Have you ever had the realization that either life is passing you by or simply that it is time to turn the page and move on?

I have been assessing a lot of things in my life and have realized that I am way past due for some serious changes in my life...

The thing is....I realize now that some of these changes are far overdue and I think in the coming weeks I need to make them...I will be making them....

One of the changes I need to make is this place....not sure yet what to do...does it really matter?

Anybody here in the process of making some serious changes in their life?

Divorce?

Relocation?

Marriage?

Career?

This year will be very different. This week is already completely upside-down to how it has always been. I have been at work whilst the master has been at home (he has taken leave for 6 months).
Last year I wanted to die at one point, I couldn't see the point to it all, everything was way too hard and I couldn't see why I even had to keep going. Losing sight of the big picture is a scary place to be
This year I am hoping to see things more clearly and get it all back into perspective. All work and no play, wtf for?

ZombieKitten said:

I hear you both!!!
I made some serious life changes at the end of last year. It was scary but very necessary for me to grow and be a stronger person.
The all work and no play comment from ZK hits home for me. I have never felt like I deserved to play or have fun- only work.
Now I am truly in a financial situation that I CANNOT play at all-I am making just enough to make the bills- no extras for me but luckily I have always lived without the extras so I do not really know what I am missing but I hope some day that will change. It is about time I had some play time.

Shanti1 said:

I think I have the opposite problem. I think all I do is play.



I've always worked and for the most part have progressed, but I know I could be doing so, so much more. I've lacked the drive and ambition to do it, though. I'm finding it hard to kick myself and get started. I'd rather play.

I've had a few good things at work happen lately, though, and things may be turning around there soon. Maybe.

CarrieMpls said:

I have lost motivation at work as well because I was working a lot and I was not getting any further ahead for the extra work I was doing. Now that I really really need ever penny extra that I can make- I am still doing it but I am not enjoying it. It just seems like a chore and all I do it work and go home and repeat...for what? I guess I should count my blessings that at least I have a home to go home to with a nice warm bed.
Some times it just seems like that is all I do is work and have no fun.
I guess that is why I am discouraged and tired. I guess I need to find a different way of looking at it.

I am. This year will be huge for me I think in many ways. I can really feel it, almost even in a physical sense as well. It's actually making me freak out a little bit.

It's like the lyrics to Tony's song "Something's Coming" in West Side Story....

Could be....
Who knows?
There's something due any day
I will know right away,
Soon as it shows.

It may come cannonballing down through the sky,
Gleam in its eye,
Bright as a rose!

Who knows?
It's only just out of reach,
Down the block, on a beach,
Under a tree....
I got a feeling there's a miracle due,
Gonna come true,
Coming to me!

Could it be? Yes, it could.
Something's coming, something good,
If I can wait!
Something's coming, I don't know what it is,
But it is
Gonna be great!

With a click, with a shock,
Phone'll jingle, door'll knock,
Open the latch!
Something's coming, don't know when, but it's soon
Catch the moon,
One-handed catch!

Around the corner,
Or whistling down the river,
Come on, deliver
To me!
Will it be? Yes, it will.
Maybe just by holding still,
It'll be there!

Come on, something, come on in, don't be shy,
Meet a guy,
Pull up a chair!
The air is humming,
And something great is coming!
Who knows?
It's only just out of reach,
Down the block, on a beach,
Maybe tonight . . .



but we all know how he ended up.

Travelling has probably been the best thing I have ever done. Consciously and subconsciously it has opened my mind to new things and I feel I am definetely changing as a person. Im a lot more focused, confident and driven. I no longer worry half as much as I used to. Im losing all the negative shit.

ZombieKitten said:

Charlotte... I am so glad you found a reason(or 3) to keep on going day in and day out....and so glad positive changes are happening for you....

Shanti1 said:

I've always gone without too.... I don't know what my financial picture holds for the immediate future...but I am a survivor and will be just fine...

