you have found positive people to hang around and sought of leave your usual friends (who have gotten on your nerves with their negative attitudes) left out of certain events?

well i guess i sort of did that this past weekend. i'm currently in the exciting process of buying a townhouse, my co-worker is looking to buy a house. We went to a "new home buyer" seminar this past weekend because we both motivate each other in this subject. The possibilities are endless. But I had another friend that I usually do things with but she had been getting on my last nerves the past few times that I had talked to her. So, when this seminar thing came up and i told my co-worker about it, i left the other girl out because i didn't feel like being around negative energy.

I just talked to the "negative" friend on the phone just now about the house thingy, and i guess she felt left out. i didn't mean to have her feel that way, but sometimes, you can't hang out with everybody at once.

Do you know what I mean???

I know what you mean, but try to find a way to treat your old friends the way you normally would, regardless of your new friends. It's great to extend your circle and actively seek the company of energetic, positive, healthy people.

But if you find that your old friendships need maintenance, space or (in the case of really toxic relationships) to be cut off, then they deserve to be dealt with on their own with thoughtfulness and compassion, not just silently replaced.

FunkMistress said:

very well said





or just them



sorry still dealing with rage issue

Mach said:

Tincture of motherwort

1 dropperful in warm water every 15 minutes till the rage subsides.

FunkMistress said:

TY


I I have motherwort

Mach said:

You're welcome. Me too

Feeling better ...Thanx for the reminder

missfee said:

I TOTALLY know what you mean.

This same kinda thing is happening to me rite now.

My best friend of YEARS and also an inlaw, and I are kinda on the outs lately. Like, we didn't have a fight or anything. It's just like, we don't have much in common anymore.

And I find myself confiding in my other friends rather than her, and making THEM a bigger part of my life now than she is, and it's just totally odd and new to me.

But I think it's healthier too.

She doesn't have kids, so she's still in party mode. We just don't mesh well anymore.

FunkMistress said:

very well said

FunkMistress said:

HereToRockYourWorld said:

Um, I've been meaning to talk to you about our friendship...

I feel ya. I have a friend who is very depressed and very stuck on an ex who he can't stop obsessing over a year later, and I feel awful for him. But I'm a person who has to do some work to keep myself in a happy headspace, and he makes it really, really hard. Drains the life out of me with the constant "life is shit" perspective. I love him, but lately I'm not good about making efforts to make him a part of my social life. I don't really know what to do.

FunkMistress said:

WHY DOES EVERYBODY HATE ME AND WANT ME TO DIE A PAINFUL DEATH?!

HereToRockYourWorld said:

Dude. I was going to say how I think we should spend more time around each other, but you're really harshing my mellow with your woe-is-me misery. I think I'll just call brownsugar.

FunkMistress said:

You know, I can't be mad about that. Everybody should call brownsugar.

HereToRockYourWorld said:

Three way?




...on the phone!

thanks for the feedback folks...

SureThing said:

you used to flirt with me, now it's all Anx & Imago.....

abierman said:

I was single then. Now that I'm back to being married, it's all queers for me. I'm sorry.

SureThing said:

go back to your flowers, girl.....

FunkMistress said: