So, I think about having a serious relationship one of these days, hopefully sooner than later. If I decided to setle down with a man, why is it that some guys have a problem staying at home with the kids and taking care of a household? Why do some women consider a woman who wants a stay-at-home man, stupid?

Not that this may happen to me cuz I probably will end up with a woman.


Thoughts?

Stymie said:

shit i dont mind it at all,i love working but if it came down to it, hell yeah i would handle the house i dont have a problem with that at all. i'd rather the kids be at home and safe then some baby sitter or day care and not feel like they are safe.

IAintTheOne said:

Yeah, the babysitter thing is one apsect of it but, I am interested most in not being rundown and tired as hell afterwork and then come home to housework and making dinner. I guess I want to be taken care of.

Let me stress that the most important part of this is coming home to the person I love.

people think that women are stupid when they do this because it is engrained in society(eventhough this is 2007) that men should be the main bread winner. anything else and he's a loser. for me i tried this and it did not work out the way that it should have. i prefer a person who doesn't mind if we both work and handle things jointly. btw in the end it really doesn't matter what others think. what matters are two adults that are able to compromise and do what is best for them. to hell with everyone else.

brownsugar said:

Well you know me and I am not really a go by what everybody thinks type of person.

Thanks for you input, T.

i'd love to be a stay at home husband.

Stymie said:

and you know i think the hottest thing is when you come home and everything is spotless (especially those damn dishes ) and dinner is done...man o man, to hell with romantic stuff, that shit is the hottest yeah that would be nice, so i know exactly what you mean

madartista said:

Really? Oooh baby. I make enough money for both of us.

Oh, yeah. I do expect you to put out.

madartista said:

Co-Sign to that!

madartista said:

Same here. Unfortunately, my job is the one that has the insurance benefits and my wife's doesn't.

Stymie said:

pfft! of course he has to put out isn't that in the contract?

superspaceboy said:

we could do afternoon coffee! and play dates!

I'm not so sure it's a double standard any more, though. I know plenty of people who would scoff if I said I'd love to be a stay-at-home wife.
Which, I enjoy day-dreaming about, but I don't imagine it ever happening. And I'm not sure I"d actually enjoy it, when it came down to it.
And while I'd love any man who wants to take care of my home, I don't imagine myself ever making the kind of money that could support 2 people comfortably. I do ok on my own, but I can't imagine adding another person into my budget.

My brother actually stayed home with my oldest niece the first year after she was born and her mother went back to work right away. I found it absolutely wonderful, and I'm glad he had that opportunity. I can't imagine someone poo-pooing that.

madartista said:

I want in!

Stymie said:

i'd be waiting on the couch when u come home from a long day's work.

(of course, i may need some girl pointers. but i am a scorpio, so i'm sure it will come quite naturally.)

I am a stay at home Husband and Father.

Its a lot harder than going out to work. But its much more satisfying as far as staying with the Kids is concerned.

I do work part time in the evenings as well, a couple of hours most nights, but essentially I am a stay at home dude.....

TMPletz said:

and unfortunately for me, I don't have a husband to stay-at-home for!

CarrieMpls said:

Yee-haw!!!! and of course there will be shopping!!!

Stymie said:

The people I babysitt for are this way.

She went back to work, and he stayed home with the kids.

They both LOVED that arrangement.

So it does happen, but not often.

I would love to be a stay at home daddy, my work is easy done from anywhere there is a web connection so i reckon i could do the daddy thing and then when wifey comes home get a little work done.

Maybe i am an idealist but i would love to do that.

mdiver said:

You are an idealist.

It doesn't work like that Jack!

When wifey gets home shes tired, and you still in charge of the kids and makin her supper. Bitch.

SureThing said:

SureThing said:

True.

SureThing said:

Fine then dont bitch when its the other way around!

CarrieMpls said:

Have our own version of Desperate House People!

madartista said:

And borrowing cups of sugar! And that mid afternoon glass of wine after the chores are done (for those of us that don't have maids) and before the kids get home from School.

superspaceboy said:

I'm in for the shopping and the maid and the wine!

I would like to have an a stay at home husband that knows how to cook.

mdiver said:

But they have every reason to bitch about it when it's the other way around, that's the whole point!