My life is actually in a great state of change right now, some good, some great. It's all part of living.

jerseykrs said:

Well said my friend....and glad you embrace the reality of it....

On a long and lonesome highway, east of omaha.
You can listen to the engine moaning out its one lone song
You can think about woman, or the girl you knew the night before,
But your thoughts will soon be wandering, the way they always do.
When your riding sixteen hours and theres nothing much to do
And you dont feel much like riding, you just wish the trip was through.
Say, here I am, on the road again. there I am, up on the stage.
Here I go, playing star again.
There I go, turn the page.
Well you walk into a restaurant, strung out from the road,
You can feel the eyes upon you as your shaking off the cold
You pretend it doesnt bother you, but you just want to explode.
Most times you cant hear em talk, other times you can.
Oh the same old cliche, as that woman on her a man
You always see my number, you dont dare make a stand.
Here I am, on the road again. there I am, up on the stage.
Here I go, playing star again.
There I go, turn the page.
Out there in the spotlight your a million miles away,
Every ounce of energy, you try and give away,
As the sweat pours out your body like the music that you play.
Later in the evening as you lie awake in bed,
With the echo from the amplifiers ringing in your head,
You smoke the days last cigarette, remembering what she said.
Now here I am, on the road again. there I am, up on the stage.
Here I go, playing star again.
There I go, turn the page.
Here I am, on the road again. there I am, up on the stage.
Ah here I go, playing star again.
There I go, there I go.

Yes, Ken--you're changes are long overdue!

this year is a HUGE year of change for me... but more within myself, really, than outwardly

lots of changes

Last year was supposed to be my big year of change, but it ended up just being so-so purgatory.


This year, I really intend on making some dramatic changes in my life. I always feel trapped, like life is handing me my chops, when in fact, I should be an active participant in it's experiences. The biggest change that I will make this year, is to actually affect change and not let it just sort of happen.

yes to number 1,2 and 4.Next 6 months are going to suck

ZombieKitten said:

I think this will be a great year for you. Getting out there and meeting people is going to do wonders. How does it feel so far?

I've started my life over many times (new place, new people, new job etc, everything all at once) and although it is fascinating to have lived different lives in one, it's also made me weary. It would be nice to have some continuity, or at least something to return to when the latest "phase" is over. As it is now I've ended up in limbo for a few months between the phases, and that is a dark place to be. I guess I shouldn't complain though. My life has felt very rich so far. Overall I'd say it's been worth the toll it's taken.

BlackAdder7 said:

don't know why, but those lyrics seemed to really touch me this time.



i want change, but i'm afraid of some of it. and some of it i'd welcome but can't accomplish at the moment. i'm working towards it though. it's going to be a slow process but i am determined.

pardonme4livin said:

I hear ya, I'm in the process of deciding which career I would like to go into, since I'm sick of the one that I'm in now. Good luck to you, I know you will do the right things and will be successful.

ZombieKitten said:

minneapolisgenius said:

I've come to some of the most painful realizations I think I've ever had too personally and as a result of this I've found myself at a crossroads in my life trying to decide how to deal with this. I started by taking the time to assess and re-evaluate people, relationships and situations in my life... my next step is to come clean by cleaning out my closet.
[Edited 2/6/07 11:52am]

I'm at the point in my life where slightly licking the tip of my finger helps.

got my papers today

more major changes coming down the line.... changes i need to make for myself and others. part of this will involve getting away from the computer more.


so see you all later!

retina said:

So far I keep meeting the same 4 people each day at work and they have me doing data entry and image compiling AND if I am gonna be at work all day long every day, this whole thing of the master taking time off to spend time with me is all for NOTHING! They are already talking about me coming in next week too Lucky I cleaned out all the bedrooms (except the one with the 2 paintings in it) last Friday!

BlackAdder7 said:

WHY are you listening to Metallica?

SureThing said:

You mean apart from the reason that Metallica rock!

mdiver said:

And apart from the fact that the Metallica version was a cover, and ol' BlackAdder is probably referencing the Seeger original?