People who constantly say "there is no hope for me" are right and they will indeed be single for life.

If you feel that's just the way it's really gonna be, you should just accept it and not complain.

I'm thinking that you are doing this to yourself.

My guess is that this defeatist attitude you have weighs heavily on the way you present yourself and I have to say that this kind of attitude is not attractive to women at all.

JustErin said:

That's a bit harsh, but it's exactly what I'm saying, and from a woman's perspective. It's all about attitude.

Be desperate & depressed, just don't act that way.

I was celibate for 2 months just recently.

From the end of Septhember till the end of November.

After that ordeal, its kinda weird to have sex with an ACTUAL person again.

Good Luck!

SureThing said:

your avatar threw me off, i thought dan was saying that.

cborgman said:

HAHAH
Time for a new one.

SureThing said:

Are you ok with your sizing?

Signed,

Concerned Friend

Who says you need a partner or shagging?

Who says you need a partner or shagging?

Ace said:

His genitals say, that's who.

People who constantly say "there is no hope for me" are right and they will indeed be single for life.

If you feel that's just the way it's really gonna be, you should just accept it and not complain.

I'm thinking that you are doing this to yourself.

My guess is that this defeatist attitude you have weighs heavily on the way you present yourself and I have to say that this kind of attitude is not attractive to women at all.

JustErin said:

Believe me, I don't want to be single, and I certainly don't feel comfortable being a wallower. But when you have girls either hooking up with other people, in fact every pretty girl you see, that makes it a bit difficult for you.

My Mother says there's plenty of single girls out there who would kill to be with a man like me.

Who is she trying to fool?

I tried being Prince Charming (no, not the Adam Ant version ), I tried to be the nicest, sweeting person. But that only gets me so far. I don't find it difficult meeting and talking to girls. But I guess they only see me as friendship material. And when I try to break the ice and take it further, they always bring the subject of "their boyfriends", or in some cases, "girlfriends".

NWF said:

STOP MAKING EXCUSES!!





ok, I had to throw that out there. If you're the little guy, you're always gonna have to try harder. That's just life. It's not going to be handed to you on a silver platter. I'm lazy, I'm overweight, I'm insecure a lot of the time, I don't have a college degree, I'm certainly not conventionally attractive, I don't give a shit about sports and I can still manage to get dates. I'm also fun and smart and cute and have great taste. Play to your strengths, you know you have them. And maybe your standards are a bit too high. Try asking anyone out. Anyone. And just see how it goes. Even if you have a bad time once, you're at least getting experience.

A little tip - most women don't really care about cars and money. At least, I can only think of one female friend of mine for whom that's an issue. If you're happy with your life and what you're doing and have some direction the rest of the material crap doesn't really matter. And if that's all that's important to her, she's not a good fit for you anyway, so find someone else who is.

Are you awkward around women? Do they make you feel insecure or uncomfortable?

I mean, even shy guys get laid.

So I was right. You do it to yourself.

JustErin said:

Oh, so that's how you see this? Me doing it to myself?

Lets just get to the point.

What do you look like?

Post your picture.

JustErin said:

Oh, so that's how you see this? Me doing it to myself?

NWF said:

I have to agree. You said yourself, you've given up. You don't even ask. You just assume they aren't interested or are already with someone else.

You won't know unless you try.

NWF said:

Well, of course.

The whole "me against the world" attitude is kinda sad, imho.

You're blaming everyone else for the situation you are in when you need to take a good hard look at yourself.

From what you have posted on here, your attitude is, well, there's no point really because I don't trust them, they won't like me or they're taken.

Your assumptions are what's preventing you from getting what it is you're looking for.

It's like this. People who do not carry these assumptions around with them are more successful than those that do carry them around.

C'est facile.

JustErin said:

Yes, there area always things about me that I can improve, but it's not like there's anything majorly wrong with me. I don't drink, smoke, do drugs and I'm obviously not promiscuous. I try and be a good person to all.

But if you have tried being your own sweet self in the face of women and you just end up being let down, and if it's consistent, you do develop an exterior ridden with cynicism and bitterness.

Some of this attitude also came from the end result of my last relationship. The damn girl didn't even wanna kiss me in public!! What the hell!!!

NWF said:

You just don't get it.

Your lifestyle choices will never make up for who you are as a person. As a person, you appear to be jaded, naive, insecure and defeated.

Women can spot that shit a mile away and no one wants to be with someone like this. I mean, can you blame them? Would you want a woman like that?

Rejection is part of life, man. You are no different than anyone else in that respect. Your difference lies in the way you have chosen to deal with it.

You're a good-looking dude.

To get what you think you want, here's my advice:

1. Know this.
2. Burn your Morrissey records.