Who cares! They each come into our lives for whatever reason.

Natisse when are you coming to Denver?

I've always believed that it takes a lifetime or many years to find a friend. I have a boat load of acquaintances and two people who are my friends.

Natisse said:

I'm sure you've made friends here Nat.

Im a lot more sceptical of people than I used to be. Ive only got about one or two people who I genuinly call true friends.

I have loads of acquaintences, 100s but very few real true friends.. I like it that way.. my true friends are really special to me

A few years ago I got confused.. thought I had loads of friends.. but they proved they were just acquaintences.. thats cool though, cos now I know and can concentrate on the people who truly care for me and me them.

i've never had a problem telling aquaintances apart from true friends. i have plenty of aquaintances (which is not a bad thing) but very few that i consider true friends. actually i can only count my true friends on one hand.

brownsugar said:

Same here,I have no problem with it but I do try to limit my acquaintances
Thing is, my acquaintances do not know the real me and probably never will

Natisse said:

u mean to tell me that with all the lovey dovey hugging crap that goes on, on this website that most of these people are just "acquaintances"

Natisse said:

Of course. Real friends are folks I consider family. They're people I'd give my life for. A true friend is someone who'll stick by you through thick & thin, no matter what the haters say. Someone who's not afraid to give you tough love when you need it. Someone you can trust with the lives of your children.

As brownsugar said, I can count my TRUE friends on one hand.

This is very interesting. Until recently, I've had a hard time separating the 2 but I think this it's an individual thing. Meaning that this means different things to different people. As many here have said, a true friend for me is one who I know I can call at any time of day or night, will tell me the truth no matter what and will trust me with any and everything and vice versa. I have levels of friends and I think of people like co-workers acquaintances. I think I can count with 1 hand my real friends as well.

REDFEATHERS said:

I had the same thing happen to me not too long ago... being older and wiser I thought I'd found NEW friends in some people I've gotten to know, I was wrong... they're great acquaintences but friends, no.

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heyduckie said:

I'm sorry? if I post a hug or whatever it means just that... it doesn't mean you're my best friend or I'm yours. I'm the same in real life I show affection and care to anyone I want to not just the people I hold closest in life. I don't see what the problem with the "lovey dovey hugging crap" is and never have it confuses me that people are so opposed to it...

just my

I have a whole 2 absolute best friends., my friend Linda who lives in Texas, and my hubby. Though I wish I closer friendships with other women simply because female companionship is important for sanity..lol, I talk with more people here than I actually see overall in everyday life., sad isn't it?

I hate the way as you get older , you seem to move away from your friends or at least thats what seems to have happened to me anyway .

Im really embarrassed to say I dont think I have one single friend anymore

Pochacco said:

I have been pretty shit with friends.. I NEED them there.. and I am there for them.. but then we dont talk in ages.. and seems we have nearly lost touch until one of us calls the other and apologise for not keeping intouch but we are both as bad as each other

Now if they were Orgers there would be no problem there.. an orgnote here and there, a rant on the forums.. but most my friends have settled down.. have kids, married, divorced, having affairs, moved away.. etc etc.. so its really hard to keep up with them

whereas me the singledom.. I asm the one with the simple life.. but I used to think settlling down meant simple life.. hell no.. I know different now
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Strange , alot of people in relationships wished they were single and vice versa .

Pochacco said:

Its true.. I know..

Pochacco said:

That makes me sad.



I can be your friend.


I think as people pair off and have kids or whatever, there's some growing apart that will naturally happen. You just have to make a point to still nurture the relationship, just as you would any other.
I know I'm lucky in that most of my friends have moved almost beyond friendship to the family level. We could not talk for months and I could still call them in the middle of the night and they'd be there to help. I don't doubt that they love me and they don't doubt I love them. We will always be in each others lives.

I know the difference.

I have a few friends, and usually try to limit my acquaintences. I tend to be kind of an all-or-nothing person. There are exceptions, though; I have people here who kind of straddle a weird line. . .some people who I'm sure I'd be very close to if we lived close to each other, but we don't, and I value them as casual friends, which is a practically nonexistant thing in my non-org life.

I can definately count on one hand the number of people whom I've ever let really know me, though.

CarrieMpls said:

My problem used to be with certain *aquaintences* they wouldnt trust their husbands/bfs.. around a single girl like me

now its hilarious to think I would even wanna cop off with them.. but it just echoed their insecurities within their relationships..

pretty sad really.. but as a single friend I was ousted from a lot of parties where there was safety in couples..