor there.

M
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HereToRockYourWorld said:

The whole "hanging around" thing is a big reason why she asked also. lol. She's someone I spend holidays with (as part of my "friend family") so if it really ended up working out with her and him I would HAVE to be ok with it. Yes, she knew that was jumping way ahead, but it was something to consider.
Since this was a guy I was only kind of "trying on" and he didn't really fit, the more I think about it the more I realize I really don't care. Like I said before, he's a nice guy.
Were it another ex, one I had definite feelings for, I know I'd say no way.

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

Yeah I understand but back in the days I had to be COOL and to say I was ick about it, meant I still had feelings for him.. it hurt a damned lot

esp when he was stolen from me..

bitch!

she showed she wasnt a friend, just a sex starved cunt..

my sister started going out with a really good friend of ours. even that was too weird. They havea baby and everything, we see less of him now than ever.

i was just thinking about how in my small town highschool you had to date your friend's ex it was virtually impossible not to! was it the same for everyone else?

my recurrent boyfriend was also my cousin's ex as well as my good friend's ex

emm said:

lol in high school I remember Dean and Jody ran out of people to go out with so they dated each other 3 times

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

damn it wrong thread
[Edited 3/17/07 20:54pm]

mostbeautifulgrlntheworld said:

MizzHeavenly?