ZombieKitten said:

I like the way you think.

Fauxie said:

no romantic relationships yet at all... it will happen if its meant to

I was in love once. I took "having a crush" a bit too literally and destroyed 'em with a steamroller.

I chuckle about it sometimes, but my heart is dead.

abierman said:

I think it's great!



The happiness, that is, not the org withdrawal.

HereToRockYourWorld said:

i'm not so sure about that. i think what i want from a relationship is a little more complex (in some ways) and sophisticated (in other ways) than they were when i was in my first one. plus i think i might have developed standards since then - i mean, you know, not really HIGH standards...but standards nonetheless!

I've had five serious relationships in my life. I was in love with two of them.
One of them was an Orger.

I generally pooh-pooh Org "relationships" and online relationships in general--it only becomes a real relationship when it carries over into real-life, flesh-n-blood interaction.

Still, one of the great loves of my life started out on the Org...but she was the exception and certainly not the rule.

I currently have a semi-serious crush on someone--the first one I've had since 2001.

Natisse said:

Which I think is the perfect attitude to take. I wondered if I'd ever have a romantic relationship, but I just got on with my life and didn't bug out about it and figured if it happened it happened. Ok, so it did happen for me ultimately, but I was first and foremost happy and content as a person by myself and I think that's important. Of course, I'm horribly dependent now and would fall apart by myself. jk

one and a half I guess...

susannah said:

You've been gone, haven't you?

I notice stuff like that.




In other words,
I haven't had a serious relationship in quite awhile.

Illustrator said:

Yeah, I was only away about 2 months though. Good to be back, so far



and me neither...

One serious relationship that lasted 3 years. Let's just say that I experienced the imaturity of a teenage crush coupled with the insanity and pain of adult relationship all with one person. I came out late and dated girls in high school and college but NEVER allowed myself to get serious. It was bad enough I was deceiving myself and the girls so I was always careful not to get too close or allow them to get close to me.

So, when I came out and met the first co-dependent asshole that I could find, I fell in love. Now, I had no experience and I take responsibility for my baggage, my part in it. But, I just cannot get passed the idea of someone being so damn mean spirited. This guy was 12 years older, out since he was a teen, with a long list of boyfriends but the demands he made on me, and the verbal abuse was the heartbreaking thing. Not the lying and the cheating but the fact that he used all his power to abuse the inexperienced fool.

But I digress...

It's been almost two years and I've grown so much because of it and I would not change a thing. I'm good, it's all good...

Anx said:

"Standards". . . ok. . . good luck with that.

zero.

HereToRockYourWorld said:

you know, like...guys who bathe and have all their teeth. things like that.

living in boystown has turned me into a fussy little prissbitch, i know.

Anx said:

well, okay. MOST of their teeth....

Anx said:

People have baggage and bridges. C'est la vie.

HereToRockYourWorld said:

I don't mind bridgework!

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

That's what I said!