OK, so I broke up with my ex 9 months ago. During that time I have really been trying to get over myself and all my retardedness when it comes to approaching guys or expressing my interest. I AM THE WORST AT THIS and over the years I have watched opportunity after opportunity pass my ass by. Well I have decided that it's just ridiculous already. I am outgoing, have no problems in social settings and so why should I be so shy in expressing my interest? I guess it's the whole rejection thing and my love life has been a trainwreck in general so I guess that really doesn't help matters much.

But I figure it this way. This person that I am approaching is already not my partner or boyfriend and if after saying hello nothing comes of it, well things are what they already are. Nothing has changed. If I'm OK with it before saying hello, then why can't I be OK with it after? I can be OK with it So I've really been putting myself out there and expressing interest where I never would before. It feels really good.

Well, out of the last 8 men I have approached SEVEN OF THEM are from out of town/out of state/out of the country. WTF!?!! I have outoftowndar! I don't know why this is happening, must mean I'm not ready yet. Whatever

I wasted months here at work staring at a guy on the elevator and never even saying hello. Too scared, too shy, too retarded Well I stopped seeing him around about 3 months ago and I was so bummed because who knows if I'll ever see him again. Well about a month ago I went to a bar I haven't been to in about a year and guess who was there. Mr. Elevator! As soon as I saw him I said to myself Hell no I aint wastin no more time! and I went up and said hello. We talked and of course, he has a boyfriend I gave him my email and left it at that.

Yesterday I went to beer bust after Bingo and Mr. Elevator was there. I said hello but really respected the fact that he had a boyfriend so I didn't do what I wanted to do and that was jump his ass Thank God for beer and the 100 mile rule. We played boyfriends yesterday His friend is in NY and they have this rule that if they are 100 miles away from each other, then they are free to play. I asked no questions, their rule not mine, and spent some time with him. He called me Dangerous He said that I'm cute and sweet and that is a very dangerous combination for him. Well I'm not trying to break up anybody's home so he has nothing to fear. I guess my point being that it really pays to not be retarded! I got to spend some really quality time with someone I only ever stared at. And it was amazing.

It paid off to say hello

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there's nothing wrong with you/that, man.

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

I meant about the outoftowndar. What is it that I'm only picking dudes I cannot have!? DAMNIT! Someone please live closeby and not have a boyfriend please

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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

dunno...and i love that term, "outoftowndar". you're lucky (well...i suppose not too lucky since you're getting all those guys who live a ways away instead of being local) to have that. for some reason i sense one of these days that yer outoftowndar may work in your favor.

hell, you're lucky you've even got a -dar, anyway. i don't even have one.

I'ts OK. I had no gaydar when I was single, and fell for several beautiful, sensitive, creative, funny, intelligent men...who all treated me like I was their sister!

awwww... Just look at it as good experience anyway.
I know last time I was in Chicago I was standing on the street waiting for my friends to meet me back at the car so we could head back to our hotel and an incredibly gorgeous man walked up and started talking to me. I could tell he was nervous. He finally got up the courage to ask me to have coffee and I had to turn him down cause I was just in for the weekend.
But it MADE MY DAY!! He was sooooo beautiful.

So just think of it that way. Anyone would be honestly flattered to attract your interest, Richard.

Well done you, Supa!

I really need to take your advice

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

That's the same thing my co-worker told me today!

I really don't want no long distance shit though so I wonder how exactly this can work in my favor? Maybe they'll decide to move to LA? Maybe I'll decide to leave LA?






Well I don't know that there is anything to really brag about here It's like being a super-hero but with a completely useless superpower

UCantHavaDaMango said:

I'd treat you like you were my sister

Well look at it this way, at least you got to date real men

Maybe you are simply not ready

CarrieMpls said:

Well really, I'm feeling so much better about life that I can actually do this Carrie, you have no idea how big a problem this really has been for me.

Saturday night I went out and I saw this one guy I have seen out, and stared at, for years and I have never approached him. EVER. Well this one I knew was a local but I didn't approach him because I thought anything would actually happen. I knew it couldn't because I have seen the guys he's been with and I aint even close to being like them. So I approached him for me. I seriously have just stared at him and longed for him, to me he is one of the most beautiful men i have ever seen.

So I walked up to him and introduced myself and told him that I was really trying not to be afraid to say hello to people that I am attracted to and that I thought he was one of the most beautiful men I had ever seen and that I didn't expect anything from him other than allowing me the moment to express myself. He looked at me and blushed I totally caught him off guard And it is exactly as I thought, he aint feeling me like that. But i was brave enough to do it!

Later that night I noticed a completely out of my league cutie pie kinda checking me out and I said hello and paid for his drink an he turned out to be totally intereseted in me. BUT HE LIVES 90 MILES AWAY! Oh well, at least it's not hundreds of miles, a different state or even out of the country. I could always make a weekend out of it So we were hanging out and really enjoying each others company and that guy I had approached earlier, had the nerve to try and cock block my ass! Seriously, he tried totally moving in on my action. That cutie pie did not let him though Ha-ha!! Since you're so hot, you have it easy but my bravery landed me in the arms of this cute thing and you couldn't do anything about it

Tremolina said:

That is the only thing I can think of really

like ive said
if i were gay

youd be on my speed diaall
your a prince orger with
a whole lotta style

trust your instincts,
cause they hold alotta water

im just sayin

as im droppin this

quarter

shausler said:

Please tell me you have recorded this diddy

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

UCantHavaDaMango said:

It is nice to actually get laid though. I understand that

Good Job!! Sometimes ya gotta say WTF!!?!?!

I wish that more people would adopt that same kind of "get out there and get it" attitude...instead of waiting for an ideal situation that may never come....

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Yeah, being surrounded by beautiful gay men was very nice, but not in the bedroom department, that's for sure.

reneGade20 said:

I'm tired of waiting! And it hasn't been as scary as I thought it would be. I put it out there and nothing ventured is nothing gained. That. is. for. sure!

UCantHavaDaMango said:

Wow! Being surrounded by beautiful gay men works very well in the bedroom department for me!

no pictures of this flig?





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reneGade20 said:

for me, that'll most likely end up being the case. i work more on the wavelength of if you want me, you come and look for me...i promise i'm worth the search.

'sides, it seems as if there's a shortage of women right now anyway.

Good for you for getting out there and doing your thing...way to do you!!

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

See I'm totally worth the search and nobody's looking!

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Next time it happens, I'll call you!

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

There are quite a few in Seattle. You should come out here for a visit!

UCantHavaDaMango said:

Are you handing me your leftovers!?

Prince looks completely stoned in your avie

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Leftovers? Yeah right, I never even got a taste! They're all for you Hun.


Prince isn't stoned in my avie, he's humbled by the applause of a loving crowd.

Have some CAKE!

dude, gay men get sooooo much ass.