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Open Marriages Do they work? Not just in theory, but in practice, have you known it to work? Is it inevitable that someone will get jealous or hurt?
(In this situation, "open marriage" means each person in the marriage may have a sexual relationship with someone other than his/her spouse) | |
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works 4 me! =) Where's my Pussy cat at? --Naughty by Nature | |
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AnotherLoverHolenYoHead said: Do they work? Not just in theory, but in practice, have you known it to work? Is it inevitable that someone will get jealous or hurt?
(In this situation, "open marriage" means each person in the marriage may have a sexual relationship with someone other than his/her spouse) I had an open relationship with my last boyfriend - does that count?  I mean, like, where is the sun? | |
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Natsume said: AnotherLoverHolenYoHead said: Do they work? Not just in theory, but in practice, have you known it to work? Is it inevitable that someone will get jealous or hurt?
(In this situation, "open marriage" means each person in the marriage may have a sexual relationship with someone other than his/her spouse) I had an open relationship with my last boyfriend - does that count? Yep! Tell me (if you're willing), how did things go? | |
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I have an open relationship with my right hand... it doesn't get mad if I use my left hand... it says that it will stay loyal to me and will not roam, so I guess I have the best of both worlds. SUPERJOINT RITUAL - http://www.superjointritual.com
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AnotherLoverHolenYoHead said: Yep! Tell me (if you're willing), how did things go?
I have a feeling we've rehashed this on another thread... but here goes! It was basically a one-sided decision. I wanted it and he was fine with the way things were. I saw other people and he didn't. He went along with it because he wanted to make me happy... The open relationship satiated my appetite for a while - I got tired of bed-hopping and I wanted a stable boy again, somebody whom I loved. So back to the relationship I went. It opened back up a few weeks later, at my request again. We broke up soon after that. I don't think open relationships work, even hypothetically speaking. That's just my opinion, of course. I think there's something wrong in your relationship if you want to fool around with other people - I would have denied this a few months ago but now I see the problems that we had. In my case, I wanted to be able to see other people because I was sick of my boyfriend, I wanted out, but I was too attached to let go. But letting go turned out to be one of the very best decisions I've made in my life, despite the fact that it took seven months to do! I mean, like, where is the sun? | |
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Natsume said: AnotherLoverHolenYoHead said: Yep! Tell me (if you're willing), how did things go?
I have a feeling we've rehashed this on another thread... but here goes! It was basically a one-sided decision. I wanted it and he was fine with the way things were. I saw other people and he didn't. He went along with it because he wanted to make me happy... The open relationship satiated my appetite for a while - I got tired of bed-hopping and I wanted a stable boy again, somebody whom I loved. So back to the relationship I went. It opened back up a few weeks later, at my request again. We broke up soon after that. I don't think open relationships work, even hypothetically speaking. That's just my opinion, of course. I think there's something wrong in your relationship if you want to fool around with other people - I would have denied this a few months ago but now I see the problems that we had. In my case, I wanted to be able to see other people because I was sick of my boyfriend, I wanted out, but I was too attached to let go. But letting go turned out to be one of the very best decisions I've made in my life, despite the fact that it took seven months to do! Yeah, if I recall correctly I started a thread about cheating and it became a thread about open relationships...I think you probably mentioned it there, but probably generally speaking cause I don't remember details. | |
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There's no security in having an open wedlock. It's a pairadox really. Seems like people like to add nice words like "marriage" to make it seem alright, while in fact it gives marriage a bad name, and it makes the traiditionalists look like they're out-of-step with the rest of society. They become outcasts. But I don't see much wrong with being an outcast in the world of today. Entropy indeed. | |
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If i'm married i definitely couldn't do it.I take the vows seriously.If i'm with a girl that i didn't feel was long term i could have an open relationship.But if we start touching souls i start to get greedy and want her all to myself. | |
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Natsume said: AnotherLoverHolenYoHead said: Yep! Tell me (if you're willing), how did things go?
I have a feeling we've rehashed this on another thread... but here goes! It was basically a one-sided decision. I wanted it and he was fine with the way things were. I saw other people and he didn't. He went along with it because he wanted to make me happy... The open relationship satiated my appetite for a while - I got tired of bed-hopping and I wanted a stable boy again, somebody whom I loved. So back to the relationship I went. It opened back up a few weeks later, at my request again. We broke up soon after that. I don't think open relationships work, even hypothetically speaking. That's just my opinion, of course. I think there's something wrong in your relationship if you want to fool around with other people - I would have denied this a few months ago but now I see the problems that we had. In my case, I wanted to be able to see other people because I was sick of my boyfriend, I wanted out, but I was too attached to let go. But letting go turned out to be one of the very best decisions I've made in my life, despite the fact that it took seven months to do! Bravo... I have a similar situation with my right hand... I am so tired of it... but I am so attached to it that I can't let go... sometimes I have to venture out and experiment though... When I feel particularly frisky I will sit on my left hand until it goes totally to sleep and then I jack it... it feels like someone else is doing it for me... neither hand is jealous over this... A shot of novacaine in the hand will do wonders for your open relationship too... one shot and she is a stranger again... I still love my right hand and will stay with her, but sometimes I gotta venture out with a reverse grip or something to liven things up. SUPERJOINT RITUAL - http://www.superjointritual.com
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I had a girlfriend who immediately found a new guy to be with everytime we had a bad week over some kind of disagreement. She came back to me each time, but I definitely felt less and less secure about her love for me, and when she wanted us to finally make a commitment to each other, I couldn't make the decision. I didn't trust her anymore.
