http://www.prince.org/msg/100/222597

if you're talking about killing people when you first meet a girl, that might be kind of a turnoff.

NWF said:

alright, it just came off that way. just remember that plenty of men fall for the wrong kind of woman, too

Omg.

If I come down there and fuck you will you promise to stop making such whiney threads?

JustErin said:

ItsOnlyMountains said:

That was out of my own rage that I was feeling at that particular moment. I feel much better now. I just needed to vent out my frustration. That's all.

JustErin said:

It would give me no greater pleasure to see that happen. But guess what? Realistically I'm absolutely sure that It won't.


So on with the thread.....

Nearly 3 months later and ain't a damn thing changed.

oh my god, why do you keep bumping this?

evenstar3 said:

Because I can.

But also because this is what's happening with your favorite New Wave hero.

"Don't put the pussy on a pedestal"...sorry...40 year-old virgin lines are just pouring out of my mind...

Seriously, I've gone 8 years before (in my 20's) and it's like riding a bike you'll get right back on when the time is right...just look for a woman who you would actually be friends with and start off working on a solid friendship with a SINGLE woman. Friends tell each other more than dates tell each other so go slow and communicate clearly so you don't end up in the friend zone as opposed to the relationship zone. Otherwise, look for a "date" and you'll have a physical relationship sooner and the getting to know you afterward (which is scary but sometimes just needed so you learn things thae hard way)

Slave2daGroove said:

Yeah, that was a funny movie. And I could totally relate to that guy. But he had to wait until marriage to get his (sorry if I spoiled the movie for you if you haven't seen it, but you should've seen that coming). I've decide to never get married. But hey, that may all change.

But if one has had very little experience with women, it can be difficult sometimes to even approach them. But you're right though: there's a greater chance of deeper relationships when they start out as friendships.

But in my case, what if all your girl "friends" are taken? Or what if you're shown unrequited love by the ladies more often than not? And what should you do if this affects you mentally? This is what my thread is all about.

I don't know why finding love and sex is the greatest and most challenging thing in the world, but for some reason it is.

NWF said:

It just seems like it is bud, it's about perspective. Your perspective right now is that of desperation and women smell that and it's repelling them.

Go to the gym, read books that make you feel good about yourself, do whatever it takes to be happy with yourself. Quit trying so hard and obsessing on it and it will show itself. Perspective is everything and when you're ready and feeling good about yourself again, MAKE NEW FRIENDS! The friends you have now are taken and the friend you have yet to meet is out there but make sure you're not in this desperate place mentally or you'll only attract another desperate person and nobody wants that.

Keep your chin up and work on being positive, healthy and happy. THEN, look for some new friends on Craigs list or at the record store or at a place you find yourself hanging out at. Your woman is there but you just can't see her yet.

I think some people are just a lost cause.

evenstar3 said:

JustErin said:

No, I still believe there is light at the end of the tunnel. But I'm going through a looooonnnng fucking tunnel.


I think what's gonna end up happening is that the changes will occur if and when I become a rock star or something.

people have given you all sorts of good advice and postive actions to take on this thread
and you think it will be easier when you hit the big time????

i suggest you go back to the beginning of this thread
and make a list of everyone's advice.
you might be surprised if you actually took the time to take it in

emm said:

Oh believe me, I've considered everyone here's opinions and advice. And I'm trying to take heed to it, but I'm not seeing much progress. I will admit though that now I think I'm stopping myself. But after my last relationship and it's failure.....well it's had a bit of an impact and has changed me and my attitude towards love, sex, and relationships.

For fuck's sake, dude.

INSATIABLE said:

I know. This is annoying me as much as it is you.

NWF said:

You're not seeing any changes because your attitude hasn't changed (and probably never will).

You're waiting around for everyone else to change to suit your needs instead of you actually making an effort.

The end.