evenstar3 said:

wait, he's probably lurking

Fauxie said:

maybe. let's not feed his ego anymore.

SammiJ said:

But it is just how they are. It's something you have to learn and get over. Seriously. You will never, ever get rid of the fantasies in their heads. And those fantasies don't mean he's any less committed to you, loves you any less, thinks you're not enough. Porn isn't cheating.

And if thjis doesn't call for 'If you can't beat 'em, join 'em!" then I don't know what does. There's all KINDS of porn out there. Start looking for the stuff you might like and then maybe you'll get it a little better. Check out erotic art. Read some well-written erotica (yes, it exists ).

JustErin said:

I'm with you!

CarrieMpls said:

Ummm- hello.....I am with you too sister!!!

JustErin said:

Exactly...depends on YOUR comfort level and finding boundaries with in your relationship.
I know I am different with different ppl that I am with. Just have to find your comfort level.
I guess some times I tend to be too understanding about stuff like that but it has not really been a problem. I just like when they are open about it and we share our fantasies and needs.

JustErin said:

I'm the only one viewing porn around here

is that bad? it makes me feel a bit pervy that he doesn't.

ZombieKitten said:

you watch porn now that makes me feel dirty .....








I like it!!!

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I LOVE watching porn!


He doesn't.

sextonseven said:

It sucks when someone points out your flaws, huh?

Well if she's not going to let me watch her lick the boots of another woman while a third one whips her, she better let me watch that at least on video.

I seriously think I look at more porn than my husband does.

emm said:

It really is. It makes no sense to allow it to come between you.

I've always wondered why porn is so popular. Sure it's exciting like when you're 15-17 y.o.
What's the fun watching it as an adult ? I'd rather be doing it.

eh, i guess i'm too nonchalant or lax about things. i just don't really care. hell i'll watch it with him . besides, i'm pretty secure as a woman and in the sex department, any fantasies about any other woman means nothing and could never in a million years stand up to the real thing

So, how many ladies no longer have boyfriends?

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

evil.

DanceWme said:

Hey, look at it this way. If you ladies are really this flipped out about this shit and you find out you are not with the right man, then I DID YOU A FAVOR!

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

i don't have any iussues with porn. unless the porn star is fourteen and unwilling. other than exploitation flicks, i guess i say whatever works

I only sort of agree.

I can't see demanding that my significant other doesn't look at porn, but I don't actually think it's unreasonable to at least have that discussion. I don't give a damn if my gf wants to look at porn, but if she asked me not to, I would respect that (with discussion).

I don't think it's crazy to see porn as a negative thing for a relationship, and to negotiate around that.

But I think if you're going to ask your SO to forego something they enjoy, you'd better be prepared to make it up to them.

HereToRockYourWorld said:

very reasonable response. I totally agree.

I think I'm on a don't ask don't tell policy