1sexymf said:

Whap!! Only is you desire me to baby....Whap!!

1 in 100 people is apparently asexual

The necessary evil that is DATING just sickens me. Yet if you do not, you are cutting yourself off from some most amazing and beautiful souls. Yet when you do, you are now inundated with those same souls and energy that just doesn't fit and is an apparent waste of time and energy of your own.

It is a catch 22 that we all must endure in our lifetime, but that doesn't mean we have to like it. It is time consuming, exhausting, cumulative and just a PAIN IN THE ARSE!! While you are embarking on the Dating Game, you have to remember who you went to the movies with, what restaurant you went to, keep track of who you told parts of your life story too without repeating it to contestant number one, two or three or what the fuck ever!!!

I hate it!

Then there is sex! Now men, if you don't know.....YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO POWER IN THIS! Not until after the first sexual encounter do you have any rights of touching, engaging, trespassing...lol...or whatever it is you do in navigating the female divide.

You have to decide if you are attracted enough, will there be sexual compatibility? If you are adult enough, you may be lucky enough to actually engage in a cool and relieving conversation about sex which can be a deal breaker in and of itself.

I hate dating.....

Then you have to give space, respect space, make calls, expect calls, not get calls, make plans around plans and nonplans. I mean, you become this kind of fucking traffic cop standing in the middle of a four way intersection with no traffic lights to help you out! "Hey, what you doing? Cool...I'm going here and there and will be back around then, and I am going here after that and we can do this at that time then bye! Hey, what's up....I am going here after that and we can do this at that time then bye! Hey, (not feeling this one)....sigh...what's up....I'm just chillin.....nah....I'm cool on that....not really into this or that WITH YOU, but can't say that or this to YOU.....what?...nah....I think I'm chillin' tonight.....what?....tomorrow?.....Ummmmm.....I'm getting a frontal labotomy at 9am.....STOP CALLING ME NOW!!!

I hate dating.....

BUT I LOVE BEING SINGLE! Or do I?

sigh....

I can't win.....LOL

ZombieKitten said:

I would be one of them

Janfriend said:

but I thought you had trouble sitting down because you were getting it so much!

I have drive-thru sex. Safe of course. No strings. I don't think I'm able to date and then get into a relationship right now.


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MIGUELGOMEZ said:

why?

Janfriend said:

Too much trouble. Plus, no one is really interested right now.

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Janfriend said:

Too much trouble. Plus, no one is really interested right now.

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Good lord, you make me want to join a convent!

I'm going on a date with my wife in about 2 hours.

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

So then, it's something you really don't want...?

ZombieKitten said:

right, I forgot about that. Perception is (messed up) reality. There's different types of asexualism. Mine will go away once I fall in love... I think

Janfriend said:

the asexual folks in the article I read about found they weren't in the least bit sexually attracted to anyone, they found the whole idea of sex repulsive. I am sure you aren't at all like that

ZombieKitten said:

There's nothing wrong with not being sexually attracted to anyone. I think it's a remarkably complex and beautiful thing. Some asexuals try to experiment with some type of sexual activity in their relationships and some don't. I think sex is disgusting if done too soon. Some people have a different idea of what too soon is. I personally would love to wait a year or years before ever going in that direction as long as the other person was on the same level and we both committed ourselves to cultivating a pure emotional and spiritual relationship

Janfriend said:

You think maybe they only try to experiment because they feel that it is expected of them? There is a lot of societal pressure to be doing it just like everyone else, regardless of people's own natural pace.

I knew this was a Whap! thread in disguise!

I was just about to share my own tortured story...

jerseykrs said:

what can i say, it's been a thought

SammiJ said:

...Nooooo!...u're better than that...I can help...
[Edited 3/3/07 2:43am]

No way could I ever go through the gut wrentching experience of dating again , besides Im getting too old for that shit