I've been doing a lot of homework about myself and I've come to find that I am "involuntarily celibate". That means for some reason or another I would love to but I just can't get a date or a shag or anything. And it's not because there's anything significantly wrong with me. It's just that it's an unattainable thing for me. My friends and family are getting it left and right, but for some reason it has evaded me in every opportunity. Before my last girlfriend whom I dated from spring to fall of last year, I hadn't dated anyone since Jr. High (9 years). I always wanted to but I was always either shy or fearful of things like infidelity, VD, and stuff. Or I was focused on more important things like education and improving myself as a human being. But I always wondered what it would be like to get laid and fall in love.

Some of you might look at me and think I must be a playboy, but oh, how wrong you are. My mother asked me one time why I didn't have a girlfriend, but I didn't know how to answer. I just did this She thought of that as not normal, but I told her "what is?". Is it normal for Pacific tribes to mutilate and pierce their skin for art or fashion? Your average Westerner wouldn't think so. But that's how it is for that particular culture.

And then I started that thread a while back about how I've given up on finding a significant other. At this point I must say I have stopped trying to find someone since either every girl is taken or I'm just too weird or different from others. I'm probably doing to die a celibate virgin, but hey, it's something I just have to deal with.

Now you see one of the reasons why I'm a Morrissey fan.

But maybe on the .org there's someone who can relate. Or perhaps there are some who are voluntarily celibate for other reasons.

Yeah, but how long do I have to wait? I should be having all the fun now that I'm in my 20's. I've been told by many folkd that when you get to be into your 30's and 40's and stuff, you won't get the opportunity to have the kind of fun you did in your 20's. By that time it is expected of you to settle down with someone.

Yeah, but I've been trying to find that special someone and I just feel that she isn't out there for me.

Yeah, but I've been trying to find that special someone and I just feel that she isn't out there for me.

When you've done everything you can, come back to this thread and I'll even join your pity party. I also though I wouldn't find someone special but lo and behold, I fell in love three times over.

BTW, I can't believe you're only like 25. seems like you've been on here forever.

When you've done everything you can, come back to this thread and I'll even join your pity party. I also though I wouldn't find someone special but lo and behold, I fell in love three times over.

BTW, I can't believe you're only like 25. seems like you've been on here forever.

you're just 25 and giving up on women? damn.

you're just 25 and giving up on women? damn.

Despite your claims, it is the honest to God truth that I'm a celibate virgin who has had nothing but bad luck in trying to get out of my predicament.

When you've done everything you can, come back to this thread and I'll even join your pity party.

Anyone who says their celibate is a bit of a liar in my opinion. I think the truth of the matter is you cant get a shag or not making any attempt to get one.

So are you calling me a liar?


Despite your claims, it is the honest to God truth that I'm a celibate virgin who has had nothing but bad luck in trying to get out of my predicament.

No. What is it with folks on the Orgs these days. Dont spit your dummy out.

Well if you had shit for luck with them, you'd give up too.

Who said that we should stop this thread?

I wrote something about this subject in one of my Myspace blogs. I got some major props from this one cat who understood and empathized with me. Another thing I didn't bring up before is that I'm an honest and decent man. Or at least I try to be. But hey, no one's perfect. But it seems like girls are more attracted to the wrong kind of men: the jerks, the macho men, the ones that treat them like shit, etc. But I'm a type of person who would never treat a girl like that. But that's gotten me nowhere. I could be wrong about this, but this is one of the things I'm noticing in my problem. It's unfair for an honest person like me to lose out to a jerk.