ive just dipped my toe into the dangerous world of liasons with a 3rd party for lust purposes.

only its gone wrong straight away.

now i feel guilty, my stomach is churning all day (for lust only - oh what could have been!) and i want to take my mind of it but i cant. ive done this once before and the same thing happened but i never remember it feeling this bad. (i think it runs in the family)

the thinking i use to help is the feeling i have now is the feeling my partner would have (x10) if he found out (like karma). how can somebody's body effect your thinking everytime you have a moments break?

from a very twisted up spoida.

you have to tell him. you owe him that.
and hope he forgives you.


you have to be strong and not cheat. my partner cheated on me and it ended up making both of us hiv-positive.

'it runs in the family'. it has been mentioned by partners of my brothers and sisters that we are more sexually active/interested than other people they have met. by that i mean letting lust effect their mood/work/habits.

i just thought it was normal to fancy 2 or 3 people a day (i do a job where im meeting different people every day). taking it one stage further has caused the problem.

cborgman - sorry to hear that. i have had an aids test recently (and i got cheated on 13 years ago with what i found to be a very promiscuous man - it ended the relationship). i know relationships are built on trust. its difficult to live with the truth though.

spoida said:

fancy is fine, shagging is not.

if you love him, you must tell him. i know it sucks and is extremely hard to do, but it's the right thing to do.