People are supposed to make marriages work -- one with the other -- and not go running to other people during down times. Love means supporting each other and being there for each other even when times go bad. We all have our bad days, even weeks and months some time. We need to be strong and not go selfishly looking for someone who'll please us tonight or else we'll lose that person who could've/should've/would've been there for us the rest of our lives. If we're not careful to love one another, we may look back on our lonely lives with regret. | |
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IceNine said: When I feel particularly frisky I will sit on my left hand until it goes totally to sleep and then I jack it... it feels like someone else is doing it for me... neither hand is jealous over this...
Isn't this move called 'The Stranger'? I mean, like, where is the sun? | |
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 don't like that 1 bit. B sides u don't know what sort of diseases u can catch amd maybe end up with fo the rest of your life.
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Natsume said: IceNine said: When I feel particularly frisky I will sit on my left hand until it goes totally to sleep and then I jack it... it feels like someone else is doing it for me... neither hand is jealous over this...
Isn't this move called 'The Stranger'? I'm not sure... but it sounds like a good name to me!  SUPERJOINT RITUAL - http://www.superjointritual.com
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IceNine said: Natsume said: IceNine said: When I feel particularly frisky I will sit on my left hand until it goes totally to sleep and then I jack it... it feels like someone else is doing it for me... neither hand is jealous over this...
Isn't this move called 'The Stranger'? I'm not sure... but it sounds like a good name to me! Oh, I would be quite upset if my hand got loose and started jacking other guys off... I don't swing that way, you see... that would be a bit distressing. :LOL: SUPERJOINT RITUAL - http://www.superjointritual.com
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Rare indeed are the times that you can have your cake and eat it 2. | |
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Natsume said: IceNine said: When I feel particularly frisky I will sit on my left hand until it goes totally to sleep and then I jack it... it feels like someone else is doing it for me... neither hand is jealous over this...
Isn't this move called 'The Stranger'? Is that the movie where the guys hand gets cut off and it keeps chasing him around like it's got a mind of it's own? When I read about the evils of drinking, I gave up reading. | |
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AnotherLoverHolenYoHead said: Do they work? Not just in theory, but in practice, have you known it to work? Is it inevitable that someone will get jealous or hurt?
(In this situation, "open marriage" means each person in the marriage may have a sexual relationship with someone other than his/her spouse) AnotherLover, I don't think I would ever cheat(I think that's what I would really be doing, actually) if I were married, and if I ever did, I would take it to my grave...and, I would hope my husband would do the same, because I would feel like he cheated on me. Period. I would never make a deal with my husband that we could fuck around on each other, no way!!...  | |
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bkw said: Natsume said: IceNine said: When I feel particularly frisky I will sit on my left hand until it goes totally to sleep and then I jack it... it feels like someone else is doing it for me... neither hand is jealous over this...
Isn't this move called 'The Stranger'? Is that the movie where the guys hand gets cut off and it keeps chasing him around like it's got a mind of it's own? Idle Hands is the movie. | |
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AnotherLoverHolenYoHead said: Do they work? Not just in theory, but in practice, have you known it to work? Is it inevitable that someone will get jealous or hurt?
(In this situation, "open marriage" means each person in the marriage may have a sexual relationship with someone other than his/her spouse) I have a close friend/co-worker who's had an open marriage for about 4 years now. They're happier than ever. And they definitely weren't happy before. I think they've been married about 22 years or so. | |
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LowDown said: Idle Hands is the movie.
Didn't that turd from Saved by the bell star in that movie? I mean, like, where is the sun? | |
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I would never make  2 any1 other than my funkbible!!
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Natsume said: LowDown said: Idle Hands is the movie.
Didn't that turd from Saved by the bell star in that movie? I don't know | |
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Aaron said: AnotherLoverHolenYoHead said: Do they work? Not just in theory, but in practice, have you known it to work? Is it inevitable that someone will get jealous or hurt?
(In this situation, "open marriage" means each person in the marriage may have a sexual relationship with someone other than his/her spouse) I have a close friend/co-worker who's had an open marriage for about 4 years now. They're happier than ever. And they definitely weren't happy before. I think they've been married about 22 years or so. I think it depends on the couple and how strong their relationship is. For the most part I don't think it works out, but there are cases when it does. Although it sounds very appealing, I don't think I could ever do it. I know I would get way too jealous. | |
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No, this is not for me!
I can't imagine sleeping with my partner, and then sleeping with some other person, then sleeping with my partner.. Besides it is not wise nor safe these days.. ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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sag10 said: No, this is not for me!
I can't imagine sleeping with my partner, and then sleeping with some other person, then sleeping with my partner.. Besides it is not wise nor safe these days.. What if you all did it together?  | |
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CarrieLee said: sag10 said: No, this is not for me!
I can't imagine sleeping with my partner, and then sleeping with some other person, then sleeping with my partner.. Besides it is not wise nor safe these days.. What if you all did it together? Maybe in my hippie days, but not now! ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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sag10 said: CarrieLee said: sag10 said: No, this is not for me!
I can't imagine sleeping with my partner, and then sleeping with some other person, then sleeping with my partner.. Besides it is not wise nor safe these days.. What if you all did it together? Maybe in my hippie days, but not now!  Sag you ho! | |
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