I am so sorry you and your family have to deal with this terrible disease.

Mach said:

That must be shattering, no doubt about it. It's rough when a person close to us has memory problems.

I'm so sorry. My Dad had Alzheimer's and that is one of the hardest parts when they don't recognise you. They do remember but they are living in a different time and you aren't fitting the picture she has in her head right now. Just remember that the feelings she had (has) for you are real and are still there.
I'm sure you're taking good care of her, it is truly one of the hardest jobs anyone can undertake. They don't call it the 36 hour day for nothing.

We had to put my Dad in a home for his own safety and for my Mom's health. It was a good decision. It took the major burden of his safety and health care off my Mom and the rest of us and gave us some respite so the time we spent with him daily was more enjoyable both for him and for us. We still cared for a lot of his needs and there wasn't a day someone didn't visit and make sure he was alright. He was more relaxed and enjoyed being with us more than at home because we weren't the ones doing the main caretaking.

For us the hardest part was saying good bye every day. He was always asking us to help him leave and go home. The thing was the home he was talking about was HIS parents house and he wanted to be with them. He was a young man in his mind
We had the nurses distract him when it was time for us to leave.

It's always difficult but we don't regret one minute of the time we had with him both at home and in the nursing home.

My Dad thought I was his sister most of the time. He was very lucid before he died and knew exactly who I was.

Mach I'm so sorry hon... know you're all in my thoughts and in my heart beautiful Goddess

Oh No, Mach.

I'm so sorry.

It is awful, you can actually FEEL the pain welling up inside of you at THAT moment.

I truly am so sorry, hon.

X 2000

Hang in there Mach!!

My thoughts are with you...

Thank you all

~Hugs Mach.

Do NOT jump in and think it is alzeimers.. as some ppl have mentioned..

Get a proper diagnosis..

Elderly people do get confused.. my Grandad has dementia, but it is not Alzeimers.. there is a difference

Now also my Grandma would get an incy bit confused too.. but that could be put down to age, meds, or just simple confusion..

Do remember your Mum loves you.. and it is not her that doesnt recognise you.. its just the illness.. remember the happy times, and I know its heartbreaking and sad.. but you have to stay strong for her.. and yourself..