everybody feels insecure about themselves every now and then. i hate when i do it. how do you get rid of it or make your self feel better?

gotta go. i'll talk to you guys tomorrow

brownsugar said:

I read Imago's threads.

Makes me feel like Frank Sinatra.

I can't get rid of it, it's always there so I just try to live with it.

As for trying to feel better for a bit, I usually feel a bit better when I get male attention (ya, ya...I know. How pathetic.) but it's fleeting because after the fact I think about how terrible I looked while I was with them, how they must have thought I was a beast, etc...and then I feel even worse.

JustErin said:

yep, that pretty much sums it up.

jerseykrs said:

I feel even more insecure when I send a happy news orgnote and it gets ignored.

brownsugar said:

Have meaningless sex with anyone who's interested.

brownsugar said:

One of my biggest insecurities is when people ask me a question then leave before I can give an 'em answer.

2the9s said:

I don't have a ton of insecurities.

I have a bit of insecurity over my body/looks, though a whole lot less than I used to. Making sure that I'm taking really good care of myself and spending a little extra time on the girly shit that I usually don't put a lot of energy into -- hair, makeup, nails, that kind of thing -- can help if I'm having a bad day in that department.

I guess. . . sometimes I feel like a huge pain in the ass. I'm really very sensitive in some ways, and very emotional, and out in the world I have to kinda keep that on a shelf a lot of the time to be ok, but with the people who deal with that part of me (see how I think of it as "dealing with"? ), I sometimes fear that it's a bit overwhelming. Even the people who I know damn good and well love me BECAUSE of who/how I am in that sense. Just existing in an authentic way can feel like a big bad thing sometimes. It's probably why I like to spend a lot of time alone.

HereToRockYourWorld said:

Next time your insecurities are flaring, let me know.

I'll tell you again how wonderful you are.

WillyWonka said:

You know what, I've had a bad day. Thanks for making it better. Really.

I fill a tub with my tears and then scream into a mirror.

It's a long term effort. The short term bandaid thing doesn't work for me. Make commitments and fulfill them. Take risks to get what you want and get support from healthy people. Pursue your dreams with integrity. Ask for what you want. Take action toward something positive. Let yourself grow and be vulnerable. Rise to the challenge that is life. Give yourself breaks.

For me, not pursuing my desires or talents leads to the biggest insecurity, a sense of betrayal. I'll just get swamped in it. Self-confidence is a lifestyle.

Once you will grow out of them, they just transmit to other areas.

Insecurities exist within our psyche for a reason. Be thankful that you actually have them.

novabrkr said:

for humility? to lead us on a search? to give us a conscience?

I have someone that knows me inside out and when i feel like that they pick me up. I am gifted to have a person like that.

Illustrator said:

sorry dude i had to pick up the kiddies

eikonoklastes said:

i think sex has very little to do with it. just makes you feel empty.

WillyWonka said:

so sweet

I drink. Nothing wrong with liquid courage...nothing wrong with it at all!

CarrieLee said:

something tells me you dont need to drink. you seem to be one of the most secure people i know (online that is )

heartbeatocean said:

For everything. We would not be even able to name objects were our self-esteem not traumatically shattered as an infant. We'll just have to carry the earliest disappointments of our lives in one form of another all through our adulthoods. Some unfortunately more severely than others.

But all three of your answers are perfect descriptions too. Especially the first and the third one. And the second one contains the promise of happiness.

i don't know

sometimes i'm feeling all good about myself and then boom! it sets in for a minute. but then it subsides. i wish i could just do away with it completely.

novabrkr said:

for compassion and empathy too

brownsugar said:

Everyone has insecurities of some kind. I have found that lately I've been a lot more ballsy, I think it's my old age

CarrieLee said:

Me too. I used to be much more neurotic and worry about my behavior and what people thought of me. Now I hardly ever care anymore. At least there are some benefits to aging.

heartbeatocean said:

It gets me laid a lot more too

Get attention from guys.

Or buy clothes.

Get my hair done or go tanning or work out.

I do these things like every day.

I'm a mess.

Drinking.

Forgot alcohol edit.
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