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XxAxX said: isn't this basically summarizing what Spats was talking about all those threads ago
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susannah said: uPtoWnNY said: Not me. Nothing wrong with a woman who knows what she wants and goes for it. I love a woman who takes charge in the bedroom and talks that nasty talk.  IMO though, its not "knowing what you want and going for it" that we're talking about. Well, thats what Im taking it as anyway. As more to do with having a career, taking the initiative, not being scared of things - whether its bugs or changing a plug, even swearing... I'm not talking about not being ladylike, thats different. But the things above - they mean we dont need looking after by a man, and THAT, in my experience, scares them. Does that make us agressive? I dont know. But what it doesnt make us is shy and retiring, helpless little women who need to be saved. Again, in my experience, men find that more attractive. To me, that's not being agressive - it's being human. Why should a man have to take the initiative all the time? I prefer someone at my side, fighting my battles with me, not the shy, retiring type. [Edited 3/15/07 7:47am] | |
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Fauxie said: REDFEATHERS said: well thats not gonna cause you any erotic pain..  I believe in you. You'll find a way.  oh Fauxie you know me too well..  | |
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I like this thread, but i havent read it cos its just far too long..
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uPtoWnNY said: susannah said: IMO though, its not "knowing what you want and going for it" that we're talking about. Well, thats what Im taking it as anyway. As more to do with having a career, taking the initiative, not being scared of things - whether its bugs or changing a plug, even swearing... I'm not talking about not being ladylike, thats different. But the things above - they mean we dont need looking after by a man, and THAT, in my experience, scares them. Does that make us agressive? I dont know. But what it doesnt make us is shy and retiring, helpless little women who need to be saved. Again, in my experience, men find that more attractive. To me, that's not being agressive - it's being human. Why should a man have to take the initiative all the time? I prefer someone at my side, fighting my battles with me, not the shy, retiring type. [Edited 3/15/07 7:47am] And why should the woman take the initiative? We all have preferences. I like aggressive men, but if there's a guy that I am really into that is not making a move I will go for it. | |
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uPtoWnNY said: susannah said: IMO though, its not "knowing what you want and going for it" that we're talking about. Well, thats what Im taking it as anyway. As more to do with having a career, taking the initiative, not being scared of things - whether its bugs or changing a plug, even swearing... I'm not talking about not being ladylike, thats different. But the things above - they mean we dont need looking after by a man, and THAT, in my experience, scares them. Does that make us agressive? I dont know. But what it doesnt make us is shy and retiring, helpless little women who need to be saved. Again, in my experience, men find that more attractive. To me, that's not being agressive - it's being human. Why should a man have to take the initiative all the time? I prefer someone at my side, fighting my battles with me, not the shy, retiring type. [Edited 3/15/07 7:47am] I agree 
I don't know, its probably more of a personal issue than anything else; I work in construction; I know an awful lot about a lot of stuff men are generally not used to women knowing, and Im not scared to use it.I've never shyed away from had (physical) work, and I swear occasionally... some men Ive met find this very hard to take. Only I know that on the inside I am just a girly woman, not here to threaten them!  much...  Rock n roll baby | |
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JustErin said: uPtoWnNY said: To me, that's not being agressive - it's being human. Why should a man have to take the initiative all the time? I prefer someone at my side, fighting my battles with me, not the shy, retiring type. [Edited 3/15/07 7:47am] And why should the woman take the initiative? We all have preferences. I like aggressive men, but if there's a guy that I am really into that is not making a move I will go for it. And there's the point. It's whatever works, or doesn't as the case may be. You could say ideally we should all be independent, free-thinking, completely able people capable of taking care of ourselves, paying our way, being emotionally stable and not needing anyone else in our lives to make the half into a whole, so to speak. Should someone come along at that point that can take us even further then all the better, we'd more than likely say. However, this often isn't the case, and who's to say a person who wants the other to be a certain way and take charge doesn't deserve that or that it isn't right for them? It all comes down to what makes a relationship work. It comes down to the wants and needs of the individuals. In my relationship there are times I have to take charge and at other times I'm terribly needy and could not survive too well without my wife. It's a failing in me, you could say, but I'm in a relationship and it's a team. There's an ebb and flow, at least in my relationship, and roles and responsibilities are shared out, with one person taking more control of certain things and the other taking control of others. As long as there's respect there for what each brings to the relationship and you find a nice balance where both parties are happy with what they contribute and receive, ie. one isn't leaning too much on the other and taking advantage, then all should be well. | |
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Yes Janfried, we like you! | |
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Imago said: Yes Janfried, we like you!
Nah, she's grilled. | |
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