You know, living with/dating for several years should've given a great indicator of how things were. People don't change overnight. I don't care what any one says. When your name gets signed, you don't become a completely different person.

Alex has eased into how he is now, and has remained pretty wellt he same for, hell, a great deal of our relationship. It's not really fair to go on and marry someone and expect things to be any different. Marriage isn't a "fix."

What the fuck do I know though. This one could prove my theory wrong.

to me, it doesn't matter if living together indicates a factor of how a person lives, once you get married it changes everything. you could live with a person for several years, and once there is a marriage that has taken place, that person could change like the wind. The ring and the vows change everything, thats why to me, it really isn't required that you "live" with your bf/gf before marriage because it doesn't matter. U just have to pray that your marriage works. But for me personally, when you live together, you are jinxing your relationship...and i have my reasons for feeling this way, but again this is just my opinion. I'm not trying to knock anyone who lives with their significant other, if it works for you, then it works...but it wouldn't work for me.
[Edited 3/1/07 5:21am]