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So my cousin asked me to chaperone her date. My 14 year old cousin called me today and asked me to chaperone her date, cause her parents are really leary about this new dude shes dating and won't let her go out with supervision. She picked me cause she says I'm her cool cousin and will not be too much of a hinderance. But this makes me feel odd. I gotta let em know later on today whether I take them out. Plus I'd have to drive them. Where does a 14 year old go out on a date, the zoo? Movies (too dark I don't want her kissing some dude in front of me!) help me! Carpenters bend wood, fletchers bend arrows, wise men fashion themselves.
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14? Isn't that a little young to be dating?  And if the parents are leary of him how come they aren't going? | |
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karmatornado said: My 14 year old cousin called me today and asked me to chaperone her date, cause her parents are really leary about this new dude shes dating and won't let her go out with supervision. She picked me cause she says I'm her cool cousin and will not be too much of a hinderance. But this makes me feel odd. I gotta let em know later on today whether I take them out. Plus I'd have to drive them. Where does a 14 year old go out on a date, the zoo? Movies (too dark I don't want her kissing some dude in front of me!) help me!
 see, that's what you're supposed to be there to STOP!!There is no perfect place
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EverSoulicious said: 14? Isn't that a little young to be dating?
And if the parents are leary of him how come they aren't going? yeah, that too.  There is no perfect place
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EverSoulicious said: 14? Isn't that a little young to be dating?
And if the parents are leary of him how come they aren't going?Cause Saturday during the day is her parents "me time" (the time those two go out to do their thing) Therefore I am defacto parentCarpenters bend wood, fletchers bend arrows, wise men fashion themselves.
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fantasyislander said: karmatornado said: My 14 year old cousin called me today and asked me to chaperone her date, cause her parents are really leary about this new dude shes dating and won't let her go out with supervision. She picked me cause she says I'm her cool cousin and will not be too much of a hinderance. But this makes me feel odd. I gotta let em know later on today whether I take them out. Plus I'd have to drive them. Where does a 14 year old go out on a date, the zoo? Movies (too dark I don't want her kissing some dude in front of me!) help me!
see, that's what you're supposed to be there to STOP!!I know that but do i say, hey I don't approve of such things! Carpenters bend wood, fletchers bend arrows, wise men fashion themselves.
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fantasyislander said: EverSoulicious said: 14? Isn't that a little young to be dating?
And if the parents are leary of him how come they aren't going? yeah, that too. Whew I thought maybe I was being a little over protecting lol I have 4 boys and they aren't allowed to date until they are 17. And when the older 2 (13 and 15 ) go out with friends their dad or I go. | |
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fantasyislander said: EverSoulicious said: 14? Isn't that a little young to be dating?
And if the parents are leary of him how come they aren't going? yeah, that too. Oh and her parents said 14 is the age she's allowed to talk to boys shes a cutie so she has not problem getting them. Carpenters bend wood, fletchers bend arrows, wise men fashion themselves.
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karmatornado said: EverSoulicious said: 14? Isn't that a little young to be dating?
And if the parents are leary of him how come they aren't going?Cause Saturday during the day is her parents "me time" (the time those two go out to do their thing) Therefore I am defacto parentI understand the "me" time, every couple should go on dates to keep the love and "lust" alive. But I still want to be there when my child went on a "date". But that is just me  | |
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fantasyislander said: karmatornado said: My 14 year old cousin called me today and asked me to chaperone her date, cause her parents are really leary about this new dude shes dating and won't let her go out with supervision. She picked me cause she says I'm her cool cousin and will not be too much of a hinderance. But this makes me feel odd. I gotta let em know later on today whether I take them out. Plus I'd have to drive them. Where does a 14 year old go out on a date, the zoo? Movies (too dark I don't want her kissing some dude in front of me!) help me!
see, that's what you're supposed to be there to STOP!!LOL but he's the cool guy,she probably thinks he'll let her smooch. "Nobody makes me bleed my own blood...NOBODY!"
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EverSoulicious said: karmatornado said: Cause Saturday during the day is her parents "me time" (the time those two go out to do their thing) Therefore I am defacto parentI understand the "me" time, every couple should go on dates to keep the love and "lust" alive. But I still want to be there when my child went on a "date". But that is just me Karma, maybe your cousin shouldn't date during her parents' "us" time. It really puts you in a difficult position. My daughter will be 14 in May   She's not allowed to "date" but she does have boys that are friends. Her dad and I are there every step of the way. Will we know 100% of what she does? No, but not for lack of effort!
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ThreadCula said: fantasyislander said: see, that's what you're supposed to be there to STOP!!LOL but he's the cool guy,she probably thinks he'll let her smooch. None of that for me. I will let them hold hands and hug, but if they try and kiss they better run as far away from me as quick as they can or I will regulate. Carpenters bend wood, fletchers bend arrows, wise men fashion themselves.
