There are a couple of common misconsceptions people have of me that I find intriguing. One is due to the fact that I am pretty sociable and always wanting to find out more about people. People find this to be weird and think I have some sort of agenda, when in all actuallity, I'm really just an outgoing guy with lots of love for the world.

The other common misconceptions is folks tend to mistake my kindness for weakness. I could write a whole book about this, but shall digress?

What are some common misconceptions folks have of you?

People think I'm a snob. But actually I'm just really really shy.
Oh, the other is about the size of my penis. but I'll keep that one to myself.

I'm shy and quiet so people think I am conceited, sometimes people say stuff like the quiet ones are the ones you have to watch out for, that just bugs me so much. The reality is that I need to get to know you, trust you and then I open up and there is very few people that I do this with.

veronikka said:

I am the opposite.I am pretty loud and stuff. Right now I have a huge crush on a shy quiet guy. I notice that he mostly talks to me when we were in class or something.

That I'm quiet. I'm not quiet.

The people around me just talk too much.

Im actualy quite shy around new people especialy guys, so I tend to flirt with them even though I dont mean to, so..
Alot of them take it as coming on to stronge
and I get scared around females for some odd reason, so most think Im stuck up and that I think Im too good to be their friend or even talk to them.
I was told once that I wasnt smart because I didnt add anything to a group convo about religion, when infact I was too scared people would think that of my opinion.

I don't know about real life but people online tend to assume I'm a white male in my late 20's.

People think I'm an untrustworthy weirdo who doesn't take anything seriously.

A lot of it's to do with me being teetotal - missed out on a lot of the whole social thing, so I'm not really very comfortable in a crowd. And my eyebrows meet in the middle.

That I can speak/understand English

If it wasn't for the online dictionaries

veronikka said:

I used to get that all the time. I'm sure I still do, I just don't pay attention anymore.

CarrieMpls said:

Won't they think you're conceited because you're always looking at yourselves in the mirror?

you tell me and I will set you straight!

That I'm really a nice person

Gay men think i'm gay (or hope I am)

Maybe not on the Org but, in real life (or those who don't know me):

Miserable
Conceited
Unapproachable
Weird
That I'm stronger than I appear


Wow, I paint a wonderful picture. Okay, I won't argue with the weird one but Veronikka's response explains it for me.

LittleSmedley said:

Must be all that eye shadow you wear.

Oh I decided not to post..

people think i'm stuck up. it's not that, i just feel like i don't owe it to anybody to but up their butthole first meeting them. if you are cool with me then i'm cool with you.

and especially if i spark up a conversation first and the other person doesn't budge, then i stop trying. i'm not the type to try and "make" somebody talk to me or to get their attention. it's really like "whatever". so i guess some people also think that i got a "attitude" problem. i don't really care what people think about me and that's the attitude that is brought up on the table. so yeah people misconceive that because they don't really know me. once i realize a person is trying to get to know me for me, then I open up and they realize that i'm really a down to earth person. i don't really do much talking unless i really have something important to say.

missfee said:

Same here. Well, not always - I know plenty of people who would at that.

But, as opposed to when I was younger and I would YAK all day, I think some people think unless you go around with a big clown-face grin, gurning and smiling at everything, you must be a serial killer or something. I save my smiles for the appropriate moment.

onenitealone said:

yeah i'm an observer too. i'm usually the one sitting back watching others to how sincere they are in their character. i've concluded that most loud mouth people are full of B.S. and just want to be seen. These are also the ones who love to "improve the truth" if there is any truth to what they are saying at all. Not all loud mouths are like this, but most are.
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onenitealone said:

that and the gold sequinned hotpants

LittleSmedley said:

That my feelings don't get hurt, and/or should not/wouldn't.

People often think my musical tastes are limited to old school stuff. I mean, I'm really into music from all times. It's just that today it's a bit more difficult to find classic artists, unlike in the past. The old school stuff like Punk and New Wave was great, but there's artists today that I like as well. It's just that there are not as many as there were in the past.

If many people have the same "misconceptions" about you, it's probably not that much of a misconception.

When several people have the same perception of me and it's not one that I like, I take a good hard look at myself to see why they feel the way they feel instead of brushing it off and saying, "oh well, they're just wrong".

That said, people who don't know me well think I am cold, arrogant and snobby and I admit fully that this is an air I give off. It bothers me that people think that but at the same time it doesn't cuz I guess that's just me to a certain degree. Those who get to know me find out that I also have some good qualities.

More than a few people here think I'm some kind of racist, but I'm not.

Mach said:

yeah me too

gemini13 said:

JustErin said:

Excellent advice, Erin.

FunkMistress said:

so, your saying gemini is a racist IYO? your saying this on the sly anyways.




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JustErin said:

My feelings do get hurt, and often times the response I get back whenever I do mention it is that that couldn't be...sometimes even having to had to get into it about why my feelings should or should not be hurt rather than about what made them so.

In that case, for me personally, I have to disagree.