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Nothinbutjoy said: EverSoulicious said: I understand the "me" time, every couple should go on dates to keep the love and "lust" alive. But I still want to be there when my child went on a "date". But that is just me Karma, maybe your cousin shouldn't date during her parents' "us" time. It really puts you in a difficult position. My daughter will be 14 in May She's not allowed to "date" but she does have boys that are friends. Her dad and I are there every step of the way. Will we know 100% of what she does? No, but not for lack of effort!
Your right, but heres the thing, I would rather have her in my presence than sneaking around, you get what I mean. When I was 14 i would always find crafty ways to meet up with the young ladies! Carpenters bend wood, fletchers bend arrows, wise men fashion themselves.
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karmatornado said: Nothinbutjoy said: Karma, maybe your cousin shouldn't date during her parents' "us" time. It really puts you in a difficult position. My daughter will be 14 in May She's not allowed to "date" but she does have boys that are friends. Her dad and I are there every step of the way. Will we know 100% of what she does? No, but not for lack of effort!
Your right, but heres the thing, I would rather have her in my presence than sneaking around, you get what I mean. When I was 14 i would always find crafty ways to meet up with the young ladies! | |
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karmatornado said: fantasyislander said: see, that's what you're supposed to be there to STOP!!I know that but do i say, hey I don't approve of such things! i chaperoned for my sister and have chaperoned for others in the past. it's easy, just say "i want to see some space between you two NOW!!" and if they don't comply just wedge yourself between them. they'll get the hint. 
"chapped" just didn't look right.  [Edited 1/26/07 14:49pm] There is no perfect place
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karmatornado said: Nothinbutjoy said: Karma, maybe your cousin shouldn't date during her parents' "us" time. It really puts you in a difficult position. My daughter will be 14 in May She's not allowed to "date" but she does have boys that are friends. Her dad and I are there every step of the way. Will we know 100% of what she does? No, but not for lack of effort!
Your right, but heres the thing, I would rather have her in my presence than sneaking around, you get what I mean. When I was 14 i would always find crafty ways to meet up with the young ladies! Kids are sneaky that is for sure. BRATS!!!! j/k 
All in all this is a good situation. If her parents are okay with you doing this, go for it. It's obvious that you have her best interest at heart and your goal is to protect her (not only from the "questionable" new boyfriend but from her 14 yo hormones as well )
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Good luck Chris | |
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EverSoulicious said: Good luck Chris
Yes I need it. I will need it for the years to come as I am defacto big brother in a house of girls! lol Carpenters bend wood, fletchers bend arrows, wise men fashion themselves.
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karmatornado said: EverSoulicious said: Good luck Chris
Yes I need it. I will need it for the years to come as I am defacto big brother in a house of girls! lol My prayers are with you hun   | |
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karmatornado said: EverSoulicious said: Good luck Chris
Yes I need it. I will need it for the years to come as I am defacto big brother in a house of girls! lol  "Nobody makes me bleed my own blood...NOBODY!"
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Which leads to the following where do i take them! Carpenters bend wood, fletchers bend arrows, wise men fashion themselves.
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karmatornado said: Which leads to the following where do i take them!
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A movie? Rollerskating? ummmm church?  | |
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evenstar3 said: karmatornado said: Which leads to the following where do i take them!
they don't get to decide? Wll if I'm driving who should decide? Carpenters bend wood, fletchers bend arrows, wise men fashion themselves.
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EverSoulicious said: A movie? Rollerskating?
ummmm church? Yes we shall go to mass. Thoses who pray together stay together! lol Carpenters bend wood, fletchers bend arrows, wise men fashion themselves.
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karmatornado said: EverSoulicious said: A movie? Rollerskating?
ummmm church? Yes we shall go to mass. Thoses who pray together stay together! lol Bwwwaa HA HA!! "Nobody makes me bleed my own blood...NOBODY!"
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karmatornado said: EverSoulicious said: A movie? Rollerskating?
ummmm church? Yes we shall go to mass. Thoses who pray together stay together! lol oh my god, NOT mass! | |
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karmatornado said: EverSoulicious said: A movie? Rollerskating?
ummmm church? Yes we shall go to mass. Thoses who pray together stay together! lol that's my boy!!!!! | |
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evenstar3 said: karmatornado said: Yes we shall go to mass. Thoses who pray together stay together! lol oh my god, NOT mass! Our father, thou art in heaven, hallowed be thy name, thy kingdom come, they will be done, on earth as it is in heaven, give us this day our daily bread, and forgive those .... Thats a great way to start off a date! Carpenters bend wood, fletchers bend arrows, wise men fashion themselves.
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